Long Term TTC & Assisted Conception

lonate · Jul 31st, 2008, 17:59 PM

Ok here's how DH and I's conversations usually go when it comes to talking about TTC. He usually says "It is going to happen. Don't be negative. We will get pregnant." He usually just doesn't have a whole lot to say when I cry and vent. Sometimes I get so upset and tell him that he just doesnt care as much as I do. He tells me that he does think about TTC and he wishes just as bad as I do that we would be pregnant. He just doesn't vocalize it like I do.

So last night we went to bad and I was almost asleep and I kind of felt the bed shaking on his side. I finally realized he was crying!! I asked him what was wrong and at first he said nothing. After a second time of me asking he said, "I wish you were pregnant. That's all." I honestly was in shock. After almost 2 years of TTC he has never done this. I kept asking if he was for sure that was all that he was upset about and he said yes. He said he has just been thinking about it all the time and it makes him sad. Of course that broke my heart and made me upset and then I couldnt' sleep all night because I couldn't get TTC out of my head.

Anyway, I don't like seeing him upset at all. But, at least now I know that I am not the only one in the marriage going through this. Just wanted to vent!!

--Lesley

boobaby04 · Jul 31st, 2008, 18:38 PM

Just wanted to give you

x x x x x x

chefamy1122 · Jul 31st, 2008, 19:10 PM

awwww.. You know, guys like to to bottle up their feelings a lot, and even though it is really sad he was crying, it is nice to know he does think about it!
I know my DH said he is used to be the "problem solver" for everything, and he knows that infertility is something he can't really solve, and that bothers him.

Coffee · Jul 31st, 2008, 19:13 PM

It choked me up reading this!
Why is it that seeing a man crying is so much worse than a woman? It is for me anyway.
It's good he's let it out i guess and in a really weird sort of way good that you know you're not the only one feeling the pain of TTC in your relationship, even though you wouldn't want to see him upset.

Beckic · Jul 31st, 2008, 20:13 PM

Lots of

to both of you.

Bx x x x

Younglutonmum · Jul 31st, 2008, 20:17 PM

Huge

to you both

Hope you get your

soon!!

xxxxx

jobee2222 · Jul 31st, 2008, 20:17 PM

I guess it hurts more to see a man cry cos they rarely ever do it, we women can have a bad day and cry where as for men it takes much more than that. But atleast he's on your side.

CareBear · Jul 31st, 2008, 21:34 PM

Aww bless him, I hope he feels better soon. I have found that my hubby has been really disappointed on some of my cycles than I have cause he's really thought its worked that month and it always shocks me as the months that I'm really upset he's so strong and tells me it will happen dont be too upset so its like they can only show their real feelings when they feel you are coping - does that make sense? Though of we course we girls would like it if they howled at the same time as us so we could share and talk about it at the same time!

loopylew · Jul 31st, 2008, 21:39 PM

awww hun, hope you are both ok, me and my hubby went through a patch like this esp when he felt really under pressure and couldn't "perform". We're back on track now but i think sometimes we don't realise the pressure we are putting on DH's. Each month my DH thinks that "this could be the month" despite me saying but we're 7 dpo and im spotting etc etc. I think sometimes men have no idea about where in our cycles we are etc

DaisyDuke · Jul 31st, 2008, 21:45 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Coffee

It choked me up reading this!
Why is it that seeing a man crying is so much worse than a woman? It is for me anyway.
It's good he's let it out i guess and in a really weird sort of way good that you know you're not the only one feeling the pain of TTC in your relationship, even though you wouldn't want to see him upset.

Chocked me up to, bless him

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