Long Term TTC & Assisted Conception

Helen · Nov 1st, 2007, 10:31 AM

Aw I've been wondering how you've been getting along. Don't worry about losing people along the way. The ones who really matter will be there for you come what may and will understand just like your sister.

Did you give accupuncture a go? What are your thoughts regarding IVF?

I can't believe you can't get in to see the psychologist until Feb. That's ages away!

Can you make a private appointment to get in to see them or someone else before then? I know I've said this to you before, I found talking to a psychiatrist really helpful. The first appointment I cried pretty much all the way through and I was exhausted afterwards but it felt so good to vent all the anger, grief, jealousy and frustration to someone who wouldn't judge me or think I was a nut job. In fact, she was the only person who made me realise that I was completely normal and that I was allowed to feel like that.

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xx

Wobbles · Nov 4th, 2007, 20:27 PM

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Originally Posted by FJL

This is an old thread, but thanks so much guys.

6 months on from this thread and still feeling the same really. It SUCKS. I saw my doctor the other day and she gave me a referal to a psychologist (I burst out in tears in her office for the WHOLE appointment) and the psychologist is booked out until Feb next year.

My sister is having a planned C section at the end of the month. I've pretty much decided i'm not going back to see the baby...I just can't. Luckily I have an amazing sister that is so understanding.

Also several friends are pregnant and I just can't speak to any of them. I think i'm going to lose a lot of people on this journey but i'm not going to force myself to be more upset than necessary, and I don't know why people want me at births etc when they know I don't want to be there...

ElliesMum - i'm so sorry for your loss, but I see you're pregnant again, and I wish you all the luck in the world this time around

Aww sweetie

I'm sorry sorry you still feel so low

yet it all is so normal - i couldn't stand seeing strangers nevermind anyone I knew with a bump. Helens right those that are worthy of your friendship and care for you will always be there and understand in the mean time.

I'm sorry to see you have to wait until Feb also - such asses! I fumed for AG when her appointment was like a year away! Discusting! I really hope Feb comes in quick andyou can spend the christmas and new year enjoying the time of year.

Lots of thoughts for you hun

x

FJL · Nov 5th, 2007, 01:13 AM

Thanks so much guys.

Believe it or not, the Feb appointment is private, the public system would see me waiting almost a year.

We're still doing the accupuncture...been at it for 5 months now. We got a test after 3 months and the motility rate had gone from 15% to 30%. We get another one in a month so fingers crossed.

If it hasn't gone up we can either see a fertility specialist or we can try a new form of natural therapy and the guy is very confident he can help us. Its called scenar therapy or something.

Great news though, I mustered up the courage to talk to my sister on the phone and had a really big cry and we talked about everything. I am now going to see her and the baby when she is home from hospital and I now know that she expects me to be a mess and crying and there are no expectations for me to be happy. I'm so lucky to have her.

Helen · Nov 5th, 2007, 13:41 PM

Can't believe how long you have to wait for a private appointment. Scary!

Great news about your sister. I'm know it's going to be so hard going to see her and the baby, but you'll be glad you did. Good luck and let us know how you get on.

Tam · Nov 6th, 2007, 07:13 AM

I wish you all the best for the future babe!!!! x

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