CurlySue

Hospital just rang. They said:

Consultant is not in on the day of your surgery, 4th September. We can either do it later, October, or we can do it on 31st July, which is next Thursday.

Office manager is not in. I cannot ask her if I can take those days off. Other office manager is off sick.

I really, really do not want to wait until October…so, I said yes.

What if I can’t go? What if office manager says I can’t go?

Hikax

I got stuck in a work situation which clashed with a IUI visit and I ended up lying and saying my partner had a medical condition and i had to go and support her.

Afterwards I felt a bit stupid and wished I had just confided the real situation confidentially to my boss. Its embarressing but in retrospect I thought my boss would have sympathised. of course sometimes this is impossible (espec if you don't want work to know you might be pregnant soon).

I totally understand not wanting to postpone it. Good luck!

Loula

I think you should go for it. You've been in pain long enough! What happens if you don't and come October, they say that it's postponed again?

sjnams

It's an operation so don't think your manager will really say no, so I say go for it. Just explain the date has been moved forward (not that you chose an earlier date) and there is nothing you can do about it. Hope it works out hun!

CurlySue

I have to take it as holidays but I cannot ask if I can have the holidays. If she says no, what do I do? I can't really phone in sick, can I?

Ah I wish people had been in just to let me know.

sjnams

Hmm I see what you mean. Kind of sucks you have to take it as a holiday. Is there no one higher than the office managers in that you can talk to? Is the office manager that is supposed to be in completely out of reach? ie not email or mobile on them? Otherwise if they are back on monday I would go for the sympathy vote....Unreliable NHS screwing your appts up and bringing operation forward with little notice, hopefully they will help you out!

CurlySue

Bringing it forward is a good thing. Cancellation, it was. If I cannot make this appointment then I have to wait until October because the person who was going to do the lap is not back from wherever he is until that date.

So - my appointment was September 4th. I can either have it on 31st July...or in the middle of October.

I have just said yes. Office manager has no reason to say no aside from the too-little notice. It is not my fault she is out of reach, really. Would have been almost the week's notice had she been in but she is at a funeral so cannot really disturb her.

Ai, weird. My lap and dye thing would actually be 9 days after first consultation if it happened. Is that, like, a record for speed?

Sinead

If your employer knows what is going on I would be tempted to tell him the truth (omitting the part where you were given an option - obviously) and that the NHS changed the appt at the last minute.

CareBear

I don't understand why you would have to take the days off as holiday, wouldn't it just go down as your off sick as you are having an operation? If work was funny I would ask my doctor to sign me off for the op and any days following they day you need to be recovering

Halle71

It's too important to worry about work (easier said than done, I know).

The first option is to confide in your boss but that is tricky given that you are really aiming for a long time off for babies ASAP and might not want to give them forewarning (from the girl who had to come into work 12 hours after m/c because I couldn't tell anyone!).

If you are too nervous about asking then call in sick.
'I had 'problems', went to A&E and they kept me in for minor surgery. I need to be off for x number of days off.....'

Good luck.

Hx