http://www.babyandbump.com/ en Fri, 10 Feb 2012 05:04:23 GMT vBulletin 60 http://www.babyandbump.com/images/bnb2/misc/rss.jpg http://www.babyandbump.com/ http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/874696-meeting-headteacher.html Tue, 07 Feb 2012 12:51:32 GMT So I have a meeting with headteacher today for my oldest son....8. I came home to a letter yesterday advising me that they were putting him on a... So I have a meeting with headteacher today for my oldest son....8.
I came home to a letter yesterday advising me that they were putting him on a behaviour contract!!

Basically what happened was a few weeks before xmas the headteacher called me to let me know that he was involved in a fight and got involved when this was nothing to do with him! I said I would speak to him about it to find out what happened, now I know my child and know when he is lying...anyway. What had happened was that 2 boys were fighting and my son was looking on, another little boy got involved and ended up hitting my son so my son pushed him. This was the incident she was talking about him getting involved when he shouldn't have been.

I met with her and told her that my son has been told that if someone hits him he has to hit back and stick up for himself as I won't have him ending up being bullied at school. She said to me thats not school policy which I then told her I accept but if my child is sticking up for himself he won't be punished by us.

She then went on to say that it's happening a lot within his class (there's a lot of boys and a few of them clash) and rather than sit down and talk about it they are too quick to resort to hitting. I'm thinking FFS they are 8, they are not going to say 'Lets sit down and talk this through'.

Anyway, kind of going on a rant here. So I have asked to meet with her regarding the letter as at the start she goes on to say that Dillon's behaviour has improved since the incident and she's really happy with that....but they're going to stick him on a behaviour record anyway and monitor him in the playground! Kind of contradicting themselves, why say to a child 'oh you've been behaving really well but lets record your behaviour anyway'!

She will be getting told today that I will not have my child going on to the behaviour record, unless his behaviour really deteriorates which I can't see happening. Only a few weeks before the above incident happened we had parents evening and his teacher couldn't speak more highly of him and certainly never mentioned any bad behaviour!

Wish me luck....haven't been in the headteachers office since High school lol x ]]> Vonnie18 http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/874696-meeting-headteacher.html http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/871726-your-kid-s-your-pregnancy.html Fri, 03 Feb 2012 21:45:25 GMT The reason I ask, is because I'm 36 weeks pregnant, and my 12 year old daughter isn't taking it well.

My husband left us a while back, so it is just me and her in the house.

I first told her I was pregnant when I was 2 months gone, and she didn't take it very well. Tears and all that.

Skip forward to now, and yesterday she told me she's scared when she's around me, in case I go into labour and it's just her around.

I can understand what she means, but no matter what I say she keeps saying she's frightened.

I guess she's been reading a few stories of women who have gone into labour and had to push the baby out in the living room floor, and she's scared that will happen to me and she'll be the only one around.

What can I do ? :shrug:

P.S. I posted this in the Third Trimester forum too but I'm not sure where it should go. Sorry if I've posted it in the wrong place. ]]> nic85 http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/871726-your-kid-s-your-pregnancy.html http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/870709-first-post-here-books-little-boys.html Thu, 02 Feb 2012 20:49:29 GMT Hiya, My son is loving books like the Captain Flinn and the Pirate Dinosaurs... Hiya,

My son is loving books like the Captain Flinn and the Pirate Dinosaurs series at the moment . And I feel like he's liking things that are more little boy-ish than toddler-ish! He likes things bodily fluid based and silly. He loves pirates, dinosaurs, dragons, knights, cars etc!

Does anyone have any other recommendations? ]]> isil http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/870709-first-post-here-books-little-boys.html http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/870685-14-year-old-cough-10-days-fever-7-day-counting.html Thu, 02 Feb 2012 20:26:20 GMT Maybe somebody can give me advice, or any thoughts about what could possibly be wrong with my sister.

She's 14 years old. She's had a dry-ish cough for about 10 days now with a fever that comes and goes for about 7 days now. At night her fever reaches about 39.2 C (37 is the norm - i think) She has cold sweats.

Took her to the walk in clinic - was told it was nothing and to go home and rest. Took her to the family doctor 2 days later and was told it was nothing as well. Prescribed a stronger version of cough syrup.

I'm kind of getting concerned. Is it normal to have a fever for more than 7 days? I mean she's taking about 4 advil/tylenols a day now... just the thought of how much medication she's taking scares me.

Any thoughts or advice would be great!! i googled some stuff and came up with Tuberculosis... but i don't want to scare myself... ]]> tung http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/870685-14-year-old-cough-10-days-fever-7-day-counting.html http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/869581-shes-behind-school.html Wed, 01 Feb 2012 18:53:21 GMT I feel bad. Madeleine's teacher took me aside at school today to say she's falling behind with her reading and writing, ie: she can't read at all and she can only write her name. We're going to have a proper chat tomorrow about it.

