http://www.babyandbump.com/ Chat and get advice about postnatal issues (Healing, PND, checkups etc). en Fri, 10 Feb 2012 05:53:39 GMT vBulletin 60 http://www.babyandbump.com/images/bnb2/misc/rss.jpg http://www.babyandbump.com/ http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/875564-its-all-too-much-o.html Wed, 08 Feb 2012 10:16:28 GMT My baby girl is nearly 6wks old - Since having her ive felt mainly sheer terror and fear and that ive made the biggest mistake in my life - I dont... My baby girl is nearly 6wks old - Since having her ive felt mainly sheer terror and fear and that ive made the biggest mistake in my life - I dont feel like I love her, more like im just doing whats needed and praying she would just eat and sleep! Shes beautiful, shes not even a particularly bad baby but Im worrying about everything - How to cut her nails, how much to use her dummy, is she too hot/cold, why she is crying..... I mean EVERYTHING is worrying me, I feel sick and teary all the time and then start thinking I dont want her (I would never see anything bad happen to her I promise) But when she wakes up I dont even know what to do with her, we have no routine at all because i dont have the tiniest clue as to what im supposed to do and when, she lies in her moses basket looking around and I feel guilty that I should have her out and do something with her! I was starting to feel more confident but then the dreaded MIL has started her evil campaign against us again...... We fell out when I fell pregnant and shes threatened me with social services, to kill me, emailed all my family and friends telling them I hated them etc etc oh and posts all sorts on FB about me doing drugs and stuff which is all bullshit but people can read all that and then I have to hear about it from them which is devastating - She says she wont stop until I lose everything and I cant take it anymore, oh and im in debt up to my eyeballs - I feel that its maybe the stress of months of abuse and harassment from her thats making me feel like this but i dont know - Im a natural worrier but this is going too far now, I can cry in a second and feel like I want to run away :( xx ]]> Postnatal Support winbig82 http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/875564-its-all-too-much-o.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/875375-soon-can-u-get-pregnant-again.html Wed, 08 Feb 2012 01:15:17 GMT My son was born 13jan and I breast fed for.2 wks how soon could I get pregi again? Me and hubby slipped up ekk My son was born 13jan and I breast fed for.2 wks how soon could I get pregi again?

Me and hubby slipped up ekk ]]> Postnatal Support blessfull http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/875375-soon-can-u-get-pregnant-again.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/874249-rectal-bleeding-12weeks-pp.html Mon, 06 Feb 2012 22:18:11 GMT Did anyone else have this and it turned out to not be a big deal? I've always had a couple of drops of blood after a constipated stool (TMI sorry) but my doc said it was to be expected and strictly asked me to avoid constipation( at 6week check-up). Today morning while wiping the tissue was soaked with blood after a BM . Now I've again seen some blood, just a little bit and I am wondering if I have anal fissures or something. I am quite concerned about having surgery etc.. Anyone else? ]]> Postnatal Support skris4 http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/874249-rectal-bleeding-12weeks-pp.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/874133-deleted-user.html Mon, 06 Feb 2012 20:00:14 GMT Deleted post Deleted post ]]> Postnatal Support seoj http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/874133-deleted-user.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/873916-help-bleeding-normal.html Mon, 06 Feb 2012 16:34:06 GMT I'm a bit worried. I'm 10 days PP and I had a difficult birth that required a vacuum delivery and an episiotomy. After the birth I bled the usual kind of amount for the first day or so but then it tapered off to next to nothing. Bleeding was not bright red anymore.

I have been pretty much confined since the birth, but caus I have been starting to feel better I have been up and about at home more. Though not doing very much, no housework or anything. Just holding baby, changing him and feeding him sitting up.

Well today I have started to bleed red blood again and the flow is heavy. Has this happened to anyone else? Is it normal? Or because I'vebeen so confined and my activity levels have increased slightly?

Any advice or experience would be great. ]]> Postnatal Support Willo http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/873916-help-bleeding-normal.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/872972-foul-vaginal-odor-4-days-pp.html Sun, 05 Feb 2012 16:25:43 GMT Hi everyone,

I gave birth to my daughter on Feb 2, via a vaginal delivery. I ended up with a 2nd-degree tear that my midwife said was "all over the place." Well, two days ago I found one of my stitches in my sanitary pad, and when the midwife checked me over at the hospital she said they're not supposed to come out that soon, and to be on the lookout for any signs of infection. Well, since last night I've noticed I smell AWFUL down there--my DH noticed it, too--even just sitting here in my pajamas I can smell myself. Everything looks ok to me in the pad--just red and pale brownish blood--but the smell is disgusting, sort of like old garbage. Have any of you experienced this?? I was going to call my midwife to schedule an appt on Monday anyway, but I'm wondering if I need to call their on-call line and let them know what's going on. I don't really want a trip to the ER with a newborn baby, though, so I was hoping to find out if any of you thought this might be normal...

Thank you! :flower: ]]> Postnatal Support MillieJoan http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/872972-foul-vaginal-odor-4-days-pp.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/872877-worried-get-pnd-bad.html Sun, 05 Feb 2012 14:25:31 GMT I'm currently pregnant. I'm Bipolar and have been off my meds altogether because of the pregnancy. I've had a lot of stress to deal with throughout pregnancy, and sometimes feel the pressure quite a bit.

I've read, and been warned, that the probability of me getting PND is a huge percentage higher because of my Bipolar.

I've already decided, with my doctors complete support, not to breastfeed, so as I can go straight back on my meds after the baby is born, but I am still so worried that it will hit me hard and I won't be able to cope.

Has anyone else been in a similar situation?
And what are the things I need to be aware of that flag up PND as opposed to baby blues?

Obviously my doctor has advised me of certain things, but would prefer hearing first hand experiences rather than text book theories if that makes sense?

Thanks in advance :hugs: ]]> Postnatal Support jambermush http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/872877-worried-get-pnd-bad.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/872692-7-month-pp-bleeding-3-week.html Sun, 05 Feb 2012 08:28:03 GMT I had a 3rd dwgree tear but have been for 6 month check and everything has healed perfectly but about 2 month ago I started on citlopram the pill... I had a 3rd dwgree tear but have been for 6 month check and everything has healed perfectly but about 2 month ago I started on citlopram the pill where you take it all the time and you dont have a period but you can have little bleeds so when I started bleeding insight thing anything of it but now it has been at least 3 week do you think I should go to the doctors or giv it a little long n c what happens? X ]]> Postnatal Support starlight1 http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/872692-7-month-pp-bleeding-3-week.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/872392-still-bleeding-period.html Sat, 04 Feb 2012 20:32:33 GMT on wednesday i noticed my bleeding from birth had stopped :happydance: but saturday morning (today) went to toilet and im bleeding again :cry:and its... on wednesday i noticed my bleeding from birth had stopped :happydance: but saturday morning (today) went to toilet and im bleeding again :cry:and its like a usual period amount of blood and colour as before it stopped on wednesday it was orange for about a week.. is it possible this could be my period? ]]> Postnatal Support JLFx3 http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/872392-still-bleeding-period.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/872331-6-months-after-giving-birth-back-pain-bloated.html Sat, 04 Feb 2012 19:18:51 GMT My LO is now 6 months old. About 3 weeks ago I started getting this awful pain at the bottom of my back and I've had it everyday since, somedays worse than others. My stomach has also gone very bloated since this started and I actually look pregnant again! Even my mum pointed out how noticable my stomach has become compared to the rest of me. And she mentioned something about cysts? But I don't have a clue. I am def not preg as I'm just off AF!

I'm just wondering has anyone else had this?! Or heard of it. I know it might not even be preg related but I have always had problems with AF, ttc and even some during giving birth so it just seems most likely to be related!

Any advice anyone?! ]]> Postnatal Support Barnesmaries http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/872331-6-months-after-giving-birth-back-pain-bloated.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/871860-my-c-section-scar-burns-normal.html Sat, 04 Feb 2012 02:20:56 GMT It doesn't burn all the time, just when I either overdo it, or move the wrong way. When it does burn, it burns to the point where I am or am almost screaming in pain.

