Maintenence, how much does he give you? - Page 5

AppleBlossom · Jun 3rd, 2009, 17:32 PM

Glad you have some sort of arrangement hun

One thing I have learnt though is that exes will constantly keep surprising you. But it will get old, to the point where you just expect it

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taperjeangirl · Jun 3rd, 2009, 17:35 PM

Thanks Bex xxx

Gemma1981 · Jun 6th, 2009, 13:11 PM

Hi. I left my husband 9 months ago and haven't bothered to ask him for financial support for my 3 kids. He has no job and has just finished a jail sentence for attacking my mum after I left.

There's no point me asking for money because I know I wont get it. He almost cried off having the kids this weekend because he says he has no money. I totally expect it every other week.

The main thing for me is that I want him to be there for the kids and for their visits to be routine and not just if and when he has money.

I will probably consider asking for financial help from him when I know he's earning although tbh his priorities have never been right where spending money was concerned.

xarlenex · Jun 6th, 2009, 16:27 PM

Through the CSA it is 15% of their wages for the first child, i've got a private agreement with John though, just £100, if I went through CSA i'd be geting 150..really dont know why i'm not now I think on it! xx

princess_bump · Jun 6th, 2009, 16:45 PM

after reading this thread its bloody shocking how little they contribute to there children!! my mum never received a penny from my nob of a sperm donor!

lozzy21 · Jun 7th, 2009, 08:26 AM

My dad paid £25 a week for me but paid for all of my clothes,shoes and anything i needed. My mam would ring him up and ask for £30 for a pair of shoes and he would send £60. He paid for all of my school trips and gave me my spending money. When i wanted to get my own place i asked to lend £1000, he gave me it and said i dident need to give it back.

Where as my brothers and sis dad gave her £25 for the 3 of them. He never coughes up anything. Gess what he got my sister for her 13th? ONE cd.

Always&4ever · Jun 7th, 2009, 09:10 AM

I won't be accepting any money off him

bjshooter · Jun 8th, 2009, 23:31 PM

Mine pays me nothing, he moves his money before csa can get hold of it.

amylw1 · Jun 9th, 2009, 03:51 AM

my ex is high up in a casino, he is on £20k+ a year. according to CSA i am entitled to £264 a month from him. i am lucky if i get £130 a month. they cant get anymore from him and have tried taking it direct from wages and again had no luck.

he has told the CSA that his new partner has kicked him out and wont let him see the kid so he is now paying her CSA as well - the above has been halved between us. yet the funny thing is he got his solicitor to contact mine (AFTER he told CSA they no longer together) stting that he is now in a fixed permant relationship and wants to bring his new partner and kid to meet his other son. but CSA wont believe solicitor. but on a good note he was also told that he has to re-establish contact on his own b4 bringing his new family into things as he has had no contact for just under 5yrs. he said hes not going to bother then!

i'm not a single parent but saw the thread.

xxannxx · Jun 9th, 2009, 07:58 AM

My ex and I had a private arrangement for while but was always excuse after excuse as to why couldn't get money when it was due or full amount. Now after almost a year of getting nothing at all, I have recently applied to CSA to collect money on my behalf. I don't know how much I will get yet, but I know that it'll be more useful than the big fat 0 I get now.

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AppleBlossom Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Liverpool, UK Posts: 25,860	Glad you have some sort of arrangement hun One thing I have learnt though is that exes will constantly keep surprising you. But it will get old, to the point where you just expect it big

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taperjeangirl Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 9,828	Thanks Bex xxx

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Gemma1981 Mum (Mom) New BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Mansfield, Nottingham Posts: 6	Hi. I left my husband 9 months ago and haven't bothered to ask him for financial support for my 3 kids. He has no job and has just finished a jail sentence for attacking my mum after I left. There's no point me asking for money because I know I wont get it. He almost cried off having the kids this weekend because he says he has no money. I totally expect it every other week. The main thing for me is that I want him to be there for the kids and for their visits to be routine and not just if and when he has money. I will probably consider asking for financial help from him when I know he's earning although tbh his priorities have never been right where spending money was concerned.

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xarlenex Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Bonny Scotland :) Posts: 3,339	Through the CSA it is 15% of their wages for the first child, i've got a private agreement with John though, just £100, if I went through CSA i'd be geting 150..really dont know why i'm not now I think on it! xx

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Jun 6th, 2009, 16:45 PM	#45
princess_bump Mum (Mom) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: England Posts: 31,453	after reading this thread its bloody shocking how little they contribute to there children!! my mum never received a penny from my nob of a sperm donor!

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Jun 7th, 2009, 08:26 AM	#46
lozzy21 Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Teesside, Posts: 19,440	My dad paid £25 a week for me but paid for all of my clothes,shoes and anything i needed. My mam would ring him up and ask for £30 for a pair of shoes and he would send £60. He paid for all of my school trips and gave me my spending money. When i wanted to get my own place i asked to lend £1000, he gave me it and said i dident need to give it back. Where as my brothers and sis dad gave her £25 for the 3 of them. He never coughes up anything. Gess what he got my sister for her 13th? ONE cd.

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Jun 7th, 2009, 09:10 AM	#47
Always&4ever Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Stoke-on-Trent Posts: 9,507	I won't be accepting any money off him

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Jun 8th, 2009, 23:31 PM	#48
bjshooter Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 372	Mine pays me nothing, he moves his money before csa can get hold of it.

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Jun 9th, 2009, 03:51 AM	#49
amylw1 Other BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: peterborough Posts: 2,684	my ex is high up in a casino, he is on £20k+ a year. according to CSA i am entitled to £264 a month from him. i am lucky if i get £130 a month. they cant get anymore from him and have tried taking it direct from wages and again had no luck. he has told the CSA that his new partner has kicked him out and wont let him see the kid so he is now paying her CSA as well - the above has been halved between us. yet the funny thing is he got his solicitor to contact mine (AFTER he told CSA they no longer together) stting that he is now in a fixed permant relationship and wants to bring his new partner and kid to meet his other son. but CSA wont believe solicitor. but on a good note he was also told that he has to re-establish contact on his own b4 bringing his new family into things as he has had no contact for just under 5yrs. he said hes not going to bother then! i'm not a single parent but saw the thread.

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Jun 9th, 2009, 07:58 AM	#50
xxannxx Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 151	My ex and I had a private arrangement for while but was always excuse after excuse as to why couldn't get money when it was due or full amount. Now after almost a year of getting nothing at all, I have recently applied to CSA to collect money on my behalf. I don't know how much I will get yet, but I know that it'll be more useful than the big fat 0 I get now.

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