I feel bad because we could be doing more at home, it's just she's so tired and often she refuses to do school stuff at home because she says it makes her head hurt!

Im also worried she might be dyslexic or have other special needs or something that's going to make the rest of her life difficult.

She had a hearing test done the other day and scored low, they're going to do it again in march. If her hearing is bad, I wouldn't be suprised because it runs in my family, and it would explain why she only learnt to talk when she was three, and she's still a little bit behind with her talking.

This is all new to me because at school I was an annoying overachiever and I found everything so easy, whereas Madeleine's finding things hard. ]]> hellohefalump http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/869581-shes-behind-school.html http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/869169-face-painters.html Wed, 01 Feb 2012 10:41:12 GMT I have just started out to be a professional face painter, local events, kids parties etc and wondered what you guys would think is acceptable to... I have just started out to be a professional face painter, local events, kids parties etc and wondered what you guys would think is acceptable to charge or what you would personally pay.

I have researched online and I'e seen prices range for £30 an hour to £60. In my local area there is someone who charges £20 an hour and I just wouldn't make any money as a full kit of paints are over £100, then you have brushes, sponges, mirrors, chairs gazebos etc..

I am charging £40 for 1 hour, £60 for 2 and £75 for 3, is this too expensive? ]]> Gems89 http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/869169-face-painters.html http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/867262-would-love-some-opinions-advice.html Mon, 30 Jan 2012 13:36:19 GMT I have 2 girls ages 9 and 11. I have been taking them to school and picking them up for the last 3 years. This cost me roughly $240.00 a month. The... I have 2 girls ages 9 and 11. I have been taking them to school and picking them up for the last 3 years. This cost me roughly $240.00 a month. The reason I do this is because when they were the bus they learned many words and action that no small children should not know. I tried going to bus driver and over him with this but really there isn't much you can do when you mix kids ranging from 5 to 18 yrs old. Now my dh wants to put them back on the bus to help save money. But I feel you can not put a price on a child's innocence. And I remember learning way to much at that age from riding the bus. I feel they are to young and impressionable at this age to be around older boys who hormones are raging. Am I wrong to just keep taking them even with the gas cost? I feel like I'm alone in feeling this way. And dh just says it is part of growing up and I can't shelter them forever. Please give me your thoughts on this. ]]> Luvnmy2 http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/867262-would-love-some-opinions-advice.html http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/867062-outgrowing-size-6-nappies-did-you-do.html Mon, 30 Jan 2012 09:20:52 GMT LO wears size 6 nappies throughout the night...Hes not quiet ready to be nappy free just yet. However recently I have noticed how he is leaking... LO wears size 6 nappies throughout the night...Hes not quiet ready to be nappy free just yet. However recently I have noticed how he is leaking during the night. He doesn't have drinks late at night so I can't even say it is due to that. What do I do now? Do I buy pull ups? I know I can't get nappies bigger than size 6? Any advice? X ]]> LaDY http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/867062-outgrowing-size-6-nappies-did-you-do.html http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/867054-your-3-4-year-olds-often-did-they-go-nursery.html Mon, 30 Jan 2012 09:11:57 GMT I know between this age they get 15hrs free funding. I was just wondering did you put your children in for half days or full days? X I know between this age they get 15hrs free funding. I was just wondering did you put your children in for half days or full days? X ]]> LaDY http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/867054-your-3-4-year-olds-often-did-they-go-nursery.html http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/864673-futon-bunk-beds-kids-teenagers.html Fri, 27 Jan 2012 12:33:31 GMT Not always a Teenage want bunk beds and often times sharing a room with less than desirable. However, if you already have bunk beds, or are looking... Not always a Teenage want bunk beds and often times sharing a room with less than desirable. However, if you already have bunk beds, or are looking for a room that both your kids and teenagers after use, can be a futon bunk bed ideal choice to provide that transition as a result they grow.

The best thing about futon bunk beds that can convert lower bunk often foldable couch. This can be beneficial for adolescents and their space may be more customizable to allow for more control and individuality. Teens will spend more time in their rooms then the average child. Privacy and alone time is much more important for teenagers and provide them with means to be diverse in their activities may have permanent effects on development for a teenager.


___________________________________ ]]> Arash010 http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/864673-futon-bunk-beds-kids-teenagers.html http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/863199-do-you-take-your-younger-children-funerals-4-6-y-o.html Wed, 25 Jan 2012 20:56:54 GMT Is in inappropriate to take a 4 and 5 year old to a non-relative funeral viewing? Would you do it? Have you done it? Thoughts? Thanks. Is in inappropriate to take a 4 and 5 year old to a non-relative funeral viewing? Would you do it? Have you done it? Thoughts?