It feels like nerve pain. Could it be? If it's not normal, I'll call my doctor. If it is normal, do you know when it will end?

My son is currently in the NICU. My section was exactly one week ago. I was discharged from the hospital after 48 hours. This is how it went, so you have an idea of my activity level, as I'm not sure if that affects pain.

Friday--C-section
Saturday--in hospital
Sunday--discharged around 7 p.m.
Monday--At hospital visiting son in nicu from 9a.m. til 9p.m.
Tuesday--At hospital visiting son in nicu from 9a.m. til 6:30 p.m.
Wednesday--At hospital visiting son in nicu from 9a.m. til 6:30 p.m.
Thursday--At hospital visiting son in nicu from 9a.m. til 6:30 p.m.
Friday--At hospital visiting son in nicu from 9a.m. til 6:30 p.m.

I end up home and settled by 8 p.m., since the hospital is about an hour away. Nurses keep telling me I need a rest, but I just can't because I need to see him. He should be home in maybe three weeks--longest 6 weeks (possibly two months). Ugh. He will be fine though, thank God.

Anyway, sorry for going on and on. I'm not sure if this pain is normal or if it's b/c I'm doing a lot.

Thanks...lots of hugs:hugs2:

JB ]]> Postnatal Support _jellybean_ http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/871860-my-c-section-scar-burns-normal.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/871851-pains-lady-garden.html Sat, 04 Feb 2012 01:48:27 GMT Hey ladies.
Hoping someone can help...

I gave birth 8 days ago...vaginal delivery and third degree tear.
Pain isn't too bad.

The past 2 days though I have been getting a ...tightening...sensation within my vagina. I can't exactly explain it but it is like occasional throbbing sensations throughout the hour. I am also having issues constantly peeing...when I need the bathroom I have to really think about the muscle and concentrate and even then it takes several attempts of stopping and starting to finally empty...but I have been having this one since I gave birth so I assume it is normal.

The throbbing pain...what is this please? ]]> Postnatal Support ovetta2001 http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/871851-pains-lady-garden.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/871837-emotions-please-help.html Sat, 04 Feb 2012 01:10:58 GMT Deleted Deleted ]]> Postnatal Support Shansam http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/871837-emotions-please-help.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/870233-finding-all-overwhelming.html Thu, 02 Feb 2012 12:37:31 GMT I am less than a week on from the birth of my 3rd child and to be honest I feel like I'm falling apart at times. The whole healing process is scaring me, more than it ever did with my previous 2.

I think part of it was caus I had a difficult birth and ended up with an episiotomy. Some of it is because I also had severe piles before the birth which is an on going issue. I find it hard to sit and am scared I'm going to damage myself all the time.

I worry about everything really, bleeding, healing, sitting, hurting, feeding.... The list is endless. It gets so overwhelming sometimes that all I can do is cry.

How long before I start to feel better? ]]> Postnatal Support Willo http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/870233-finding-all-overwhelming.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/869956-pains-really-worried.html Thu, 02 Feb 2012 03:41:52 GMT hey everyone, i have been getting a throbbing pain every so often on my lower abdomen, i gave birth 3 weeks ago, and this started about 1 week ago. ... hey everyone, i have been getting a throbbing pain every so often on my lower abdomen, i gave birth 3 weeks ago, and this started about 1 week ago.
and last night i woke up with really bad pains in my hips, top of my thighs and vagina. which wouldnt go away untill i got up and walked around, then when i went back to sleep i got woken up by it again. i thought that if this was after pains, it would of started straight away? and was wondering if anyone is experiancing anythin similar and knows what is could be?
i had a pretty much straight folward labour.
vaginal delivery, but had to have an epesiotomy.
and slight tearing but nothing bad.
it all healed quickly. ]]> Postnatal Support kazer395 http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/869956-pains-really-worried.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/869734-itchy-lump-vagina-tmi-really-worried.html Wed, 01 Feb 2012 21:08:05 GMT Found it a few weeks ago. I am off to docs I'm morning but has anyone else experienced this? It's on my labia minora right side. Googled it and scared myself silly :( xx ]]> Postnatal Support Loubpop http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/869734-itchy-lump-vagina-tmi-really-worried.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/869477-need-support.html Wed, 01 Feb 2012 17:05:20 GMT I really am in need of some emotional support. I am 14 weeks post postpartum with my son, Jaxson. He was born 9 weeks early and we spent 6 weeks in... I really am in need of some emotional support. I am 14 weeks post postpartum with my son, Jaxson. He was born 9 weeks early and we spent 6 weeks in the NICU at the hospital. We are home and doing well and I am counting my blessings every single day. I can't help but find myself sad, longing for the pregnancy I had always dreamed of. I had a family member dying/die in the middle of my pregnancy, so there was not much joy from my family for my son's arrival. With my son being premature, he was not able to nurse, something I've always wanted...but I pumped everyday and I'm still trying to nurse him...its just frustrating. I also suffered a mini stroke with my preeclampsia/HELLPs and am finding myself so lost, confused and doing stupid little things..I just feel very isolated...no family members around to help us...no visitors at all. Reaching out for some sort of support.
Thank you!!
Liz ]]> Postnatal Support doxie.chi http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/869477-need-support.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/869367-loads-thick-egg-white-mucus-2-weeks-after-c-section.html Wed, 01 Feb 2012 15:00:55 GMT Please help I am worrying myself :( Had an elective c-section 2 weeks ago today, and had normal bleeding which had tapered off a couple of days ago.... Please help I am worrying myself :( Had an elective c-section 2 weeks ago today, and had normal bleeding which had tapered off a couple of days ago. However, yesterday had some fresh bleeding, and then today there's bleeding in a thick egg-white mucus which there is load of every time I wipe after going the loo. This afternoon after i'd wiped some of it (TMI - sorry) it was literally hanging from me like i'd cracked an egg! Is this normal? Should I be worried? ]]> Postnatal Support kezz_howland http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/869367-loads-thick-egg-white-mucus-2-weeks-after-c-section.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/869086-pnd-update.html Wed, 01 Feb 2012 09:20:46 GMT My mm is just after ringing me and telling me I should as my GP for something for PND. My partner and I have been having some problems with him... My mm is just after ringing me and telling me I should as my GP for something for PND.

My partner and I have been having some problems with him going out at weekends and not helping out much in the house. So yes there have been alot of tears shed by me. I do find it hard with the 2 babies at time especially when they both decide to cry at the same time. And my 1 year old has been very cheeky and bold recently so I have been flying off the handle.

But I thought I'm just been touchy because I'm tired but could it be PND?

I've just spoken to my sister and she thinks I've suffered from PND since I had Brandon nearly 2 years ago. She says that I haven't been the same since having him, that I'm moodier, more emotional and not my fun normal self.

Could this happen without me realising it?

I went to my GP and he agrees that I am suffering with PND. He has put me on Lustral. I have to visit him every month (which hopefully won't be too long). So with a bit of luck things start to pick up ]]> Postnatal Support Tantan http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/869086-pnd-update.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/868819-whos-experienced-knotted-cord.html Tue, 31 Jan 2012 22:34:51 GMT As the title says..... I was just curious as to how common this was. After my EMCS we were told this was really rare. Just what your experiences... As the title says.....

