Hi Everyone or Anyone Reading this!

I'm new to this and am kind of looking for friends who are in the same category as me. As my very fertile and lucky friends don't really understand and feel a little awkward around the whole conception not happening thing, makes things a little lonely sometimes but I see their point and adore their bundles of joy regardless. I adore my little boy and it really pulls my heart strings when he asks why he doesn't have a brother

I have been ttc for 3yrs. I'm secondary whereas my dh is primary and because of this we aren't able to get nhs help in our postcode, so after 3 years we have finally given in and have an appointment with a consultant this coming weds. I'm so excited at the prospect he may be able to help but scared in case we get news of being beyond help apart from the expensive ivf, iui, icsi types of help which may mean we only get one shot in the short term(Am desperately trying to think positively)
We have given up just about everything we can think of, done plenty of the obvious, improved our lifestyles no end and are still desperately waiting for our turn I guess!

So if anyone is going through this part or has any advice I'd really like to hear from you as I have very little idea what to expect from this point in!
Any questions I should be asking our consultant would be good too as I know my sieve of a brain will fail on weds probably fail me!

xx

Hey hubby and I are sort of in this boat too. I had a tubal reversal in Dec 08 and was left with one fixed tube. Hubby also has low count so of course that doesnt help. We had an Hsg a few weeks back and the tube is clear but we have been trying for what seems forever and still nothing. Doce said give it til Jan and then we will go onto another step. My email is blueskies98990@aol.com

Hi welcome. I am Tina. I have been TTC #3 for a loong time - since Dec 2007, but we didn't use birth control for a year before that. Anyways, I did get pregnant three times since then, but miscarried them all. I have had ALL the tests, sugery, you name it. I have used fertility drugs, etc. Then, last month they decided to test DH, and voila! He has only 3% normal sperm which can cause infertility and recurrent m/c. Read my journal if you are interested, and let me know if you have any questions, or want support. We see the FS again on Dec. 4th.

Hi Bumbleby,

I am brand new to this site, well, any site. Our story's are so similar. I have an almost 4 year old son and I have been ttc #2 for over a year now. In two weeks we go to a fertility clinic and although I am excited about the next step, I am nervous for the unknown. Why we aren't getting pregnant. Ya know?

It is such a crazy feeling when trying to talk to other people that don't understand what your going through. People think that because I have 1 child that it must be something that we are or aren't doing to get the next one. Cleaned up our life to no end!! lol. just like you. Tried every position, switching from am to pm, OPK test, cm watching and evaluating, taking vitamins, and we even went as far as a romantic getaway. And.......NOTHING!!!!!

Over a year of disappointment and now I see a little hope. I am hoping this is a start down a new road.

Good luck to you, keep us posted on your visit if you don't mind. I'd love to hear how it went.

******BABYDUST******to you!!!!

-Mandy

Hi Ya Mandy!

Sorry only just realised you posted, have been a little ocd during my 2ww symptom spotting, poas aholic u name it!

How did ur visit to specialist go? Fx for you and your

Has been a strange month! Had first ever ov bleed, first month I hav used opk which went positive 12 hours after ov bleed so that part looks good! Still think am out this month cos feels like run up to af but one can only keep trying

Am thru first part of 2ww am in the build up now can poas in 2 days whoop whoop! Got so bad this month that I just wanna know, have little faith that I caught this time!! Is anyone else testing this week?

Got my bloods back too and things look really good was day 4 instead of 3 but its all positive so just have to wait until 16th to see dr and see how dh sa got on as to what we are going to do next. Funny thing is now we r doing something it feels like everything takes so long (Compared to 3 years trying fruitlessly)

Would be great to hear how you got on and if I can help or you just need a chat let me know am on here quite alot these days lol! xxx

Hey Jasmak

Good luck for 4th, sure u will be fine tis dh birfday! Poor dude has to perform in a pot on the 3rd.Tmi and not what most people do to celebrate

Hope it all goes well, let us know how you get on hun

xxx

Thanks, will do. I don't feel sorry for my DH, it is really the least he can do, and the only thing he has to do...and NOTHING compared to what I have done. LOL! Yeah, excited but also nervous about Friday's appointment.

Update!!

got me again this month, turned out to be a 36 day-er which is a first as am usually a straight 33! Randoms but looks like I'm gonna be right through christmas not sure if there is much point really in light of the following....

We just got our sa results back and they are not good at all
We have lots & lots of little but unfortunately they are quite a slow abnormal shaped bunch of fellas. Words used by specialist is suboptimal result and to seek fertility assistance. Haven't even finished my tests yet so wonder if they will bother or if we skip straight to the assisted section? Makes sense though after 3 years of trying something has to be going wrong! Does anyone know if this is something that can be helped or is it just what it is?

Poor hubby is feeling quite bad at the moment think he feels his masculinity has been stripped a little
Did try to warn hubby that it would be emotional for us both and that one or both of us would have to brave the fact our bodies & nature have failed us for no good reason, just seems so much harder when it happens. Was near in tears when telling my sil just feels so unfair especially when there are people out there who are terrible people who don't deserve kids and they can pop them out willy nilly like paedo nursery worker, rapists and child abusers! It is a severely whacked world we live in which makes me wonder if the big man upstairs really does have his eye on the ball.