Thanks. ]]> MommynWaiting http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/863199-do-you-take-your-younger-children-funerals-4-6-y-o.html http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/862999-seriously-long-going-last.html Wed, 25 Jan 2012 17:59:50 GMT Daniel started school in Sept 2011. He did mornings only from 2nd week of Sept to 8th Nov, then he went onto full days. He sleeps at night from 8pm... Daniel started school in Sept 2011. He did mornings only from 2nd week of Sept to 8th Nov, then he went onto full days.
He sleeps at night from 8pm to 7.30am and also naps in an afternoon when he gets home from school on Mon, Wed and Thurs, with naps also on a Sat or Sun.

I may be being overprotective but i think he is still really struggling with being tired. Before Christmas Wed's were our worst day, he'd be really grumpy going home from school and his behaviour was awful. Since going back to school in Jan that Wed has now turned into Wed, Fri and sometimes Thurs. So i have 2 or 3 days when getting him home from school is a nightmare and he's so overtired on a Fri that he actually can't fall to sleep for his nap.

I know that he will get used to it but it seems to be taking so long. Everyone else at school had a bad first term but it's been getting better for them whereas it just seems to be getting worse for us.
He has been going to bed earlier on some evenings when he really isn't coping but i don't want to get into the habit of putting him into bed at 6.30pm..
He really enjoys school btw.

Anything i could be doing to help him or is it just a case of riding it out? ]]> RachA http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/862999-seriously-long-going-last.html http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/862721-older-mums-advice-please.html Wed, 25 Jan 2012 13:35:26 GMT I have wrote a letter to my mum about sex and cotraception and wondered what you mums would think or say if you received this letter from your... I have wrote a letter to my mum about sex and cotraception and wondered what you mums would think or say if you received this letter from your daughter?
I would love to hear your opinions please I'm hoping to give this to her tomorrow.
Oh and btw I'm 19 :) x

Mum this isn't the easiest thing for me to speak about to you, as it's normally you speaking bout it to me, I know your thoughts on the subject of sex, but if you would please just listen to me,without saying anything, I would be very
Grateful.
Its taken me a while to pluck up the courage to bring this to your attention but its eating me inside not being honest with my MUM. *I feel that this is the right time for me to talk to you about sex and contraception as i am well of age now, even though I wished you brought the 'contraception ' subject to me as i would of felt less awkward bringing it up to you on my own back lol Never mind I guess you didn't think you had a reason too and thought I would come to you, I just want to bring this to your attention mum because I know you would want me too and its a grown up thing to do I want
to tell you*that I have had sex and I am sexually active now, and i want you to know that serhan never forced me into anything,it was something I was ready for.*
Because i am having sex now i want to make sure I'm having SAFE sex and I am considering going on the pill for extra protection.*
I would be very grateful for your support mum. I feel much better telling you this because it's always playing on my mind, I'm sure this honesty will bring us closer. Like mum and daughter should be. :) ok once you have seen my letter please don't come to me about it straight away lol x LOVE YOU MUM. x **

Remi x ]]> 12BeeMummy http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/862721-older-mums-advice-please.html http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/862316-5-year-old-wont-eat-dinner.html Tue, 24 Jan 2012 22:52:44 GMT Hey everyone, I have a little girl who will be 5 in March. She is a REALLY fussy eater and refuses most dinners. She eats breakfast, nibbles on her... Hey everyone, I have a little girl who will be 5 in March. She is a REALLY fussy eater and refuses most dinners. She eats breakfast, nibbles on her packed lunch and won't eat dinner at all.

She has been referred to the dietician who told me just to ignore her when she doesn't eat as she does it for attention. I have really tried this for the last 3 weeks and she is no better. In fact her behaviour is now getting really bad and I'm sure that it's linked to her being hungry all the time.