I was just curious as to how common this was. After my EMCS we were told this was really rare. Just what your experiences were :flower: ]]> Postnatal Support Snugggs http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/868819-whos-experienced-knotted-cord.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/868600-anyone-preeclampsia-hellps.html Tue, 31 Jan 2012 19:15:44 GMT Hello Ladies, I am 14 weeks post delivery to my wonderful son, Jaxson who was born 9 weeks early due to my severe preclampsia/HELLPS. Long story... Hello Ladies,
I am 14 weeks post delivery to my wonderful son, Jaxson who was born 9 weeks early due to my severe preclampsia/HELLPS. Long story short, I developed some visual issues and they did an MRI, though they could not see a stroke, they could not say for sure if I had one or not. Well, Since then my visual changes have gotten much better, but I feel like Im losing my mind. I am lost midsentence almost always, In the begining I was driving and I forgot what side of the road I should be on( I stopped driving) and the other day, When I drove, I couldnt for the death of me figure out where I was going, even though I've been 100s of times. I put stamps on the wrong side of the envelope, and when I realized it was wrong, I couldnt figure out where it really should go...simple little mistakes like that. I feel like I have dejuvu everyday. My family says that "Im just tired" after taking care of my son. The neurologist in the hospital said it should get better with time, but I feel like Im going crazy...its frustrating. Have any of you had this????
Thank you!
Liz ]]> Postnatal Support doxie.chi http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/868600-anyone-preeclampsia-hellps.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/867571-another-dtd-thread-understanding-hubby.html Mon, 30 Jan 2012 18:33:51 GMT I swear I must have THE most understanding hubby... honestly, we were cut off from DTD when I was 28wks prego (due to placenta previa and the... I swear I must have THE most understanding hubby... honestly, we were cut off from DTD when I was 28wks prego (due to placenta previa and the risks)... then another 6wks during my c-section recovery... then another 2wks, cause I wasn't quit "ready to try" yet- as I knew it would be uncomfy for a while at first...

I had NO clue how uncomfy it would be... actually, VERY panful the first time and a little better the next and so forth and so forth... but still, after several weeks of it being painful (not horribly so anymore- but still "not fun" for me)-- I just cannot bring myself to DTD for the past 2wks again. I feel horrible to cut off my hubby... and there are "other" things we can still do... but I SO SO miss the sex life we had before.

I just wish I had a magic 8ball to tell me WHEN it would feel good again? I'm no longer pumping, so I thought it would get better... but no, it really hasn't. Like I said, it's not horrible, but it's still painful and not pleasurable for me AT ALL when we have sex. Other things feel good... but I miss that intimacy.

Anyone else have this issue after their baby? Maybe this is TMI, but I was pretty tight (down below) before getting prego... so I'm wondering if being cut off and pumping etc... has made it worse and I just need to suck it up and keep DTD till it get's better... it's just hard to want to when I know it's no fun for me, and my hubby hates that it's not pleasurable for me anymore. So I know it takes some of the joy away from him as well...

It's seriously like losing my virginity again!!!

Ugh... that's all I can say. I'm just glad he's not pressuring me... even though I KNOW he misses it so much. Me too though :( ]]> Postnatal Support seoj http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/867571-another-dtd-thread-understanding-hubby.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/867258-post-partum-vertigo.html Mon, 30 Jan 2012 13:30:17 GMT Hiya So back in November I started back on the contraceptive pill (I was put on microgynon - used to be on ovranette but apparantly they have the... Hiya

So back in November I started back on the contraceptive pill (I was put on microgynon - used to be on ovranette but apparantly they have the same ingredients just different brand). I started getting some headaches and more recently light headedness. I went to the docs and was given cerazette instead which I was to start in 2 weeks after I had finished my last pack of microgynon but over the next couple of days the light headedness was driving me insane so I stopped the pill and last week had withdrawal bleed. I was planning on seeing how I was off it as I have read up on cerazette and it can cause a lot of things I dont want!!

The first pill I ever had years ago was microgynon but I started getting headaches everyday for almost a year so I was put on ovranette 9 years ago and had no problems and I stopped it December 2010 when ttc. Other methods of contraception are not for me for various reasons and I am really not sure about cerazette due to it can cause continuous bleeding, depressive/suicidal feelings (I have a h/o depression & anxiety - not suicidal - and dont fancy messing about with this), mood swings etc. I have an appointment with the doctor again today as I have been looking into it and seems I may have post partum vertigo. I am not sure if they can give me anything for this but I am also going to see about going on ovranette again.

I was wondering if anyone got vertigo or any sort of light headedness after having a baby?

xx ]]> Postnatal Support hulahoop09 http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/867258-post-partum-vertigo.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/867100-does-anyone-else-not-care-they-ended-csec.html Mon, 30 Jan 2012 10:16:31 GMT I've just read soooo many stories where people are devastated they ended up with a csec and things like that that it got me thinking that I've never once even thought about it lol everyone knows my story so knows I've had a horrid time with it but I don't even think "if I hadn't of had a csec".I don't think "I'm gutted I didn't get a natural birth" or "I've bonded less" or anything.I don't know if this is normal now lol I mean i got my baby at the end of my pregnancy that's it,there's no emotion there or anything,should I b feeling more about this one way or the other? I'm just kind of emotionless about the whole hospital stay,from beginning to end.anyone else? Xx ]]> Postnatal Support mummy2lola http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/867100-does-anyone-else-not-care-they-ended-csec.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/866996-cried-alot-yesterday-am-ok.html Mon, 30 Jan 2012 07:07:05 GMT So my little girl was a week old yesterday and it was the roughest day I have had even with her only waking once the night before. Everything just... So my little girl was a week old yesterday and it was the roughest day I have had even with her only waking once the night before.
Everything just seemed too much, visitors wouldn't leave and I thought I'd wiped some photo's from OH's phone which made me feel terrible.
So I spend most of yesterday in tears or constantly on the brink of them.
OH did all he could to reassure me everything was ok, sadly even after explaining to the visitors I was feeling tired and needed some space they still took ages to leave.
Now I've said I dont want any more visitors, which is sad for the ones who have been respectful and helpful but I seriously cant take any more of it.

What if I have another day like this? What if it all gets too much and I get PND? I had it with dd1 and it was awful so I'm scared to get it again.

I thought my action plan for today would be make sure I get out for a nice walk at some point and have plenty of cuddles with my kids and OH when he gets in. Maybe enjoy a nice hot bath later too.

Please tell me it was just a mixture of stress, tiredness and a bit of the baby blues and I'm going to be ok :cry: ]]> Postnatal Support 5-a-side http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/866996-cried-alot-yesterday-am-ok.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/866895-long-did-your-re-opened-tear-take-heal.html Mon, 30 Jan 2012 01:49:20 GMT My 2nd degree tear reopened (was checked at 3 weeks PP) and is still not healed (now 4 weeks PP). Wondering how long I can expect it to take to heal.... My 2nd degree tear reopened (was checked at 3 weeks PP) and is still not healed (now 4 weeks PP). Wondering how long I can expect it to take to heal. I can't even walk or do much of anything before I can feel that I am stretched or hurt it again.:nope: ]]> Postnatal Support 1hopefull http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/866895-long-did-your-re-opened-tear-take-heal.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/866893-long-did-you-wear-your-maternity-clothes-postpartum.html Mon, 30 Jan 2012 01:46:08 GMT OK, I have 30lbs to get back to my pre-pregnancy weight. I am 4 weeks PP and haven't lost more than 5lbs since a few days after birth (maybe 0 lbs). Do I keep wearing my maternity bottoms? I can't workout yet, so I feel like I can lose weight when I can start that, but I am a few weeks out. Also, I really dont want to buy new work clothes when i go back at 12 weeks PP.:nope: ]]> Postnatal Support 1hopefull http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/866893-long-did-you-wear-your-maternity-clothes-postpartum.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/866612-no-need-reply-just-need-rant-my-baby-hates-me.html Sun, 29 Jan 2012 19:35:41 GMT im just not coping at the minute, i have been diagnosed with pnd since day 1 and i thort i was getting better slowly but jaycob just hates me i... im just not coping at the minute, i have been diagnosed with pnd since day 1 and i thort i was getting better slowly but jaycob just hates me i swear,

i go near him he starts screaming, oh goes near him he starts laughing, he wont feed or eat for me and if i pick him up its like hes having a tantrum, arching his back and screaming and he claws me, ive tryed everythng calm voice singing to him just sitting next to him, but he just clearly hates me

starting to feel like im the worst mother in the world and i dont no wat to do, he doesnt sleep day or night, im struggerling i really am :cry::cry: ]]> Postnatal Support emzeebob http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/866612-no-need-reply-just-need-rant-my-baby-hates-me.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/866544-sex-after-episiotomy.html Sun, 29 Jan 2012 18:05:48 GMT Hubby i tried to dtd last week at 4 weeks post partum it wasnt agony but quite tender so we left it for a week. yesterday we tried again, still... Hubby i tried to dtd last week at 4 weeks post partum it wasnt agony but quite tender so we left it for a week. yesterday we tried again, still tender but less than last week n it felt pretty darn good lol however attempted it again this morn (kinda jst to c how it felt!) n it was too sore to do anything at all...im hoping this is normal as its still healing n that a)i havent done any damage n b)in time ill b able to dtd more than once a week! Lol (wishful thinking i know! Only reason we did it this week was cz my mum had little one to give us some sleep n a break from our colicky bubba!)

