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Jul 31st, 2008, 21:52 PM
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Originally Posted by loopylew  awww hun, hope you are both ok, me and my hubby went through a patch like this esp when he felt really under pressure and couldn't "perform". We're back on track now but i think sometimes we don't realise the pressure we are putting on DH's. Each month my DH thinks that "this could be the month" despite me saying but we're 7 dpo and im spotting etc etc. I think sometimes men have no idea about where in our cycles we are etc | OMG!! We have had the "performance" problem as well. His urologist gives us free packets of Levitra(like Viagra..and it works!). He doesn't have a physical problem. He is perfectly normal but feels so under pressure sometimes when we HAVE to BD. We only use the Levitra for emergency situations (when it is critical that we BD and he can't "perform"). Last cycle we didn't have any and he had one of those episodes. He ended up performing (sorry TMI) but that was after like 2 hours and me crying and what not. I know that makes the pressure so much worse when I get upset but sometimes I can't help it. He gets mad and I get mad.
Anyway, I am just glad that someone else has went through that as well!!! Thanks and I hope you get your  too!
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Jul 31st, 2008, 22:01 PM
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Originally Posted by loopylew awww hun, hope you are both ok, me and my hubby went through a patch like this esp when he felt really under pressure and couldn't "perform". We're back on track now but i think sometimes we don't realise the pressure we are putting on DH's. Each month my DH thinks that "this could be the month" despite me saying but we're 7 dpo and im spotting etc etc. I think sometimes men have no idea about where in our cycles we are etc | OMG!! We have had the "performance" problem as well. His urologist gives us free packets of Levitra(like Viagra..and it works!). He doesn't have a physical problem. He is perfectly normal but feels so under pressure sometimes when we HAVE to BD. We only use the Levitra for emergency situations (when it is critical that we BD and he can't "perform"). Last cycle we didn't have any and he had one of those episodes. He ended up performing (sorry TMI) but that was after like 2 hours and me crying and what not. I know that makes the pressure so much worse when I get upset but sometimes I can't help it. He gets mad and I get mad.
Anyway, I am just glad that someone else has went through that as well!!! Thanks and I hope you get your too!
--Lesley | Definately ive been through all them emotions, laid beside him when he wasn't interested or couldn't perform, being so frustrated and not knowing whether to be mad or say "it doesn't matter" when he knows it does. MY DH tried some herbal viagra which works 12 hours later when he was at work which brought light into the situation, we seem to have got through that now, i don't go on about temping or my monitor readings, i just tell him when we are high and peak days, we agreed to BD every other day on high and both peak days , this has stopped a lot of the pressure when your both tired |
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Aug 4th, 2008, 23:48 PM
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i can so relate to your post. My oh only actually cried after i mc but i have seen him whince when i tell him ive got af after.
We also have the problem of not an exactly over-active sex life (although very good- just not prolific  ). Oh too finds it a bit difficult to perform on command although i try to remind him way in advance just so he doesnt find it being sprung on him, lol! He doesnt do bad though, i just wish it was more and easier cause i worry about it!
I try to keep faith in the fact that i did conceive at the age of 37, (nearly 38 ) naturally after only having sex twice, the last being the night before i got a + on my cbfm.
Dont give up hope, hun!!! |
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Aug 5th, 2008, 01:31 AM
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I'm Currently Feeling:  | huni it is so difficult and I'm so sorry u n DH have to go threw this, before we knew our only option was IVF /ICSI Bd became such a chore it was hard with my DH he always felt he had to b strong but has broken down a few times he blames himself that we don't get preg and that I going threw all this but I just have to reasure him It is our problem as a couple and that I want a family with HIM just b there for each other hoping u get ur soon.  xxxx |
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| I also thought my DH wasn't upset as I was. but I know now he's suffering the same way as I do, but on top of all that, he's trying to be supportive and strong for me. I love him! | | | | Status: Offline
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Aug 7th, 2008, 23:53 PM
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I'm Currently Feeling:  | Aww hun, at least you know your not alone on this journey! I know it must be tough hearing your DH like this but your in it together and with the support of eachother im sure you will get that | | | | Status: Offline
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