Anyone had a similar experience or can offer any advice?? ]]> Rainbowpea http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/862316-5-year-old-wont-eat-dinner.html http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/860910-son-ill-virus-more-serious.html Mon, 23 Jan 2012 17:16:46 GMT Hi, i know things go round this time of year, but this morning my son woke with a headache so i gave him some paracetamol and told the teacher to... Hi, i know things go round this time of year, but this morning my son woke with a headache so i gave him some paracetamol and told the teacher to ring if it doesnt go, anyway they didnt ring and when i collected my son from school he was crying with the pain in his head, i was furious that they didnt ring me and told him that they will see how he goes, i wish i hadnt put him in school now, i gave him some more paracetamol when we got home but he then vomited twice since, and has hot and cold fever, iv been the a & e a few times in the past and sent home with it being viral, but he has never had aheadache so painful, could this be more serious or viral? i cant do anything until my partner comes home cos i have his other brother and the baby, he is having a nap atm in bed and hasnt been sick since, cant help but worry il probably take him later just to be on the safe side but in the mean time im up and down checking on him and seeing to baby etc, i dont know much about headaches in children any advice pls. ]]> julietz http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/860910-son-ill-virus-more-serious.html http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/859806-not-wanting-play-alone-normal.html Sun, 22 Jan 2012 14:17:54 GMT I am finding as my son is getting older and older he appears to struggle to play alone. He always wants me to play with him. Even if I want to wash... I am finding as my son is getting older and older he appears to struggle to play alone. He always wants me to play with him. Even if I want to wash up etc the only way I seem to keep him occupied is if he comes and helps me, which is great or if I put the television on...the tv is the only thing he can do alone.

Is this normal? X ]]> LaDY http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/859806-not-wanting-play-alone-normal.html http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/858618-do-you-deal-ex-resentment.html Fri, 20 Jan 2012 22:07:34 GMT I'm a full time step-mom to my fabulous SD since she was just 9yrs old (and she's now 14 and a freshman in High School).

Here is the issue I've have to deal with over the past 5 1/2 yrs... my resentment towards her biological mom (my husbands ex). I won't get into too much detail... but she has always been a struggle. It was much worse when my SD was younger- as she tried to brain wash her or tell her it was her Dad's fault she didn't see her more (even though it was choices she made in life that got her daughter taken away from her)... there is much much more... but it's all sad and frustrating and not really the point. Except as a way to understand why she get's to me so much... She only now, in the past 2yrs, has had more consistent visits. And in the past year has "acted" better than usual and things have been more calm (which is so much better for my SD). Her mom still has issues... but less and less as time progresses when it comes to visitations etc...

My issue is I have SO much resentment towards her that whenever my SD is actually happy to see her mom or talks highly of her (which, granted, isn't all that often)- I actually get jealous! It almost like I feel betrayed by my SD, which is SO NOT FAIR to her and certainly not her intention or her fault. It's my issue. But because I'm the actual parent and the one that sets boundaries and rules... my SD even calls me when she's in her mom's care to ask if this or that is OK... I feel offended on some level that she even wants to be with her mom. I know that isn't right. I should be HAPPY when her mom is actually being good and following through... that is how it should be. Period. I know that. I'm an intelligent and reasonable woman...

But somehow, the feelings are still there. And honestly, I'm thinking maybe I need to seek counseling to learn how to deal with them in a better way- cause just the mention of her mom makes my blood boil. And please know I've NEVER said any of this to my SD... I fake it and act happy for her (but she has to sense it on some level, she's not dumb). I have also always been very cordial to her mom... even though I can't stand the woman. Because of how she treated my SD and hubby over the years.

Maybe it's hormone related, I just dont' even want to hear my SD say anything good about her mom. Then I feel horrible for feeling that way... cause she should say good things about her.

Ugh... I just hope someone can relate, even a little? Even if your situation isn't exactly the same? Anyone...???? ]]> seoj http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/858618-do-you-deal-ex-resentment.html http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/858027-periods.html Fri, 20 Jan 2012 11:01:07 GMT Well my 11 year old cane to ne yesterday saying there was blood when she wiped last night we had talked a few weeks ago about this so wasn't tooooo much of a shock but this morning she says there's been no more blood at all is that normal I can't remember lol ]]> twinkle22 http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/858027-periods.html http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/857513-present-5-year-old-boy.html Thu, 19 Jan 2012 19:49:09 GMT My son has been invited to a birthday party of a neighbours son he is going to be 5. What kind of things do 5 year olds like, ive no idea what to get... My son has been invited to a birthday party of a neighbours son he is going to be 5. What kind of things do 5 year olds like, ive no idea what to get him haha? :flower: ]]> KiansMummy http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/857513-present-5-year-old-boy.html http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/855134-conversation-6-year-old.html Tue, 17 Jan 2012 14:46:11 GMT Landon: I'm the cutest. Then you, Mom. Then Mallory. Then Daddy.
Me: Really? Well, I think Lucy is the cutest.
Landon: But Lucy is just a kitty!
Me: And you're just a little boy.
Landon: You're just an old woman!

I'm 26, and an old woman :( ]]> jenmc226 http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/855134-conversation-6-year-old.html http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/854817-5-year-old-questioning-interracial-relationship.html Tue, 17 Jan 2012 08:14:10 GMT My 5 year old daughter has started asking me questions about why she doesn't look a lot like me, but looks a lot like her father (my husband is black and I am white)?

