Long Term TTC & Assisted Conception

Omi · Aug 20th, 2008, 12:43 PM

I just wanted to say thanks for putting into words what i think on a daily basis

May i also add that i work in social services, addictions and you wouldnt believe the things i see and read on a daily basis!!!!! Now, i do believe in God but im hard pressed sometimes to understand how karma and all that stuff works when i hear something like this woman, who has 2 kids taken off her and up for adoption, gets pg again (!!) has tracks all over her arms, is a prostitute, gives birth and then shoots up on maternity, drops baby on the floor and baby cracks head open- And she has the luck, the blessing of conceiving- and have a healthy breathing baby!!!!!! WHY OH WHY???

Im starting to lose faith that taking vits, medication, eating healthy etc etc means anything at all....apparently eating chips everyday or nothing at all and shoting up crack does the trick??!!

Anyway, thanks again..you've all made my day and may i add you're all amazing ladies!!

,Omi xxx

krissi · Aug 20th, 2008, 12:46 PM

I have already considered becoming a drug addict I am sure that is the answer to my problems, it has to be better than relax and it will happen technique!!!

Omi · Aug 20th, 2008, 12:54 PM

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Originally Posted by krissi

I have already considered becoming a drug addict I am sure that is the answer to my problems, it has to be better than relax and it will happen technique!!!

Yeah, it has crossed my mind as well

...i swear, its almost an ongoing joke in the office- those people are sooo fertile???!!! WTF?

While over in my corner of the world, i have 2 friends on fertility treatment, one even mc while on ivf, and everyone i know has close friends or family on fertility teatment!! Whats going on? I would really like to know....

Oh,well..i shall go back to pep talk my raisin eggs again, lol!!

krissi · Aug 20th, 2008, 12:57 PM

Me and my eggs are no longer on speaking terms they will not do as there told.

shimmyshimmy · Aug 20th, 2008, 12:58 PM

It is so totally unfair hun.
I am sure that all the women on here who are very fertile wish that they could help in some way. The lady at work sounds like a right pain in the backside. But I am sure the majority of women with children appreciate their children and love them more than anything else in the world, I know I do, and I wanted to let you know that we are not all as insensitive and as pathetic as the lady at your work who clearly takes her children for granted.
I agree with Miel, when you do conceive you will appreciate every single second of your pregnancy, and your future children will be very blessed to have you as a Mum,

Shimmy.
xxx

Omi · Aug 20th, 2008, 13:01 PM

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Originally Posted by krissi

Me and my eggs are no longer on speaking terms they will not do as there told.

well..its either that or scoring some crack

having said that, not sure they're listening either..oh, no...do you think they might be deaf? Great- there's another thing to worry about!

krissi · Aug 20th, 2008, 13:03 PM

Hearing aids for eggs, quick lets get to Dragons Den, i bet there a fair few on the forum that would buy! Maybe some for sperm to because men never listen to directions, perhaps its because they can't hear them either!

Omi · Aug 20th, 2008, 13:15 PM

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Originally Posted by krissi

Hearing aids for eggs, quick lets get to Dragons Den, i bet there a fair few on the forum that would buy! Maybe some for sperm to because men never listen to directions, perhaps its because they can't hear them either!

hmmm...maybe thats where we've been going wrong the entire time! Lol! May be a whole new direction in fertility treatment! Signposts in the womb 'this way for egg!'..and pitstops for tired or confused sperm on route?

Seriously,though...i think infertility is a flipping epidemic and yet you get people who think its no big deal. Maybe a petition of some sorts would do? I dont know..but i do think its a much bigger issue than people and the government are aware of. Estimated numbers suggest its going to get worse i.e. more and more people will need assistance in ttc and yet the waiting times and the funding is ridiculous!!

Sorry,thats me on a soapbox..perhaps me being on strike today has rubbed off,lol!!

hopeful4baby · Aug 20th, 2008, 16:16 PM

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I don't know if I qualify for LTTC as we've only been trying 12 months and we have only just begun doc appts, tests, etc. So I'm quite a newbie looking at some of you other girls, and I am humbled by reading your posts. My pain is bad enough and I can only imagine what it must feel like to be waiting for years to see that ever elusive BFP.

I hope I don't rock the boat now, but I just wanted to pick up on some of the comments that have been made in this thread about MC. I don't see MC as a 'step up' from never having had a BFP at all. OK, it does mean that conception has occurred, and after my MC I did get some reassurance from this, you are right. However, that feeling passes (for some of us, anyhow) and you start thinking that even if you did get preg, you wouldn't be able to carry to term anyway. When I got my BFP I was happy for only 24 hours before I had the feeling something was wrong. I am now desperate to conceive again, but I know that if I did get a BFP I couldn't even be happy about it. I would just be waiting for it to go wrong. And having experienced the pain of losing a bean, I almost wish I'd never conceived in the first place. I now have to face my due date in October knowing that I have no baby in my arms, and an empty belly.

I think it's a case of the grass always being greener. I think there are difficulties no matter what situation you're in. Please don't think I'm having a moan, because I'm really not. Like I said, I really can't imagine the pain of ttc for the length of time that some of you girls have...my 12 months is bad enough. I just don't feel that I am at any kind of 'advantage' from having mc'd, and the pain of my MC was far worse than the pain of seeing a BFN.

I hope I haven't offended anyone. That wasn't my intention. I'm just trying to put another side. Please don't be offended.

I guess I'm one of LT-TTCers too. 16 months from my 2 m/c. I just want to say the fact I got pregnant twice, so shortlived by the way, doesn't work like any reassurence that it will happen again, let alone it will work. In October from my 2nd pregnancy I would have had a one year old. It breaks my heart!!! It breaks my heart that everyone of you has to suffer this insecurity and wondering, this pain! I don't think a week passes by when I don't cry. II feel like a such failure. My friends are already having their second babies since we've started. It is sooooo unfair. I know they pitty me and I hate it! "It will happen for you" I do get it all the time. What do they know about anything?? I'm so glad you've started this thread, I've been feeling so bad this couple of weeks and there's no-one to talk to.

maccy · Aug 20th, 2008, 18:18 PM

Ok now I am not LTTTC at all but I have read through all of this thread and I just wanna say although I couldn't possibly understand what you all are going through what you say makes perfect sense.

I have one little girl and I had m/c back in May and it was an horrendous experience not one I hope ever to repeat again. It's been four cycles since then and the frustration I feel when I haven't caught is immense so I take my hat off to you all that have been trying for many months and years, it must be heartbreaking and you have certainly made me think about how I may sound or others may sound when we get stressed after only a couple of months of trying.

I also admire you, Krissi...10 years...wow! yet your still supportive to people that have been trying for a few months, which is fab!

I sincerley hope that everyone of you gets that BFP result sooner rather than later.

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