So I'm going to ask a bit of a naive question now...hoping all you single mummys can give me some advice!

How do single mums cope?

For example- I don't think I'd want to or be able to leave my baby on it's own for 1 second in the first few months...so if I need the loo or a shower etc, what would I do?

For those jobs that need more than one pair of hands- like bathing for example, how do you cope?

I know I'll have my mum around every now and then but she won't be around 24/7. Is it really tough?

Im wondering the same question, but with regards to the bath, get the foam bath support i've heard that helps and i've got one, well buying it on friday

Im kinda lucky because im still living with my parents but i dont think i wanna leave her alone for a second xxx

yeah i wana know too. I admire all of you that do it on ur own its hard enough with two of us
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It is hard. If you want a shower take a bouncy chair or something into the bathroom and stick your LO in, that way they can watch you and you can keep an eye on them. It is difficult when everyday things become so hard to do but you get used to it and it all works out usually!

Thats a really good question, I would like to know about these too. I mean I wont be completely on my own as I am living with my parents now but I dont want to have to rely on them too much.

Hello ladies, I was a single mum to my son & tbh the things you mention are not that hard . Firstly bathing a baby does not take 2 pair of hands it takes a good positioning of one arm eg ... babys head up near your elbow with your hand running down the back to the bum OR you can buy a bath support which i also did then the baby can lie on it & you have 2 hands free.

When i wanted a bath or shower, If baby was awake then i'd happily take him upstairs with me into the bathroom on his bean bag or in his bouncer or car seat whichever he was either in or was most handy. If he was asleep as my bathroom was next door to my bedroom i put him inside his travel cot & had my shower, More oftem than not though i waited til he'd had a decent feed & drifted asleep then i could relax knowing he wouldn't be waking til say another hour or whatever. If you need the loo just go, Again i made sure he was strapped in a seat or bouncer etc or moses, then just went to the loo. A quick run upstairs ,pants down , pee & your off . All in what 90 seconds ? lol Trust me though when they are asleep you realise you can nip up to the loo, its only the same as being in the kitchen or next room I actually found it easier than what i was expecting but everyone is different.
Im preg with no2 & looks like me & the boyf wont make it through together so ill have a newborn & a 4yr old .. All im worrying about is making sure my then 4yr old doesnt feel pushed out

Yeah im living with mine as well, and they are happy to help, but i wanna do it mostly allon my own, but its nice to know someone is there for me though xxx

Oh thats brilliant advice, Dizzymoo, i hope your and your OH do manage to get through it, but you seem a very strong person,so your do fine xxx

I have looked after my son on my own since he was 8 weeks old and if you dont know any different then its not hard! You just get on and do it all! Take them in the bathroom with you his swinging chair was one of my best investments now he is a bit older I often leave him in his cot with a few toys while I do something. As long as you prepare everything in advance and are organised then nothing is a challenge x

well i have 4 children and on my own itend to have my bath/shower when they all alseep in the evening i find it easier, and i guess every day to day things you kinda work round your children in the end you do find a routine xx

Thanks tinkabells hun i hope we sort it too but ya know how stubborn men get *humph* lol