what are other peoples experiences? ]]> Postnatal Support CKJ http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/866544-sex-after-episiotomy.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/865508-c-section-complication.html Sat, 28 Jan 2012 11:08:47 GMT I had my c-section nearly two weeks ago and last saturday the scar started to leak, I went to the doctor who said its a heamatoma and the fluid needs... I had my c-section nearly two weeks ago and last saturday the scar started to leak, I went to the doctor who said its a heamatoma and the fluid needs to drain out. The wound hasn't opened up but there are 3 small pin prick sized holes which the fluid is leaking out of. The area above is tender to touch. Am just worried that if it does not heel and drain by itself I will have to go back into hospital for it to be drained. :cry: ]]> Postnatal Support sazlou http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/865508-c-section-complication.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/864326-still-sore-2-5-weeks-after-birth.html Fri, 27 Jan 2012 00:22:25 GMT Is this normal? I had my baby 2 weeks and 3 days ago and I had a first degree tear and got a couple of stitches. I was very very sore afterward and... Is this normal? I had my baby 2 weeks and 3 days ago and I had a first degree tear and got a couple of stitches. I was very very sore afterward and had incontinence. I feel much better and the incontinence seems to be pretty much gone, but I am still sore when walking around and it still stings to pee (not like a bladder infection, but like it is hitting the stitches) It has also started itching. I was worried about an infection but then my husband reminded me that my doctor said to expect burning and itching as things begin to heal. Does all this sound normal? I am still bleeding, much less, but still bleeding. Thanks! ]]> Postnatal Support StranjeGirl http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/864326-still-sore-2-5-weeks-after-birth.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/863777-not-coping-very-well.html Thu, 26 Jan 2012 14:34:26 GMT I've got 2 babies under 2 now and a 10 year old. And at the moment I feel like I'm stuck in a rut. I can't keep up on the house work, my realionship with OH is strained and to be honest its probably got a lot to do with the amount of moaning I do. I feel like all I ever do is give out to my kids. ]]> Postnatal Support Tantan http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/863777-not-coping-very-well.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/863449-sore-stomach.html Thu, 26 Jan 2012 03:21:47 GMT I had a breech vaginal birth. For the past couple of weeks my stomach muscles feel like I have done too much (but I haven't done anything that should make them feel that way). Is it just from labor? Is it normal at this point (nearly 4 weeks PP) as I didn't really feel it in the very beginning? ]]> Postnatal Support amjon http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/863449-sore-stomach.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/863206-did-your-hemmorhoids-piles-feel-like.html Wed, 25 Jan 2012 21:01:35 GMT Just curious. My piles were shrinking, but the last couple of days had an IBS flare up and they seem to have gotten worse again. I still seem to... Just curious.

My piles were shrinking, but the last couple of days had an IBS flare up and they seem to have gotten worse again. I still seem to only have two (and a skintag), used to have four or five but they haven't gotten worse in number, just size and pain.

My buttocks feel like they're aching, especially to sit on, is this usual?? I also feel sore along my perinium and the actual hemmorhoids are sore and achey. (I was told I have one internal as well so this can't help)

What did your piles feel like?? I know they're probably not thrombosed as they aren't bleeding and don't look red or inflamed, but they're just achey and sore as hell!! ]]> Postnatal Support LuSmith http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/863206-did-your-hemmorhoids-piles-feel-like.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/862265-beg-sex-feel-like-you-have-pass-gas.html Tue, 24 Jan 2012 21:58:58 GMT When we're just starting to have sex I feel like I'm going to pass gas and though this wouldn't be horrible, it would kind of ruin the mood. Plus I suffer from IBS and sometimes gas isn't just gas and I think pooping when trying to have sec just might kill the sexy feelings.

Tell me I'm not alone?

I'm due for my pap in May, if I still feel this way I'm going to bring it up, but I hope it's just a temporary thing.

Advice? I'm wondering if it has something to do with my repair possibly not healing properly, though the last time I got examined I was told my repair healed very well. ]]> Postnatal Support Spunky http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/862265-beg-sex-feel-like-you-have-pass-gas.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/861923-contrception.html Tue, 24 Jan 2012 16:37:42 GMT Hey ladies :) What contraception would you recommend for after the birth? Do you wait until ur 6 week check or can the hospital offer u it after... Hey ladies :)

What contraception would you recommend for after the birth? Do you wait until ur 6 week check or can the hospital offer u it after labour? xxxx ]]> Postnatal Support EmmaBozner_x http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/861923-contrception.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/860985-prenatal-vitamins.html Mon, 23 Jan 2012 18:39:10 GMT I was told if im not breasfeeding to stop taking them but i love the way they make my hair and nails grow so fast so i wonder if i order anther refil... I was told if im not breasfeeding to stop taking them but i love the way they make my hair and nails grow so fast so i wonder if i order anther refil will they hurt me in any way? ]]> Postnatal Support Proud_Mommy http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/860985-prenatal-vitamins.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/860551-bleeding.html Mon, 23 Jan 2012 10:24:24 GMT How long did you bleed for after you had baby? I had a epiostimy, and tore, and m still bleeding. Only lightly but still bright red... My baby is... How long did you bleed for after you had baby?

I had a epiostimy, and tore, and m still bleeding. Only lightly but still bright red... My baby is 5 weeks old today... anyone else gone this long? ]]> Postnatal Support Tracie87 http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/860551-bleeding.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/860222-orangey-crystals-nappy-4-5-days.html Sun, 22 Jan 2012 22:10:25 GMT George was born by c-section on 18th Jan. We had lots of breastfeeding problems and he lost a lot of weight, and today we started on formula as I was... George was born by c-section on 18th Jan. We had lots of breastfeeding problems and he lost a lot of weight, and today we started on formula as I was just too worried about him to carry on exclusively with bf. But in his wet nappies he still has orangey patches, which I was told were some kind of crystals and normal in first couple of days. Obviously, this is now day 5... is this still normal? Is it because he didn't feed well to start with? ]]> Postnatal Support kezz_howland http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/860222-orangey-crystals-nappy-4-5-days.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/860153-periods.html Sun, 22 Jan 2012 20:58:11 GMT So I had our little girl 4 months ago, like most I didn't get my first period till 6 weeks after, I've had normal periods since but this month I've been getting a lot of pain an no bleeding as of yet, me and my partner have used protection everytime so I shouldn't be pregnant, and we are just currently in the process of moving house, so I don't know if it's the stress of that or what, is it normal? Before I had bubs I was regular every month without a doubt so it's just a bit abnormal for me xx ]]> Postnatal Support Raybabes_x http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/860153-periods.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/859982-long-scarring-actually-disappear.html Sun, 22 Jan 2012 18:02:22 GMT Is it normal to have scarring still nearly 4 months pp? My gynae (and assistants) said I still had some scarring but my perinium looked good. They... Is it normal to have scarring still nearly 4 months pp? My gynae (and assistants) said I still had some scarring but my perinium looked good. They said my scarring was from the internal tear, and when I remembered to ask the gynae before I left he said it would go with time.

Is this true or will I be scarred forever? Is this what could be causing tenderness? It doesn't hurt badly or anything, just sore when I first sit down sometimes or to touch too rough.

I had a second degree tear! ]]> Postnatal Support LuSmith http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/859982-long-scarring-actually-disappear.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/859720-dont-think-things-quite-right-down-there.html Sun, 22 Jan 2012 11:54:16 GMT Ok so I'm 7 weeks pp and I've got a few small niggly things that just dont seem right but can't figure it out. When I go for a wee it's fine but I don't feel like I'm emptying my bladder properly. Also, since I gave birth I've had a strange odour when I wee, really sorry for tmi but I could really use some advice. I thought it was my lochia but that has stopped now so I think it's my urine. I'm getting quite worried :( ]]> Postnatal Support Milliemoo x http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/859720-dont-think-things-quite-right-down-there.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/859634-bit-advice.html Sun, 22 Jan 2012 09:06:57 GMT Hi there, I don't often post on this forum any more due to being back at work full time but i just wondered if anyone had any words of advice or solace. My Lo is now 19months so probably a bit old for me to be posting in this particular bit of the forum but hey ho.