I have tried to explain to her about genes and that she has a lot of her father's genes, but she doesn't think that she is my child. I've started to become worried as I want her to know that she is mine. Anyone else have a similar problem and can someone offer any advice?? ]]> adoringmum http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/854817-5-year-old-questioning-interracial-relationship.html http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/854247-high-fever-do.html Mon, 16 Jan 2012 17:44:52 GMT My son's temperature is 40.9 (104.9). Does he need to see a doctor? He really doesn't have any other symptoms. ]]> JASMAK http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/854247-high-fever-do.html http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/854102-would-you-did-you-look-childminder-daycare.html Mon, 16 Jan 2012 15:11:50 GMT Just doing some research and would like some opinions please :) have to change my career path and was seriously considering childminding. that way... Just doing some research and would like some opinions please :)

have to change my career path and was seriously considering childminding. that way i can stay at home with Jakey too :)

What things do you look for in a childminder?
e.g toys?
activities (inside and outside)?
if they can drive?
what their house is like?
what their garden is like?
area?
pets?
qualifications?
price? etc.

thanks everyone :flower: ]]> milf2be http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/854102-would-you-did-you-look-childminder-daycare.html http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/853608-very-long-vent-my-teenager-dh.html Sun, 15 Jan 2012 22:57:25 GMT OMG I am so pissed off. I cant even begin to explain how mad I am . Im ready to just say screw it. My oldest son past two days has treated me and... OMG I am so pissed off. I cant even begin to explain how mad I am . Im ready to just say screw it.

My oldest son past two days has treated me and his bros like crap. I mean to the T, cornered me, told me I will listen to him cus he feels hes better than me and more, intimidated and such. Told me Im ruining his life, I am yelling all the time, he hates it here and more. So fine. DH got in his face and told him to not speak to me that way and not use his height to his advantage to get what he wants. hes 5 7 and im 4 10, my son is so tall compared to me and he knows I wont paddle his butt, but omg iI almost did. I thought DH was going to hit him. Some family says he would of deserved it since he almost hit his own mom. He even beats his brothers up and calls them names if he doesnt get his way, and I get told by the older 4 dad that its cus he first born he feels he can do it and just let him do it, its a phase. Wow when my older 3 are scared to be alone with him, I gotta let him do it? I dont think so. I draw the line.

ANyways, he storms out and I force him to leave his cell here. He did. So mad at me, but he did. He left, said hes never coming back, so I said fine you have till cerfew be home or the police come looking for you. well last night he came home with attitude still and demads his phone. I ignored him. I demanded an apology and more. He gave me a half arse one and to me that didnt cut it. ALL cus I asked him to clean his room, like really? To say all there is is yelling here? Well sure once in a while, but gotta expect that with 6 kids. I guess it was too hard for him to give me an apology and acknowledgement that this behaviour is NOT right.

At first I thought he knew of newbaby so took it out on me like #6 . I had to send him to live with his dad cus I was scared of him.He came back after a long long long talk and such. Well Im back to being scared of him and I havent told him or the others yet of the new baby. I told him to go to his room and I will not be speaking ot him till I feel ready. So I didnt see him till today. He came up, snarky and more (room in basement suite) and I let it be. Then he starts to talk to me like nothing ever happened. Fine thats my son, he does that. So he asks me for money to go snowboarding..Im like seriously? 12 hrs ago you hated me but Im good for the money? WOw NO! I have the money but its certainly not for that. I explained to him I have 180 for his ball hockey league and 75 for groceries, THATS IT. He kept asking me, So its a no? I repeated myself, yes its a no Im sorry. Few minutes goes by, AGAIN is it a no? I said yes did you not hear me? So he slams down the snowboarding boots form his younger brothers to the ground nd says this is BullS*** I said excuse me? He said dont you raise your voice to me. I said you know what, F** OFF dont talkt o me that way. I dont havet he money, ask your dad. So he did and his dad said no. LOL so omg that made him even more mad. he storms off to his room saying this is bullsh** again. I was like holy crap.

Having issues with him at school , doing work and attendance..I think his friends have a big role in all of this and I dont know how to stop him from hanging with them cus he will find away some how. He has no care in the world it seems. I asked him to clean his room, do his homework, attend school on time, put garbage out once a week, watch his mouth, have a shower twice a week at minimum, brush his teeth and thats it THATS ALL he has to do each week. What kid has this little to do?

Dh wakes up from his nap this afternoon befor his shift tonight and I explain to him what Sean is doing again, and hes like ok fine, give Sean the $180 for his ball hockey and tell him to do what he wants with it and he gets no ball hockey. OMG I snapped. I literally just about lost it on DH. I said NO WAY. I will not be one to be dictated by even you to give whats in my wallet I said to DH, so your letting him get away with speaking ot me that way and having run of what money I have in my walet. I think its bettr he have 3 months of ball hockey then having 1 day and blowing the rest. NO WAY. I will not teach him a lesson this way. Thats just giving in, to me its giving in. If I give him the money, then come ball hockey season he will B**** wanting money to play and that its boring and go and hit his brothers and beat them up and intimidate me like hes been doing these days. Ya OK I much rather have him B**** about ONE day of boredom and realize that I am doing whats best, than to have him tell me whats best.

