Maintenence, how much does he give you? - Page 4

MissEfendi · May 30th, 2009, 05:28 AM

I just did the calculator online and it did say about benefits:

The weekly amount of child maintenance is approximately: £81
If you're claiming income-related benefits and you receive child maintenance, you may not receive the full amount of benefits from Jobcentre Plus. You are allowed to keep up to £20 per week of child maintenance before it affects your benefits. By law, if you claim benefits you must tell Jobcentre Plus about any child maintenance you receive.

Jkelmum · May 30th, 2009, 13:01 PM

Jakes dad pays 158 a month
Katies dad pays 68 a month
both thru csa ...if u claim thru csa u will only get the first 10 a wk if u are on bennifits x

pinkish_angel · Jun 1st, 2009, 19:38 PM

I get bugger all.. When we first split he gave me a fair bit but for the last 8 months.. not a penny. He jus says he cant afford it (even tho he is a manager in a full time job earnin about 20 grand a year). He has jus moved into a new 2 bed flat with his girlfriend half his age. Every time I threaten him with CSA he threatens me with a lot worse but Im gonna jus do it soon cuz there is no sign of a private aggrement and I have just been made redundant so cant jus let it slide anymore. why should I anyway!!. He has my daughter from 6pm saturday night till 11am sunday morning.. every two weeks and doesnt even ring her inbetween to see how she is. He handed her £8.50 on sunday to take on her hols with her. WHATS WITH THE 50p FFS!! Patronising twat!!

BlackBerry25 · Jun 1st, 2009, 20:51 PM

Fucking Men. I suggest going through the government. I just know my dad swindled his way out of paying so much. They always turn into the biggest assholes when it comes to money.

helen1234 · Jun 2nd, 2009, 18:00 PM

rosies dad gives me £20 a week he has never not paid in 12 yrs, it is crap i know but at the end of the day when rosie asks me how much he paid i'll tell her,
i give a tenner a week in dinner money.

karma comes around, last week she turned round to him and said she wasnt bothered about seeing him anymore as she just gets bored and would rather be at home with her nagging mum,
we are always going places so think she just gets bored.

he was the bloke who said, i'd never acheive anthing without him, never get a job or career, never have any money, never find anyone better than him

he said when rosie turned 16 she'd beg to live with him lmao.
i have never ever said a bad word against him in front of her.

in your face asshole, is what i'm thinking

AppleBlossom · Jun 2nd, 2009, 18:09 PM

p.s I did tell Jason he didn't pay enough and he said he actually pays me MORE than he should plus he has only finished paying for the bills left over from when he left and it was just me living in the flat before I moved out so he is being generous. To be honest, I don't want his money. I'm ok on the £160, it's only on his conscience.

Did you manage to sort out with him hun?

lauraperrysan · Jun 2nd, 2009, 20:07 PM

just been reading your thread and realising how men seemn to have a pattern!! fortunately my daughters 'father' pays me £257.00 month and that 15% of his earning thro the csa. i get it all as i work which is great. but he has never seen her once, not even a picture and she is 2 and a half. Unfortunately somethings money cant buy...... xx

starbucks101 · Jun 3rd, 2009, 05:44 AM

Not a penny, never has, CSA been chasing for 17 months. He refuses to see his daughter either...

DizzyMoo · Jun 3rd, 2009, 16:05 PM

When my sons dad worked he earned around £270-£300 a wk & paid £40 to the csa of which i got £10 because im on benefits the rest actually goes to the government for paying my rent, tax & income support. The rate has now gone up & if you dont work you now get £20 a wk, If you can sort it between you then do but be aware if the income support find out he is paying you privately or how much they will deduct it from your income support ..so say he pays you £40 a wk , income support would deduct £20 off you as you are allowed the 1st £20 if that makes sense.

My sons dad soon realised he could job hop & pay naff all so has only ever paid around 6mths of payments, Then nothing since

taperjeangirl · Jun 3rd, 2009, 17:30 PM

Oh my god, why are men such tossers?!! You think they would want to pay for their kids to have better lives, bloody idiots!

I have semi sorted something out with EX.... he will carry on paying my Sky,Phone & Internet and house insurances (they come out of his bank already) Now we have to agree on how much else he will give me a week.

he does seem to be ok with it for now, but by reading all these posts it might not stick, I wouldnt like to think of him being like that but he has surprised me on quite a few things lately so we will wait and see .