Anyway we tried to get pregnant with my LO for almost 2yrs, i had a relatively good pregnancy until the end then went into spontaneous labour at 35wks and gave birth naturally to my bubba who was only 1.5kgs at the time. We never got that initial cuddle/ skin to skin contact as she wasnt breathing on birth and so was taken straight to resus area to be neopuffed etc then wrapped in a swaddle, shown to me literally for a few secs then whisked to neotnatal to be checked over. In the meantime i was told i had a retained placenta and then had to have general anaesthetic to remove same. When i woke in the middle of maternity hosp i was in a baby of 6women surrounded by newborn babies and still didnt know what was happening with my LO. About 30mins after waking from surgery the paediatrician came from NICU to speak with my husband and I and told us that our LO needed life saving surgery and had to be transferred to a specialist hospital an hr away. We did manage to briefly get to see my LO for about 15mins before the ambulance arrived and i was later transferred to the specialist hospital about 14hrs later. My LO spent a total on 9weeks in hospital before she could come home and had 3 operations during that time. I expressed for her as she couldnt feed orally and was fed via NG tube and during her stay we did see her get resusciatated on a few occasions. Since her discharge she has had a further 8 operations including 2 more major surgeries and we must have spent about 8months in total in hospital. Initially I was running on adrenaline and thats what kept me going then when her health became more stable i started getting overt symptoms of depression (understandably) and was treated with antidepressants. I returned to work when my LO was 16months old however I am now finding myself wanting to spend less and less time with my LO. I get very anxious and apprehensive about being around her and although I love her to bits do not feel I have truly bonded with her. I even feel that I don't know how to play with her and think she will be bored or disinterested in playing with me and she's a very intelligent girl and does get bored easily as all toddlers do. I particularly hate mealtimes however I am aware this is due to all the feeding related issues we have had as a result of the condition she was born with and she does often get food stuck and chokes often too.

I know we've been through a really traumatic time but I don't understand why when I am back at work and able to function as a "normal" human being I now hold these feelings of resentment and almost feelings of lack of interest and ability to care for my LO. My husband is fab and really great with our LO and plays with her all the time but i just feel like I should be doing more and I really don't think i should be feeling so anxious and apprehensive and almost begrudging of caring for our lil girl.

Has anyone experienced anything similar, not necessarily circumstances but those kinds of feelings and how did you get through it? My other difficulty or rather delight with the way im feeling at the min is that i work a lot of shifts and so im often off when my LO is in nursery so on average I am now only seeing LO approx 2-3hrs per day ]]> Postnatal Support nineena http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/859634-bit-advice.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/859575-question.html Sun, 22 Jan 2012 04:34:39 GMT TMI up-front warning. I am not sure but I had some bleeding PP (the bleeding from lochia had stopped and there were no clots / mucus in it). Now... TMI up-front warning. I am not sure but I had some bleeding PP (the bleeding from lochia had stopped and there were no clots / mucus in it). Now don't judge me but we couldn't wait to be cleared by the Dr. And dtd several times b/w a week and a half and now. And I had some cramping for an hour (so I assumed AF was on its way) and bleeding right after I took a PT (but it was red and the size of a sacajawea coin). Not too long after all that happened it stopped (no I wasn't overdoing things either). But in the past week when I took those tests, I think I got stuck w/ a bad bunch of new choice PT (as I took 2 and the control line was the right way but the test line wasn't. And the test line disappeared after 5 min.

So my question is could it be implantation blood? As I never had it before so I dunno what to look for. ]]> Postnatal Support chasemanzmum http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/859575-question.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/859541-weakened-bladder.html Sun, 22 Jan 2012 02:44:49 GMT My bladder is extremely weak now. If I feel like I need to pee, I have to go to the toilet straight away, else I'd end up having an accident. Where as before (pre and during pregnancy) I could hold it for 1-2 hours if need be.

I've noticed a difference since I started using tampons from 5th Jan - 19th Jan (period lasted 2 weeks). 14 weeks post now.

Could this be a side effect from tampons? Or has anybody else been/going through this? ]]> Postnatal Support SmartieMeUp http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/859541-weakened-bladder.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/859291-bathing-salt-water-tea-tree-oil.html Sat, 21 Jan 2012 20:08:00 GMT Hi everyone, just wondering what everyone thinks! I am 4 weeks pp and have been bathing in tea tree oil every day! everyone keeps telling me to... Hi everyone, just wondering what everyone thinks!

I am 4 weeks pp and have been bathing in tea tree oil every day! everyone keeps telling me to use salt as it is what they used and is brilliant!

Should i switch to salt, will it speed up recovery?? ]]> Postnatal Support eve123 http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/859291-bathing-salt-water-tea-tree-oil.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/858631-excessive-discharge.html Fri, 20 Jan 2012 22:27:32 GMT I'm 3 weeks PP and having GOBS of clear or clear/ yellow tinted discharge today. I've had very minor cramping type pains. DH and I DTD 2 days PP off and on, so it's possible I could be pregnant. Is anyone else getting the clear discharge? I am normally very dry, but vaguely remember having tons of discharge in the beginning of my last pregnancy. (I did a test and got BFN 2 days ago, but don't know if I may have been too early.) So what do you girls think, normal PP symptom or possibly another pregnancy already? ]]> Postnatal Support amjon http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/858631-excessive-discharge.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/858197-prolapses.html Fri, 20 Jan 2012 14:28:28 GMT Im almost 4 weeks post patrum and my lo was 9lb at birth and all happened very quick. Was 3-4cm when waters broke she was born less than an hour... Im almost 4 weeks post patrum and my lo was 9lb at birth and all happened very quick. Was 3-4cm when waters broke she was born less than an hour later in 3 pushes. I tore down and then up both labia my paper work said 3rd degree and was stitched. I've been using a mirror to check stitches which are all out now and I've noticed 3 bulges down there. The first one is a urethracele (as diagnosed by google lol) there's then a bulge below this then a bigger one at the bottom of the vaginal opening. I can also see scaring of when my vaginal opening should be iykwim, so it looks like it's bigger as it was not stitched which I guess will make the prolapses worse. I'll be having my 6 week check in a couple of weeks so will talk to dr about it but what are others experiences? I was thinking of trying one of the pelvic toning machines when ive healed a bit more to help, anyone used these and had good results? It's starting to upset me a bit and I don't want oh anywhere near me :cry: ]]> Postnatal Support ljo1984 http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/858197-prolapses.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/857798-repair-episiotomy-surgery.html Fri, 20 Jan 2012 00:59:42 GMT Has anyone had it done? I gave birth 2 weeks ago - had an episiotomy and a 4th degree tear. :cry: my stitches ended up opening so the doctor put... Has anyone had it done?

I gave birth 2 weeks ago - had an episiotomy and a 4th degree tear. :cry: my stitches ended up opening so the doctor put silver nitrate on in hopes that it would heal but now more stitches opened and I'm left with 2 (or more, I can oly see 2) gaping wounds.

Now they are talking corrective surgery to recut the tear so the incision is straight and sew it back up. Needless to say I am petrified and so mad that I'm going to have to start the healing process all over again :cry:

I just want to enjoy my baby girl without all of this pain. Has anyone gone through this? ]]> Postnatal Support bellaxgee http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/857798-repair-episiotomy-surgery.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/857245-those-have-had-implant.html Thu, 19 Jan 2012 15:22:20 GMT Can you share your thoughts/experiences please?? Thanks!! Can you share your thoughts/experiences please??

