Is TTC taking its toll on you?

**polo_princess** · Mar 12th, 2008, 08:02 AM

Just wondered if TTC is becoming more and more of an emotional rollercoaster for anyone else the longer it goes on?

Im starting to have a bit of a tough time with it at the moment, now that i know chances are it isnt going to come naturally. Im doing my best to stick with a positive attitude but its reaaaaaally hard!!

How is everyone else in here coping? How is it affecting your relationship? Good or Bad?

Sami · Mar 12th, 2008, 08:40 AM

I'm also finding it quite hard, we've been trying now for just over 2 years, I've had some tests which haven't shown anything in particular, except that I have slight PCOS, whatever that means

It can cause some problems within our relationship, mainly due to my moods, especially when

comes to visit!!

I am also trying to stay posative but sometimes it's really hard when all you want to do is cry

Also, I'm really happy for everyone that gets a

but sometimes I feel so jealous, is this normal??

**Arcanegirl** · Mar 12th, 2008, 08:58 AM

The biggest thing with our journey is not knowing what the problem is!
Id say i actually cope with it all quite well, i do have my down moments but ive accepted that its taking a while and just see it as more time for us to prepare ourselves mentally and finnancially.

Sami · Mar 12th, 2008, 09:30 AM

I think you're right, but I must say that this site has really helped and been so informative. Through BnB I've come to realise that as my cycle is so long it probably means that I'm not ov, which is something the docs never told me!! I always assumed that if you got

you would ov!

I have just made an appointment to see my doc again as I'm going to find out about clomid, from what I've read on here and on the net, it seems that it could help! Fingers crossed!!

lady_gibrill · Mar 12th, 2008, 09:35 AM

Hi all,

I too find it somexs draining. Been trying for 2 yrs now n i too have boarderline PCOS which means i have d spots n hair but do oulate I am currently on my 1st round of clomid.....
I think my main problem is stress related but ive tried all i can to get rid of stress...

It is hard when the

arrives u try not to get upset n i just think that god will give me a baby when he thinks it is right....But i do get hurt when others that dont necessarily want a child get a bfp.....

Not those trying them im happy for n it ives me hope that it can happen....

it takes a toll sexually too cause u try to enjoy it as u waould nmaking love normally but u r trying to get a bfp so sub conciously makes an impact....

Im norm only bad for a day or 2 then im ready to start again.....

Good luck all

Amanda · Mar 12th, 2008, 11:15 AM

We're finding it tough cause we know we can have kids, but it's just not bloody working!

I conceived Kayleigh while on the pill and using condoms, and Charlie was after 5 months of trying, but it's now been 18 months!

And the doctors just don't seem to want to listen because they know there's nothing medically wrong. I keep saying - yes there wasn't then, but there might be now!

Tilly · Mar 12th, 2008, 11:17 AM

How long have you been TTC polo princesS?

maz · Mar 12th, 2008, 12:44 PM

I am finding ttc very much a rollercoaster ride. I am generally a very positive and upbeat person, but do let things get to me emotionally. Some days I just want to hide under the duvet and cry

I'm starting my first cycle of clomid on thursday, and going for a reflexology consultation on friday. Medically, I have been told that I am fine, and DH is fine too, so I'm hoping it is stress related, and that reflexology will help to reduce stress and get everything back in sync.

I have to say though, that I find it hard to visualise myself with a bump... Does anyone else find that difficult?

genkigemini · Mar 12th, 2008, 15:28 PM

I have good days and bad days. (Just read my journal to see that bit of bi-polarness.) I honestly think that several years ago (99-06) it was harder on me. I would cry if af came (which was only 2-3 times a year) and cry when I got BFN. However now I think I am a bit jaded to it all. I just try to do the "right" things and pray it works. So far Met is not doing ANYTHING for me but I still try my best to be positive. (I can not wait until May when I go back to the GYN)

**polo_princess** · Mar 12th, 2008, 15:35 PM

so im not the only one who finds it hard sometimes.

In total ive officially been TTC for just over 2 years, but ive been complaining that something isnt right with my lady bits for almost 5 years now, the doc seems to have linked the two, even though she has no idea what it is yet.

I manage to cope with it fine, i get down when i think about how badly i want to give my OH a child.

Mar 12th, 2008, 08:02 AM	#1
polo_princess Mum (Mom) BabyandBump Team Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Hertfordshire Posts: 45,510	Is TTC taking its toll on you? Just wondered if TTC is becoming more and more of an emotional rollercoaster for anyone else the longer it goes on? Im starting to have a bit of a tough time with it at the moment, now that i know chances are it isnt going to come naturally. Im doing my best to stick with a positive attitude but its reaaaaaally hard!! How is everyone else in here coping? How is it affecting your relationship? Good or Bad?