OMG DH got so defensive and said to me, Im sorry I should of thought about it clearly. Like ya, really you should of.

Was I out of line being all mad,was I out of line with how I was with him yesterday?

Hes going to be 15 in March, I certainly want to raise respectful men, I dont want one that can think he can talk to woemn like a peice of Sh**. his dad used to to do that to me, my DH used to, but we went to counselling and things have been better. Ugh, this sucks. I hate this I hate this I hate this. i am fearing telling the kids of the new baby incase he flips on me. ]]> mommy2lilmen http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/853608-very-long-vent-my-teenager-dh.html http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/853507-puberty-already-bit-reassuance-needed.html Sun, 15 Jan 2012 20:37:26 GMT i was just bathing my 8yr old n noticed she is developing breasts i was a little shocked she wasnt at all phazed n said they been like it a few days... i was just bathing my 8yr old n noticed she is developing breasts i was a little shocked she wasnt at all phazed n said they been like it a few days
we are quite open about what happpens as girls & boys get older n she shares a room with her 15yr old sister she also has another sister 17yrs old
the older 2 were quite late developers the 15yr old only last yr n my 17yr old at 13 nearly 14yrs n i was 16
i wasnt epecting anything yet anyone had experience with early developers give me some reassurance please:blush::blush: ]]> mommy43 http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/853507-puberty-already-bit-reassuance-needed.html http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/853212-would-you-do.html Sun, 15 Jan 2012 14:30:04 GMT Hi everyone i haven't been on for a while but i have a problem and could do with some advice off other mums,my son is 8 years old he is in year 4 at school,well ever since he was around 3 years old he has had a bad phobia of dolls and mannequins he s petrified of them to the point where we cant go clothes shopping with him or museums anything like that and my nieces have to be very understanding and keep dolls away from him,etc.He has been to see a child phycoligist about it too and we have been to see them a few times now and they have talked us through how to work on it slowly to try to overcome his phobia eventually,at the moment we have got to the point where we have a little doll on the shelf i our living room and he will just about let it stay there.Well his teachers at school are also aware of his phobia because obviosly i have had to tell them about it so they can also make sure that he isn't put in any situation at school where he has to go near to dolls or mannequins,well about a mnth ago he came out of school really upset because a girl in his class had bought a doll i to show everyone,and when he got upset and scared one of the teachers assistants in his class instead of just taking him out of class told him"oh don't be silly",well i wasn't happy and the next day i went in and made sure they knew it and they said sorry it won't happen again and they didn't think he was that bad with dolls,they thought it was more mannequins,so said ok fair enough.then on friday he came out of school and i could tell there was something wrong with him but he wouldn't tell me what because he said he didn't want me to go mad and go in or the teacher would be horrible to him,well once we got home i convinced him to tell me,he said that that afternoon in class he felt like he had something in his eye so he was pulling his eyelid down,messing with his eye and the boy sitting next to him said err don't do that and then went to tell one of the teachers telling on him, which just happened to be the one who upset him before and he said she came over to him and said in a nasty voice "how would you like it if i waved a doll in your face",now is it just me or would anyone else be mad about this i have been fuming all weekend about this,i think it is really in appropriate to say this to a 8 year old who has a bad phobia,to me sounding like a threatening way too,also she said it infront of other children in the class who will most probably tease him about it now too,as some of them did before but now they have forgot all about and this stupid cow has just refreshed there memories again,what would you do if this was your son?,i want to go in school tomorrow morning as i am fuming but don't know if to say something to the class teacer and assistant who said it or just go straight to the head teacher,my son doesn't want me to say anything because he says if i do she will be nasty to him,but to me she already has been and i don't think she should get way with it, i could honestly go in there and smack her one i am that mad,would you go in about it? and if so how would you handle it?,and who would you speak to?, i can't just let this lie :nope: ]]> nikki2512 http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/853212-would-you-do.html http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/852957-ok-so-kinda-embarrassing-need-some-advice.html Sun, 15 Jan 2012 03:41:02 GMT My daughter is 9 and is still wearing Good Nights to bed. I took her to the DR last year and she said that she is probably just a heavy sleeper or... My daughter is 9 and is still wearing Good Nights to bed. I took her to the DR last year and she said that she is probably just a heavy sleeper or her bladder isn't fully developed. I feel like I have tried everything! I don't give her anything to drink about 2.5 hours before bed, I have even woken her up in the middle of the night to take her to the bathroom, she usually has already went or will go by the time she wakes up in the morning. It is just easier to keep her in the good nights than changing and washing sheets every day.She doesn't poop in them and she doesn't need them at all during the day.. She stopped regular diapers during the day when she was 2. Any advice would be appreciated. :( ]]> Ali33 http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/852957-ok-so-kinda-embarrassing-need-some-advice.html http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/852783-night-terrors.html Sat, 14 Jan 2012 22:03:45 GMT my 4 year old daughter