Thanks!! ]]> Postnatal Support xxEMZxx http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/857245-those-have-had-implant.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/857005-piles-were-not-piles-am-so-angry-rant.html Thu, 19 Jan 2012 09:53:35 GMT I need some tlc, had my doc appt over my long lasting piles issue, dic was nice and examined me properly. She said piles had gone and it was just... I need some tlc, had my doc appt over my long lasting piles issue, dic was nice and examined me properly. She said piles had gone and it was just skin tags (bad) left. She has referred me onto surgeons.

Am angry as I have suffered for six months with no proper examination until now even when I have been to my GP 4 times prior to this appt. I am too scared to have anything done on the NHS after crap aftercare with both my children. I never want to get pregnant again and just want my body to be back to some normalacy. Am soooooooo angry that docs just lump us together - and my brothers a GP! not that I can discuss this with him.

Think I will have to go private as am too scared of nhs and dont want let one of their surgeons down there with a scalpel

am just sad today :cry::cry::cry:

I know its nothing compared to everyone else's problems but feel I have wasted months suffering and missing out time with my little one and toddler:cry: ]]> Postnatal Support nma http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/857005-piles-were-not-piles-am-so-angry-rant.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/856771-sex-after-episiotomy-tear.html Wed, 18 Jan 2012 23:35:31 GMT Does anyone have anything positive on this? I keep reading about people saying sex is really painful, even months or years after tearing or having an... Does anyone have anything positive on this? I keep reading about people saying sex is really painful, even months or years after tearing or having an episitomy. I had an episiotomy and I'm a bit scared that sex is always going to be horrible from now on? :(

Advice please! :) xx ]]> Postnatal Support tinkerbelle93 http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/856771-sex-after-episiotomy-tear.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/856654-did-anyone-have-night-sweats-months-after-childbirth.html Wed, 18 Jan 2012 21:27:39 GMT Hi... long shot I know but did any of you have night sweats still 3 months or more after giving birth? I ask because I'm STILL experiencing them and I usually wake up soaking the sheets, it's awful! Unfortunately had a depo shot about 7 weeks ago so I don't know if thats a side effect but I'm slightly worried in case its the reason I've been losing too much weight and whether theres a serious cause for it. :( Doctors wont listen to me anymore so not sure what to do!

I'm not breastfeeding btw, just FF and I don't suffer with them during the day. ]]> Postnatal Support LuSmith http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/856654-did-anyone-have-night-sweats-months-after-childbirth.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/856356-feeling-not-being-able-cope.html Wed, 18 Jan 2012 17:03:31 GMT I dont know whats wrong with me :( the past 9 months have been really hard with Reflux issues and problems with my own health and lack of sleep but... I dont know whats wrong with me :( the past 9 months have been really hard with Reflux issues and problems with my own health and lack of sleep but now things have started to get better and things have been a lot easier on us. The months and months of screaming and irritability it seemed had started to pass and things were looking up, but I cant cope when dexter has a bad day or week :(.
I always used to and ive been so strong but lately for some reason I dont know if its teeth, reflux or weaning as we have started a new food but he has started making really funny noises when latching on a kinda *ah ah ah ah ah* and moving his head from side to side messing around, I only breastfeed at night and naps and he tests my patience, Ive finally got him to settle at around 7pm in his bouncer on his own and am yet to move him into a cot again, but his naps have been awful, sometimes he wont settle for the morning one so I skip it, then we go up around 2pm and he sleeps, im thinking he must be shattered and then he wakes within half hour screaming and irritable and bright red in the face. He wont go back off to sleep.

By which time as we share a bed and nap together (I need it to due to lack of sleep :() i have JUST dropped off and im awoken to this, and I feel so bad tempered and I just want him away from me, I call for my partner to come and get him and I just cant bare to be around him, I cant even stand to listen to him, I just wanna crawl away and hide, but then knowing my partner hasnt stopped all day I cant relax anyway and tho he says I dont have to I feel I have to go back.

I feel so guilty as for those moments I cant bare to look at him and I just want to walk away, I dont understand it, the rest of the time im so patient, today I walked the dog it really helped and then I look at dex and feel so bad about it, please help xx ]]> Postnatal Support firework http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/856356-feeling-not-being-able-cope.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/856075-after-pains-were-yours-like.html Wed, 18 Jan 2012 12:32:12 GMT Just wondering: When did your pains start? When did they stop? Where were they- lower tummy, back, upper tummy? How would you describe them? I... Just wondering:
When did your pains start?
When did they stop?
Where were they- lower tummy, back, upper tummy?
How would you describe them?

I started having pains at 7 days postpartum, they come at one to two episodes a day, lasting 30 minutes or so. In my upper tummy and upper back, continuous with waves of really bad pain. Last night made me vomit with pain (I have a high pain threshold) they stop with ibuprofen, paracetamol and a hot bath....but they are almost unbearable, I considered going to Aa&E last night.

I'm not sure if these are afterpains or something else, I expected them to be low down like labour pain and to have started sooner.

What was your experience? ]]> Postnatal Support hubblybubbly http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/856075-after-pains-were-yours-like.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/855038-smear-worry.html Tue, 17 Jan 2012 12:47:55 GMT I've never had a smear before, a couple of months after I turned 25 I fell pregnant so I'm now due to have one. Thing is, and this probably sounds ridiculous as I had an emergency section, I'm petrified of anything going up there again. I'm single so don't have the worry of sex and I know this anxiety isn't going to help when I actually have to get it done. My pelvic area is still tender and my womb feels achy and my belly still feels swollen. I had swabs taken when I was pregnant and they needed to take blood from Zac during labour so I have had speculums before. I'm in no means a wuss when it comes to pain but I'm really really scared. I don't know what to do, I know it needs doing but I can't bring myself to make an appointment.

I really need to man up. :( ]]> Postnatal Support bther http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/855038-smear-worry.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/854880-your-body-ever-same.html Tue, 17 Jan 2012 10:04:43 GMT I'm dreading after the labour more than the actual labour because of that many horror stories! Does your body really go back to normal after squeezin a baby out :( xxxx ]]> Postnatal Support EmmaBozner_x http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/854880-your-body-ever-same.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/854407-weight-loss-first-six-weeks.html Mon, 16 Jan 2012 20:09:43 GMT Im 3 weeks post partum, i put on 3stone while pg, im down 1.5stone so another 1.5 to go, given that the first 1.5 was mainly baby n baby related... Im 3 weeks post partum, i put on 3stone while pg, im down 1.5stone so another 1.5 to go, given that the first 1.5 was mainly baby n baby related things im guessing the next 1.5 will be a bitch to lose. However can i expect to still lose at least a bit more in the next few weeks as part of natural post partum weight loss do u think? Im eating sensibly n have started walking now my stitches dont hurt! ]]> Postnatal Support CKJ http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/854407-weight-loss-first-six-weeks.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/853651-still-bleeding-6-weeks-3-days-after-c-section.html Mon, 16 Jan 2012 00:02:24 GMT Anyone still bleed that far out from a c section? It had stopped over a week ago and now today there is more! I'm exclusively breastfeeding and it doesnt seem like my period is back? ]]> Postnatal Support W8ing4ours http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/853651-still-bleeding-6-weeks-3-days-after-c-section.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/853632-tmi-discharge.html Sun, 15 Jan 2012 23:33:05 GMT Ok, so... Since my baby was born, I've noticed a strange discharge when I ov.:wacko:

Here is the TMI part...


It's like jelly. Clear jelly, sometimes tinged pink. :shrug: Wth? It will come out partially, and when I wipe, it pulls on out. Quite gross, I know. But is it normal? ]]> Postnatal Support Dollface http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/853632-tmi-discharge.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/853345-stiches-question.html Sun, 15 Jan 2012 17:32:46 GMT Hi ladies, I tore up a little when giving birth, doctor didnt tell me what degree but she said its very little so i assume 1st degree. Anyways i... Hi ladies,
I tore up a little when giving birth, doctor didnt tell me what degree but she said its very little so i assume 1st degree. Anyways i wasnt given any directions or should i have been idk? Do i have to take any special care etc? And for the mommies with 1st degree, has anyone tried to have sex? Any recommendations? With my first baby we resumed sex after about 3 weeks because i felt great, if i feel fine this time should i go ahead or..? Lots of lube i would assume?

