Long Term TTC & Assisted Conception

jobee2222 · Jul 26th, 2008, 11:36 AM

It took me a year and a half to fall pregnant. I have polycystic ovaries and my OH drinks alot. He was certain he was shooting blanks and I was certain I couldnt have any. It wasn't till I had all but given up that I realised I was pregnant. It's all about timing, but i heard if you lie down for 30 mins after sex that can help to conceive. If all else fails give it a go.

JASMAK · Jul 26th, 2008, 19:10 PM

I have been told to "relax" so many times. It pisses me off too. People really don't understand at all. (hugs) to you.

Wobbles · Jul 27th, 2008, 12:06 PM

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Originally Posted by FJL

I'm sure i'm not alone, so i'm just going to cut loose with this one!

It annoys the fuck out of me when people say that taking a break, a holiday or relaxing is the ticket to getting your pregnant. It is a load of shit.

It especially annoys me when it comes out of the mouths of those who have gotten their BFP's instantly because it goes to show they have no fucking clue of what it is like. If they had to wait months and months or years and had to go through invasive tests and treatments I can bet my bottom dollar that they would not breeze through it all in a relaxed, stress free way.

Ever heard the saying 'walk a mile in someone elses shoes'? I wish to god these woman would put this into practise...

Its not just people on forums, its people in life and fuck me dead I am fed up! I don't smile and tolerate it anymore, I bite back, and maybe too harshly but i'm so over women thinking they're experts on getting pregnant when really, they were just lucky so therefore know next to nothing about getting pregnant.

The hard thing right now is that the 1 person who is going on about how stress affects fertility blah blah blah is my boss, so I can't very well tell her to fuck off now can I?!? Instead I firmly state my opinon that in 'our case' stress has nothing to do with it, and infact we haven't been consciously trying for a baby all year and guess what? Still childless - hello, our problem is not stress related!!!

Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhh, just had to get that out.

I swear, i'm not a psycho!

People who have neverwalked your path tend not to know what to say but want to say something usually they hope its words of comfort or just kind words and have no idea that hearing what they have said is a killer inside *hugs* I don't think people intend to be or look as insensitive as its been taken but there are certain things that really got on my nerves sometimes it was the way it came out like peope would say to be "it will happen stop getting upset" < FUCK OFF!! where as someone else will say "it will happen

, think positive" < this said in a friendly hugging comforting way ...does that make sense? like telling me to try to stay positive believe that yes I do have a longer journey than others but I will get there. And a difference in the way people woudl say "stop stressing" & "try not to stress to much" I understood the second one but demanding me to be ok fullstop was annoying.

Hope that makes sense

some things kind of meant the same thing but depending how it was said depended how I took it.

Wobbles · Jul 27th, 2008, 12:09 PM

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Originally Posted by FJL

Someone said to me in an email the other day, after I told her that there is a strong possiblity with DH's latest sperm test that we could never have children, she said 'well you can always adopt like all the famous actresses'...I was FUMING...1. For NORMAL people adoption is a 5-7year process, 2. Its because they have money!!! 3. I want a baby with MY husband. How dare she!!! I haven't replied and i'm not going to...

Fuck

if only you could have printed that out and rammed it down her throat to choke on!

Has to be one of the most inconsiderate comments people make if not number 1 on the list!

polo_princess · Jul 27th, 2008, 12:54 PM

I agree with Wobbs hun, people who havent "walked the mile" tend not to know what to say, and its seems "just relax" is the easiest thing for them to say!!

God throughout my 2 years of trying there were times i wished i could of punched some people in the face, one woman said to me "oh you prob havent got your timing right" obviously she hadnt done much TTC'ing lol otherwise she'd know its like a military operation at times!!

Please try not to take things people say to heart too much or dwell on the hun

buffycat · Jul 28th, 2008, 14:50 PM

omg - i am soo glad that i have found this thread.....FJL - thanks for getting the rant started!

firstly though - NeyNey - let me know what houses are for sale by you - i could do with a change of scenery!

Seriously though, i am sick to back teeth of the stupid comments that i get, and i've barely told anyone as well! I had a mc after a year of trying - absolutely gutted obviosuly, but since then i get little comments off my dad to sa 'oh soon enough you'll get lilttle patters of feet around the house' and my mum, (i swear i nearly puched her last week) - said 'don't worry, your time will come...'.....wtf?!?!

bloody winds me up, have been ttc for 18 months, and i feel crap 'cos i have arthritis for which i can't take meds for (as they interfere with ttc) - i can't win. Oh, and my best friend is pregnant with no.2 - she started trying the same time as me.......

Mazmos · Jul 29th, 2008, 11:58 AM

They need f**king

They drive me nuts!!!!!!!!!

Maz xxx

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