is having night terrors (i think thats what she is having) for months now and i thought she would grow out of them, she is... my 4 year old daughter is having night terrors (i think thats what she is having) for months now and i thought she would grow out of them, she is having them EVERY night, screaming and crying and talking but we cant really make out what she is saying, but tonight has just got worse, we heard a thud and thought she had fallen out her bed but she was actually banging her head against the wall crying and shouting stop!stop!! i dont know what to do anymore, i dont want her hurting herself ]]> xashleyx http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/852783-night-terrors.html http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/852306-pictures-picture-pictures-argggghhhhhhhh.html Sat, 14 Jan 2012 10:21:57 GMT Hi all im new to this part of baby n bump ( didnt know this bit was here lol) anyways I have 3 LOs and 1 cooking :baby: they are madison 10, Bailey 6... Hi all im new to this part of baby n bump ( didnt know this bit was here lol) anyways I have 3 LOs and 1 cooking :baby: they are madison 10, Bailey 6 and Logan 7mths and my question isssssss what do you all do with the 300000 millions pictures your lil lovelies make you? I figure im gettin at least 3 a day, sometimes 10 (mostly all bailey at the min) but at end of term etc I get millions of them, some great some errrrr not so wonderful lol like a squiggle on a full piece of A3. So far I have been keeping them a day or 2 till they have forgotten them and then quietly binning them, except the ones that make it too the fridge, they stay for ages before the errrr safe place (bin). I feel awful chucking them but what else can I do with them? anyone got any useful ideas as im a bit tired of feeling mean when a rogue pic is spotted :blush: but with 3/4 kids im soon gonna be living in a stack of stick people, flowers, butterflys and love hearts :kiss: So any advice plzzzzz xoxoxoxox ]]> loobylou29 http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/852306-pictures-picture-pictures-argggghhhhhhhh.html http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/852141-ahhh-venting.html Sat, 14 Jan 2012 01:26:59 GMT I am a pregnant mom who has 3 kids already. My oldest son, Caleb who thinks he calls the shots all of the time. Then my daughter Shaela that is 7,... I am a pregnant mom who has 3 kids already. My oldest son, Caleb who thinks he calls the shots all of the time. Then my daughter Shaela that is 7, feels that our chore chart doesn't apply to her. My 3 year old son Christian, does a few things around the house to help, nothing big. My complaint doesn't lie with just chores, but mostly with them keeping their spaces orderly so they're able to find their school things on school days. We've bought different organizational items to make their bedrooms easier on the eyes/ easier for them to take care of and NOTHING is working! Why do kids not have pride in their belongings anymore? Am I catering to them too much?:wacko: ]]> sarahgx4 http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/852141-ahhh-venting.html http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/851955-dont-know-teach-son-wipe-his-bottom.html Fri, 13 Jan 2012 21:28:16 GMT My son will be 6 next month and till now I have been wiping his butt for him when he poos but recently it has been happening at school and he's coming back with underwear full of left over poo :nope:
I have tried to teach him by holding his hand and showing him but he's just not getting it well and is too busy with out stuff going on around him he doesn't give me his 100% attention when trying to teach him..
Is there a special way or technique anyone knows of to help with this mission??
today I took picked him up from school and had to take him straight to therapy (speech therapy) my nose has been blocked lately and can barely smell..so a little while into therapy they asked me to come in and were telling me how his undies were all poopy!! I was so embarrassed :dohh:
at what age are they supposed to know how to do it themselves? ]]> LilianA http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/851955-dont-know-teach-son-wipe-his-bottom.html http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/850783-cant-cope-my-kids.html Thu, 12 Jan 2012 18:37:25 GMT I never thought id be posting that i cant cope but its true, i have a 1yr old girl who is such a good baby, she is very clingy atm but thats because... I never thought id be posting that i cant cope but its true, i have a 1yr old girl who is such a good baby, she is very clingy atm but thats because she is teething, its the older kids i cant cope with , i have 10yr old twin boys who just want to fight all the time and its driving me nuts, its not serious its mostly playful pretend fighting but sometimes someone gets hurt, i dont like them doing it in front of the baby, you would think they are old enough to understand but sometimes i feel like they dont care, tonight i am so stressed that i feel ill, when i finaly come to eat my tea after feeding everyone, theres banging from the other room, i ended up sending them to their rooms and throwing it away, dont get any time to myself anymore, i do the house work, there is always something that needs doing, dad works until 8pm, they have 3 computer consoles ps3, xbox, but i banned the live, wii, ds, board games etc, i do things with them when i can but baby takes up most of my time, why do they do this? is it going to get worse, any ideas pls, i have lots of patience thats why they play on me, they are better for their dad but thats probably cos hes stricter, rant over sorry. ]]> julietz http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/850783-cant-cope-my-kids.html http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/849550-am-just-being-paranoid-friendship-issues.html Wed, 11 Jan 2012 16:43:15 GMT I remember not having friends all through infant/junior school and it really worries me that Daniel will have the same problem. Although i was... I remember not having friends all through infant/junior school and it really worries me that Daniel will have the same problem. Although i was really quite shy but Daniel isn't.