Thank you!! ]]> Postnatal Support Proud_Mommy http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/853345-stiches-question.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/853101-resuming-sex-life.html Sun, 15 Jan 2012 10:43:40 GMT When did you? Or can you resume a adult life lol? When did you? Or can you resume a adult life lol? ]]> Postnatal Support Tracie87 http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/853101-resuming-sex-life.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/852859-skin-tag-after-stitches.html Sat, 14 Jan 2012 23:45:57 GMT While pregnant, i noticed i had a small boil like lump under the skin of my perineum, it freaked me out a little lol. Anyway, then I had... While pregnant, i noticed i had a small boil like lump under the skin of my perineum, it freaked me out a little lol.

Anyway, then I had mydaughter and had a 2nd degree tear. After being stitched up, I've now noticed the boil like lump has become a skin tag type thing. It's been stitched so it's lower down and kinda flappy :/

It hurts when I touch it (it always has) and it feels as though I can move the lump inside my skin about.

Is this a skin tag?
What can I do to get rid of it?

I don't want more surgery of any sort, I feel mentally scarred by what happened already and I'm petrified of letting anyone go near there again (for stitching, sex, a quick look, anything!) I'm scared to death of having a smear too, they never bothered me until I was stitched up, now the thought makes me sick. ]]> Postnatal Support Crumbsx http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/852859-skin-tag-after-stitches.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/852846-still-stings-14-weeks-pp.html Sat, 14 Jan 2012 23:31:47 GMT Hi :(

Suffering atm from a number of problems, but my gynae is seeing me for my bleeding problems. The thing is I'll be under GA so I'm worried he won't be able to sort out or know about my other current problem. I'm 14 weeks postpartum and still suffering from a stinging vagina. I'm pretty *sure* its scar tissue or something, as when I first noticed it about a month ago I felt the scarring, and when I was examined a week or so ago she said I had scarring..

Is it normal for scarring to sting? will this heal on its own or should I be mentioning it to the doctor? its not an infection as I've recently had antibiotics for pelvic infection etc and it hasn't gone away.. so I'm not really sure what to do?!

I know granulation tissue can cause problems but I don't know if it is that seeing as I don't think granulation tissue stings to touch, does it? ]]> Postnatal Support LuSmith http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/852846-still-stings-14-weeks-pp.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/852843-weight-loss-tips.html Sat, 14 Jan 2012 23:29:24 GMT Hello to all mommies out here!

I'm still struggling to lose all the weight I've gained during my pregnancy so I figured I'd just share the tips I found (books, diet websites and so on) and maybe they can help other as well. I think it's a good way to start my activity on this forum.

1. Maintain or increase muscle mass. Specifically, do weight training. Muscle is metabolically active— it requires calories. The more muscle you have, the more calories you need to sustain it, the more food you can eat and still bring down your level of bodyfat.

2. Allow yourself a treat. All diet and no fun can make you nuts. No more than once a week, really indulge in those things you miss.

3. Don’t punish yourself. If you do go off the deep end and really, really blow it big time, go right back to where you left off. You can’t compensate by starving yourself or over-aerobicising. No matter what you ate or however much, three days back on the program will erase any clue.

4. Picture the end result. Look in the mirror and ponder the future. Imagine what you’ll look like when you reach your goal. Use the image to make good decisions.

5. Avoid weighing yourself too often, or if you feel that you have to, use a Quantum scale, it registers your weight but does not display it, so you don't have to worry about developing any "scale anxiety". Remember, your scale is supposed to be a tool to help you manage your weight, not an evil device deciding your mood for the day.

6. Be Realistic.You didn't gain all your weight in two weeks, so it's going to take more than two weeks to take it off. A half pound to a pound a week is all you should ever hope to lose - if that. A slow steady metamorphosis is underway.

7. Eat Consistently throughout the day. No more than three to four hours should pass between meals. Spacing meals keeps your energy levels constant and prevents ravenous hunger.

8. If you eat carbs eat low-glycemic carbohydrates. Slow-burning carbs, such as beans, yams and whole grains, will keep your blood sugar stable. Sugars found in some fruits, fruit juices, refined and processed foods cause wild fluctuations in insulin. Insulin bursts enhance fat storage plus they can leave you feeling starved and foraging for more to eat.

Good luck everyone! ]]> Postnatal Support rita25 http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/852843-weight-loss-tips.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/852804-my-first-period-6weeks-after-birth.html Sat, 14 Jan 2012 22:27:07 GMT I had a c section 6 weeks ago. Yday I started bleeding, it's quite light and I don't have any pain. Could this be my period? I'm still doing a little breast feeding and baby is having formula tops up too.
I didn't think I would have a period do soon.
Xx ]]> Postnatal Support Hazelnut http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/852804-my-first-period-6weeks-after-birth.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/852762-im-so-mad-no-one-told-me-details-rant.html Sat, 14 Jan 2012 21:41:19 GMT I am mad because now 7 months later my Dh mentioned to me that my baby came out back to back. None of the doctors or nurses told me this during... I am mad because now 7 months later my Dh mentioned to me that my baby came out back to back. None of the doctors or nurses told me this during delivery either.

I felt completely traumatized by my delivery for months. I had an epidural but the pain was still unbearable and I remember screaming for help. I pushed for 3 hours and then I had a vaccuum delivery and a 3rd degree tear. I felt like a complete failure because I couldn't do it on my own. I also had PTSD and would be up at night with flashbacks. It took months to get over my birth experience. Then DH and I were talking about it today and it came up that my baby came out back to back. I was so mad because I felt like if I had know that the reason it was a difficult delivery was because she was posterior maybe I would have had more closure and not felt so traumatized for the long term. ugh why did no one tell me?

rant over ]]> Postnatal Support feedindy http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/852762-im-so-mad-no-one-told-me-details-rant.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/852642-3rd-degree-tear-episitomy-question.html Sat, 14 Jan 2012 19:31:06 GMT Hi everyone, i gave birth 3 weeks ago, i have been checked by my doctor who says i am healing quite well, am still in pain and am finding that i... Hi everyone, i gave birth 3 weeks ago, i have been checked by my doctor who says i am healing quite well, am still in pain and am finding that i cant stand or walk for very long, as i get this sore pressure feeling down there!

Is this just the healing process?? ]]> Postnatal Support eve123 http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/852642-3rd-degree-tear-episitomy-question.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/851871-think-one-my-stitches-have-come-undone.html Fri, 13 Jan 2012 20:03:00 GMT well title says it all really! not sure if it has come undone or not :\ went to toilet few hours ago and was constipated (sorry TMI) and as i was... well title says it all really! not sure if it has come undone or not :\ went to toilet few hours ago and was constipated (sorry TMI) and as i was wiping myself it started getting painful and sore, i also think i saw a small thread thing on the tissue paper but i cant be sure... its been 2/3 hours now since that happened and its still sore but not as painful...
im not sure what to do, cant ring midwifes until monday as its weekend now but im panicking and thinking the worst about what could happen to it so i really need some advice! x ]]> Postnatal Support JLFx3 http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/851871-think-one-my-stitches-have-come-undone.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/851745-anyone-wigan-need-some-baby-friends.html Fri, 13 Jan 2012 17:50:33 GMT Hi Everyone.. just wondered who was from Wigan? Would be nice to get to know someone and go on play dates lol. My LO is 16 weeks old, little boy... Hi Everyone..
just wondered who was from Wigan?
Would be nice to get to know someone and go on play dates lol.

My LO is 16 weeks old, little boy xx ]]> Postnatal Support nikkiandzack http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/851745-anyone-wigan-need-some-baby-friends.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/851670-pnd-survivors.html Fri, 13 Jan 2012 16:30:12 GMT I thought I'd start a thread to help those of you suffering with PND, it would be great if those of us who've had it/still experiencing it could tell us your experiences, ways of coping or just offer help and advise to those who need it.
One thing I found when I was at my lowest was that the help available was pretty much near on non existant, people were quick to fob me off with antidepressants and they did nothing aside from numbing me to everything and everyone, they're good to get you quick help but I found from there no one bothered with me. There was no councelling offered and I felt like I was wasting everyone's time.

I apologise in advance for how long this will be.