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Mar 12th, 2008, 08:40 AM	#2
Sami Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Bristol Posts: 46	I'm also finding it quite hard, we've been trying now for just over 2 years, I've had some tests which haven't shown anything in particular, except that I have slight PCOS, whatever that means It can cause some problems within our relationship, mainly due to my moods, especially when comes to visit!! I am also trying to stay posative but sometimes it's really hard when all you want to do is cry Also, I'm really happy for everyone that gets a but sometimes I feel so jealous, is this normal??

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Mar 12th, 2008, 08:58 AM	#3
Arcanegirl Pregnant (Expecting) BabyandBump Team Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Glasgow Posts: 25,664	The biggest thing with our journey is not knowing what the problem is! Id say i actually cope with it all quite well, i do have my down moments but ive accepted that its taking a while and just see it as more time for us to prepare ourselves mentally and finnancially.

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Mar 12th, 2008, 09:30 AM	#4
Sami Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Bristol Posts: 46	I think you're right, but I must say that this site has really helped and been so informative. Through BnB I've come to realise that as my cycle is so long it probably means that I'm not ov, which is something the docs never told me!! I always assumed that if you got you would ov! I have just made an appointment to see my doc again as I'm going to find out about clomid, from what I've read on here and on the net, it seems that it could help! Fingers crossed!!

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Mar 12th, 2008, 09:35 AM	#5
lady_gibrill Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: london Posts: 214	Hi all, I too find it somexs draining. Been trying for 2 yrs now n i too have boarderline PCOS which means i have d spots n hair but do oulate I am currently on my 1st round of clomid..... I think my main problem is stress related but ive tried all i can to get rid of stress... It is hard when the arrives u try not to get upset n i just think that god will give me a baby when he thinks it is right....But i do get hurt when others that dont necessarily want a child get a bfp..... Not those trying them im happy for n it ives me hope that it can happen.... it takes a toll sexually too cause u try to enjoy it as u waould nmaking love normally but u r trying to get a bfp so sub conciously makes an impact.... Im norm only bad for a day or 2 then im ready to start again..... Good luck all

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Mar 12th, 2008, 11:15 AM	#6
Amanda Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Leicester, UK. Posts: 5,214	We're finding it tough cause we know we can have kids, but it's just not bloody working! I conceived Kayleigh while on the pill and using condoms, and Charlie was after 5 months of trying, but it's now been 18 months! And the doctors just don't seem to want to listen because they know there's nothing medically wrong. I keep saying - yes there wasn't then, but there might be now!

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Mar 12th, 2008, 11:17 AM	#7
Tilly Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Guildford Posts: 5,389	How long have you been TTC polo princesS?

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Mar 12th, 2008, 12:44 PM	#8
maz Trying to conceive (TTC) BnB Addict Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: In IVF limbo ... Posts: 3,915	I am finding ttc very much a rollercoaster ride. I am generally a very positive and upbeat person, but do let things get to me emotionally. Some days I just want to hide under the duvet and cry I'm starting my first cycle of clomid on thursday, and going for a reflexology consultation on friday. Medically, I have been told that I am fine, and DH is fine too, so I'm hoping it is stress related, and that reflexology will help to reduce stress and get everything back in sync. I have to say though, that I find it hard to visualise myself with a bump... Does anyone else find that difficult?

Status: Offline

Mar 12th, 2008, 15:28 PM	#9
genkigemini Mum (Mom) Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Anchorage, Alaska Posts: 3,957	I have good days and bad days. (Just read my journal to see that bit of bi-polarness.) I honestly think that several years ago (99-06) it was harder on me. I would cry if af came (which was only 2-3 times a year) and cry when I got BFN. However now I think I am a bit jaded to it all. I just try to do the "right" things and pray it works. So far Met is not doing ANYTHING for me but I still try my best to be positive. (I can not wait until May when I go back to the GYN)

Status: Offline

Mar 12th, 2008, 15:35 PM	#10
polo_princess Mum (Mom) BabyandBump Team Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Hertfordshire Posts: 45,510	so im not the only one who finds it hard sometimes. In total ive officially been TTC for just over 2 years, but ive been complaining that something isnt right with my lady bits for almost 5 years now, the doc seems to have linked the two, even though she has no idea what it is yet. I manage to cope with it fine, i get down when i think about how badly i want to give my OH a child.

Status: Offline

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