When i picked Daniel up from school today he told me that no one wants to come to our house to play with him. He said he'd asked two of his friends but they both said they didn't want to. I asked him if he wanted me to ask their mummies if they could come round and he said yes.

I don't know if that is what i should be doing or what. Obviously he can't go round inviting people over but what if i ask their mum's and the boys don't want to come round? I can't bare the thought of him really wanting friends but no-one wanting to be friends with him. ]]> RachA http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/849550-am-just-being-paranoid-friendship-issues.html http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/849273-unable-view-school-primary-school-before-deadline.html Wed, 11 Jan 2012 12:08:42 GMT I am currently in the process of applying for primary schools. There was one school with fantastic ofsted reports that I wanted to view however they... I am currently in the process of applying for primary schools. There was one school with fantastic ofsted reports that I wanted to view however they can't fit me in until after the deadline date? What would you do? I still want to apply to the school but I don't know what number to put them down at? Annoyed at myself for leaving it so late! X ]]> LaDY http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/849273-unable-view-school-primary-school-before-deadline.html http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/849243-spoiled-lazy.html Wed, 11 Jan 2012 11:31:03 GMT right off the bat let me admit that its partially my fault and I know it. I was a single mom from the time my daughter was 4 till 3 years ago and... right off the bat let me admit that its partially my fault and I know it.

I was a single mom from the time my daughter was 4 till 3 years ago and she is now 14. Im also active duty military.

she has always had a light load as far as chores go. she has never really had to do dishes every day or her own laundry and I gave up the battle on her room long ago.

she is crazy smart, a huge reader, and basically a good kid. Now to what is driving me to tears.

she now has 2 responsibilites. When her step dad isnt home (he works 2 days straight off 2 days and works every other weekend) she is supposed to potty our two boxers, water and feed them and do the dishes. When he isnt home, there isnt many dishes because I dont normally make a huge meal, usually just a skillet meal.

weve had issues with her doing the dishes. Ive explained my expectations (and to step dad who seems to have the same issue with dishes), collect the dishes, rinse them, run the dishwasher, wipe the counters and stove, and sweep the kitchen (only a 10x10 space). Ive explained why I want those things done but I am still fighting to get her to do them!!!!! she wont wipe the counters or sweep. she puts dirty dishes away so the dishwasher is empty for the new dishes. she wont load the whole dishwasher then runs it. I went to get a cup this morning and it was still very obviously dirty! there were spots of dark soda all over the outside and the inside!!! I cant tell you how many times she has had to be made to do the dishes for a solid week or more and its not working!

and the dogs! I wake her up an hour before she needs to leave. I have told her, potty the dogs first over and over and over. yet she is still dashing out the door, "oh I forgot".

she forgets to feed them, even though I have told her to feed them at 4pm every day. I had to take her dinner away from her and I made her wait an hour from the time she fixed it because when she sat down an hour past the time to feed the dogs to eat, she admitted she hadnt fed them yet.

she wont let them out of their crates at all because she has gotten in trouble for not paying attenting and letting them potty in the house (the younger is almost 3) even though she is sitting in the same room with them watching tv.

and thats another thing. we had to MAKE her try out for dance team last year (she made it and was allowed to accept or decline the invite to be on the team which she accepted), she didnt want to do it again this year. We MADE her choose a physical activity, she chose gymnastics (and I cant take it away as a punishment because she is not hesitant to remind me that she didnt want to do it in the first place). I cant get her to do ANY thing else. Our base offers Teen stuff to do, get togethers, game nights, movies, trips to the mall etc. she has only participated twice in 6 months!!! every time I ask, she says no.

I dont know what to do with her :( ]]> ablacketer http://www.babyandbump.com/kids-teenagers/849243-spoiled-lazy.html