I first fell pregnant with my now 7 year old son when I was 14, contraception had failed, but I was adamant I would deal with whatever was thrown at me, and started to look forward to the new life that was on the way. My pregnancy with him was fine, but I had major problems with my dad who at every opportunity told me I shouldn't be going through with it, even tried forcing me to get in the car with him so he could 'deal' with the problem. I cut all contact with him and things started looking up. My mum was brilliant and I gave birth to Tyler 5 months after my 15th birthday on 05/05/05, everything was great until 3 days after he was born and my mum had to return to work.. This is when it hit me, and she got home that night to find both me and him crying, I couldn't deal with it and had no interest in him. Luckily my mum made me go straight to the doctor that night, she wanted me to see how I went for a week as it could just have been the baby blues, but when Tyler was 10 days old nothign had changed and my mum had taken time off work to care for my son as I felt incapable, I started self harming and often had thoughts of ending it all. My health visitor came out and I scored 30 out of 30 on the PND check sheet, so she had me straight up the doctor for medication.
I was put straight onto a high dose and after the first few days of being on them things calmed down, I felt able to deal with my son again, but as a result the bond between us just wasn't there. He was closer to my mum, even today now he's almost 7 the bond between us is rubbish, he loves me as I love him but he'd rather be around his grandma and his dad, and his behavious towards me isn't too great, all this could have been solved had the doctor helped me the first day I went to see her. Baby blues should NEVER leave you feeling like your childs life would be better without you in it.

Two years later I fell pregnant whilst on the pill with my now 4 year old Jacob, things were a lot better but I was on the 'at risk' list with my doctors, midwives and health visitors, I was let down by them 2 months after Jacob was born when the PND kicked in full force, I dumped both kids on their dad and left to stay with my auntie, Jacob's crying used to get so bad he'd be sobbing for hours on end along with me. The health visitor at the time told me to 'pull myself together and stop being dramatic' One thing a depressed person does not need to hear is that people see it as something we can just turn on and off as and when it suits us.
I was hospitilised 4 times in the space of 3 months for self harm and was offered just one councelling session, a lot of the depression with Jacob stemmed from the fact I couldn't breastfeed him and it made me feel like I was useless and that he didn't need me as I couldn't even provide milk for him. My auntie was a brilliant help in this time, as was my mum who would bring the boys to me for short amounts of time regularly, again I was put on antidepressants to 'tide me over' until appointments were made, all of which never came through, I cut off all contact with the health visitors and went back to live with my mum, who had been signed off work to help care for me and her grandchildren, I learned to bond with my youngest and our bond today is still so strong, I'm so greatful to my mum for being such a rock, our bond is the strongets it's ever been :flower:

It took me until Jacob was 2 years old to finally stop self harming, by this time it wasn't as frequent as it had been and no where near as bad as the earlier days, I split with the boys dad as he was abusive towards me and met my now partner in 2010, since meeting him our lives have been so much better, and I'm proud to say I haven't self harmed in 2 years this March, it's been a long and very hard road getting to the stage I'm at now. I succesfully sued my doctors surgery for negligence and have had lots of councelling since, I've only in the last 3 months felt I could stop with those sessions despite their worry that it could all kick in again after the birth of Millie.

If it does I will deal with it, I know now that it's no good waiting for help to come to you, as hard as that is when it feels like there's no light at the end of the tunnel. I'm still on the 'at risk' list with my new doctors, but I have regular monthly appointments with them to make sure nothing happens in between those times that in itself has been a major help.

Partners need to be aware of just how sudden depression can come on, and if they notice something is not right to get help straight away, don't let doctors make you feel like you're wasting their time, that is what they are there for!

I hope by people keeping this thread going those who feel like they might have PND, been diagnosed with PND, or even just feeling a little low will be able to voice how they're feeling without the fear of being judged so that they can get the appropriate help and advice from those of us who've been in their situation before :flower: Feel free to PM me if you need to talk xx ]]> Postnatal Support 05mummy07 http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/851670-pnd-survivors.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/851048-pnd-not.html Thu, 12 Jan 2012 22:41:34 GMT Hey everyone!

I was pretty sure I had severe PND just a few weeks ago but now my mind is becoming more logical to things and I'm wondering whether its more related to my health problems atm. I have an assessment set up with an access team at the local hospital for CBT, but a PND counseller wants to speak to me next friday and I'm not sure how I feel about it now (she was very rude to my mother and OH on the phone to them!)

Tbh, I do worry about the way I'm feeling because I'm going through some concerns atm (bleeding investigations etc) and I'm beginning to wonder whether I'll be fine after my surgery in Feb when all is sorted out..

I do help with the baby, I do like to get out and about, although I have moments of weakness where I feel I can't cope, I do manage to pull myself back, I do still find interest in things when I'm having a better day, I have an appetite like a horse again, I like to keep busy etc... although its nice to have someone to talk to the person on the phone REALLy put me off talking to her as she was so abrupt when I booked an appointment and I don't really wanna talk to someone about stuff that I don't feel is bothering me!

Do you really think this is PND or perhaps just feeling anxiety about my upcoming surgery and health? I really just want to get better for my LO and family and so I can enjoy life like a normal person again!

I do cry, but only when I'm panicking about something to do with my health, like I'm having a bad day! ]]> Postnatal Support LuSmith http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/851048-pnd-not.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/850978-transfer-wtt-implants-pregnancy.html Thu, 12 Jan 2012 21:36:29 GMT Hi, I was referred over here as there might be some moms over here that have experience with the issue I'm currently faced with.

I just got breast implants last month and I love them. I waited 10 years to get them and I finally am happy with the way I look. Yay! But since it took me so long to get them, I'm now two years away from TTC and am worried that after I have my kids and breast feed, my implants will be ruined and I'll have to get a revision surgery. :-(

Has anyone had implants before getting pregnant and if so, how did the implants look afterwards? I'm not so much worried about the implants effect on my pregnancy (there's nothing to worry about there), rather I'm worried about the pregnancy's effects on the implants. ]]> Postnatal Support babyzoe http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/850978-transfer-wtt-implants-pregnancy.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/850707-anyone-ever-had-have-surgery-down-there.html Thu, 12 Jan 2012 17:38:43 GMT Piles :(

Im going tomorrow for my first hospital appointment, my GP says Ill need surgery coz they're pretty bad.

I am DREADING it.

Anyone else had this & experiences? xx ]]> Postnatal Support Linzi http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/850707-anyone-ever-had-have-surgery-down-there.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/850190-do-you-know-u-have-postnatal-depression.html Thu, 12 Jan 2012 08:34:18 GMT X X ]]> Postnatal Support blondebabe http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/850190-do-you-know-u-have-postnatal-depression.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/849790-cant-cope-my-babys-crying.html Wed, 11 Jan 2012 20:30:44 GMT I have an 'Angel' baby who is so happy and easy and just quite amazing. He is though a baby and he does cry ...

The problem is that the moment he starts to cry I can feel myself getting really anxious and perhaps even a bit angry. I can't help myself and its not like I am going to do something to him - I just can't handle it.

Does anyone feel this way?

Yes, I leave him and I count to 10, etc. But I just don't understand why I feel so overwelmed? ]]> Postnatal Support Darlingdamsel http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/849790-cant-cope-my-babys-crying.html http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/849390-red-blotchy-patches.html Wed, 11 Jan 2012 14:14:12 GMT Hi everyone over the last few weeks (started a few weeks before christmas) I started to get little red rings on the top of my left. it then started... Hi everyone
over the last few weeks (started a few weeks before christmas) I started to get little red rings on the top of my left. it then started to appear on my arms in my elbow crese. now it is all over the back of my left and on my left arm. They go up and down in hours and sometimes go all red.
Im going to the DRs tomorrow about it but does ANYONE have any idea of what this could be?
Also experienced the hair loss thing which im aware that plenty of mums get.
Also having some pains inside my body.

i think it might be stress related or diet related. So ive now out myself on a strict diet and the pains are reducing...

anyone else with similar problems? ]]> Postnatal Support nikkiandzack http://www.babyandbump.com/postnatal-support/849390-red-blotchy-patches.html