May 30th, 2009, 05:28 AM	#31
MissEfendi Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: London Posts: 100	I just did the calculator online and it did say about benefits: The weekly amount of child maintenance is approximately: £81 If you're claiming income-related benefits and you receive child maintenance, you may not receive the full amount of benefits from Jobcentre Plus. You are allowed to keep up to £20 per week of child maintenance before it affects your benefits. By law, if you claim benefits you must tell Jobcentre Plus about any child maintenance you receive.

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May 30th, 2009, 13:01 PM	#32
Jkelmum Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: In my own bubble Posts: 17,575	Jakes dad pays 158 a month Katies dad pays 68 a month both thru csa ...if u claim thru csa u will only get the first 10 a wk if u are on bennifits x

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Jun 1st, 2009, 19:38 PM	#33
pinkish_angel Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2007 Posts: 4,102	I get bugger all.. When we first split he gave me a fair bit but for the last 8 months.. not a penny. He jus says he cant afford it (even tho he is a manager in a full time job earnin about 20 grand a year). He has jus moved into a new 2 bed flat with his girlfriend half his age. Every time I threaten him with CSA he threatens me with a lot worse but Im gonna jus do it soon cuz there is no sign of a private aggrement and I have just been made redundant so cant jus let it slide anymore. why should I anyway!!. He has my daughter from 6pm saturday night till 11am sunday morning.. every two weeks and doesnt even ring her inbetween to see how she is. He handed her £8.50 on sunday to take on her hols with her. WHATS WITH THE 50p FFS!! Patronising twat!!

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Jun 1st, 2009, 20:51 PM	#34
BlackBerry25 Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Canada Posts: 15,180	Fucking Men. I suggest going through the government. I just know my dad swindled his way out of paying so much. They always turn into the biggest assholes when it comes to money.

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Jun 2nd, 2009, 18:00 PM	#35
helen1234 Trying to conceive (TTC) BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Dudley Posts: 7,833	rosies dad gives me £20 a week he has never not paid in 12 yrs, it is crap i know but at the end of the day when rosie asks me how much he paid i'll tell her, i give a tenner a week in dinner money. karma comes around, last week she turned round to him and said she wasnt bothered about seeing him anymore as she just gets bored and would rather be at home with her nagging mum, we are always going places so think she just gets bored. he was the bloke who said, i'd never acheive anthing without him, never get a job or career, never have any money, never find anyone better than him he said when rosie turned 16 she'd beg to live with him lmao. i have never ever said a bad word against him in front of her. in your face asshole, is what i'm thinking

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Jun 2nd, 2009, 18:09 PM	#36
AppleBlossom Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Liverpool, UK Posts: 25,860	p.s I did tell Jason he didn't pay enough and he said he actually pays me MORE than he should plus he has only finished paying for the bills left over from when he left and it was just me living in the flat before I moved out so he is being generous. To be honest, I don't want his money. I'm ok on the £160, it's only on his conscience. Did you manage to sort out with him hun?

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Jun 2nd, 2009, 20:07 PM	#37
lauraperrysan Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Dorset Posts: 1,882	just been reading your thread and realising how men seemn to have a pattern!! fortunately my daughters 'father' pays me £257.00 month and that 15% of his earning thro the csa. i get it all as i work which is great. but he has never seen her once, not even a picture and she is 2 and a half. Unfortunately somethings money cant buy...... xx

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Jun 3rd, 2009, 05:44 AM	#38
starbucks101 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Norfolk Posts: 1,033	Not a penny, never has, CSA been chasing for 17 months. He refuses to see his daughter either...

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Jun 3rd, 2009, 16:05 PM	#39
DizzyMoo Mum (Mom) Inactive Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 5,902	When my sons dad worked he earned around £270-£300 a wk & paid £40 to the csa of which i got £10 because im on benefits the rest actually goes to the government for paying my rent, tax & income support. The rate has now gone up & if you dont work you now get £20 a wk, If you can sort it between you then do but be aware if the income support find out he is paying you privately or how much they will deduct it from your income support ..so say he pays you £40 a wk , income support would deduct £20 off you as you are allowed the 1st £20 if that makes sense. My sons dad soon realised he could job hop & pay naff all so has only ever paid around 6mths of payments, Then nothing since

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Jun 3rd, 2009, 17:30 PM	#40
taperjeangirl Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 9,828	Oh my god, why are men such tossers?!! You think they would want to pay for their kids to have better lives, bloody idiots! I have semi sorted something out with EX.... he will carry on paying my Sky,Phone & Internet and house insurances (they come out of his bank already) Now we have to agree on how much else he will give me a week. he does seem to be ok with it for now, but by reading all these posts it might not stick, I wouldnt like to think of him being like that but he has surprised me on quite a few things lately so we will wait and see .

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