CurlySue

Do you ever just get really, really upset that you're not as fertile as some people?

Do you ever wish that you had even been pregnant, just once, even if it didn't end in a child, just to know that you COULD?

Do you ever find it hard to relate to people who are so fertile that they get pregnant without even having sex? Exaggerating, yes, but you know what I mean. People who only have to be looked upon in order to conceive a child.

At the minute I am just feeling utterly jealous of anyone. There is a woman at work (in our other office) and she has just conceived her fifth (yes, fifth) child. She only started TTC in April and since then she has had 2 chemical pregnancies and now she is pregnant again.

So, in 5 cycles she has got pregnant 3 times...yet in the probably 2 years plus I have been off the pill I have not even seen a second line.

How is SHE so fertile and I'm not?

3 in 5 months, she conceived. NONE in TWENTY PLUS months have I. Not even once. I don't even know if I CAN conceive and, I honestly wish I could because, it might not have been a sticky bean but at least I would have known I could do it!

Something's not really fair in the world there, is it?

She doesn't even appreciate the kids she's got.

Vickie

You're right it's not fair that some people conceive so quickly (some without even trying) while others struggle and struggle

CurlySue

It feels utterly shite. Especially when you consider that she palms her kids off on her parents every weekend, moans about what 'a drag' it is to not be able to afford holidays with them.

SHE is the one that wants five kids. How can she blame them for her lack of holidays?

It just really doesn't feel fair. It doesn't feel fair that some people are so sodding fertile when others just fail time and time again.

Because that's what it feels like.

Failure.

boobaby04

Just wanted to say you are not a failure by any means I wish I could make it better for ladies like yourself it is so unfair, please belive that one day it will happen x x x x

miel

honey i was just thinking the same thing...why is this taking me so long when some are announcing the BFP within a month of trying?

i don't have a answer for us... beside it's just my life , my destiny i guess...but let me tell you when i get pregnant i will remember what i went through and i will appreciate every single minute of my pregnancy

katy

it is completely unfair. Particularly when you think of the number that get pregnant and then go on to abort for no real reason other than it isn't good timing for them. I'm still WTT but one of my biggest worries is i'll have trouble conceiving when i do start trying

miel

i wish i have a magic TTC wand ! i really do

FJL

I wish I held the answers to those questions CS...I really do.

I too would love to know that I can get pregnant but the thought of a m/c absolutely terrifies me and if that were to happen I doubt that during that awful time I would be grateful that I did get pregnant...it would be fucking awful.

I have a friend who has had 4 consecutive m/c's (no child) between 6-14 weeks. The dr's give her no answers but to keep trying and hopefully one will stick around. She is too scared to try again incase she gets pregnant and loses her baby for the 5th time. I don't know which is worse, ours or her situation...either way they both suck and it isn't fair.

We just have to have hope that we will one day become pregnant and have a baby...if we didn't have a teeny bit of hope we wouldn't be here right? Even when it feels like all hope is gone, theres got to be some sort of hope hidden deep down inside us.

You become sick of being devestated instead of happy when someone falls pg. From time to time (no idea why!) I torture myself and go into the BFP secion and 99% of the time I have no idea who that person is, meaning they probably got their BFP straight away. And to think some have the hyde of saying 'finally got my BFP!' when 'finally' to them means a few months...not a few years...I just feel like saying 'NO, YOU DON'T GET TO SAY FINALLY!!!' Right now, the only pregnancies I feel happy about are those that are from LTTC'ers and still then there is always a small amount of jealousy attached.

katy

Just wanted to give to all you ladies having problems

miel

do you think it's hard because infertility is kind of phisiacly painless ? what i mean i walk around every day and i feel good right ? and i don't feel like my body have something wrong i am not in pain all day ...but mentally i know something is wrong i just can not fell it ...so it's harder to accept ?