CapitalChick

So, my husband's cousin is a fertility specialist, who recently stopped practicing. When we started TTC way back when, she wrote me an email and told me all the tests I should get done to make sure I was healthy. After a few months, when I wasn't pregnant, I called her desperate. She spoke to me and told me to get some additional tests. Anyway, since then, she calls me every so often and says "Hi...how are you? Sooooo.......soooooo.......how are things?". And it just eats me up inside. Because I know that it's just a hidden "are you pregnant" question. To make matters worse, when I sadly replied "No, I'm not pregnant", she didn't even pretend like there was another reason for her call. She actually said (keep in mind THIS IS A FERTILITY SPECIALIST) "oh well...I guess you'll just have to wait".

Tonight, only two weeks after that last phone call (I'm still on the same cycle), she emailed me the following:
"Hi. How are things? Hope they're well".
And that was it. So, I wrote her back and said "Wow...if you thought it was long enough for me to be on another cycle, you can just imagine how long this seems for me!....And then I proceeded to BITCH out my freaking life in the email. What a rant. But it felt good to hit send.

Grrrrr....you'd think a fertility specialist would know how hurtful and useless platitudes like "you'll just have to wait" are for women like us....

Mendy

Wow...so sorry to hear about this so called "fertility specialist". I don't know why there are so many insensitive "specialists" in this field... Similar thing happened to me with my Dr....only he told me, minutes after my FIRST IUI, while I was still laying on the table, that my chances of conceiving were pretty much zero and if I had thought of donor sperm. Come on, DONOR sperm? All me and DH are trying to do is have a baby, a baby we created, not someone else's baby. I was so torn and depressed that day, instead of being hopeful. Unfortunately he was right, for THIS cycle, since AF came Sat. I don't understand why he would say that though, being that this was our first cycle....I guess they don't put themselves in our position and how we are feeling. So sorry about this...I know how it is, people ask me all the time, Are you pregnant yet? Why aren't you pregnant yet? Like I want it to be this way...you just have to smile and move on....don't let them have the upper hand! And good luck with TTC!

trickysgurl

Thats awful.. I get allot of those questions and those... Oh poor u.. Looks and to b honest i think i take more offense to things said by people who arent goin through this ttc thing.. Cuz some1 on here can say the exact same thing and i feel like they mean it jus cuz they understand.

Arcanegirl

Thats awful some people are just so insensitive.
Thankfully my hosp i havent come accross anyone like that yet but if i do i will certainly complain!

FunnyBunny

That's awful coming from a specialist and a family member - some people are sooo insensitive.