My story so far……………….

DH and I have been TTing for 3 years now with no break in between and no sign of success at all. I am 28 years old and my DH is 34.

My cycle is every 28 days straight give or take a day either way I have had numerous blood tests to find out if I’m ovulating the answer is always yes. I have had numerous blood tests to find out how my hormones are, answer is always, normal. I have had a Lap and dye procedure done the answer was normal – tubes clear ovaries fine. STILL NOTHING!

DH has had 3 tests done also, the answer is always normal, we carry on and STILL NOTHING!

We are both non smokers, we have both reduced our intake of alchol not that we drank much anyway, My DH is a chef so we always eat good food, lots of veg, red meat all the right things you need to help while TTCing, STILL NOTHING!

For two years we have both taken our vitamins his/hers supplements and continue to do so, STILL NOTHING!

We do the Baby Dance (BD) every other day around Ovulation, some months we have BD every day around Ovulation. We have tried every position we can think of, STILL NOTHING!

We have tried not thinking about it and just getting on with our lives, STILL NOTHING! Thing is when you start TTCing you can’t really stop, no sir.

We have been to see our fertility doctor she has recommended 3 rounds of IUI’s my first one was supposed to be in November 2009 but it got cancelled, I have been rescheduled for January 2010. Gutted, but if I’ve waited this long what’s another couple of months “a long time I can tell you, I’m desperate here”!!!!!!!!!!!!

In my Two ½ years all my friends and family have decided to have babies with no difficulty, I’m not bitter, no sir, I’m so friggin angry!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! WHY NOT MEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

If anyone can give me any tips, maybe there is something I still haven’t tried yet please tell me.

Any IUI information would be greatfully received, I’m so scared it won’t work I honestly don’t know how I will cope if it doesn’t. I suppose ill cross that bridge when I get to it.

I have had some up’s and down’s. I have been totally depressed and lately I’m fine, I think. I have made sure I keep my mind occupied and away from the whole TTCing thing but it always comes round to bite me at some stage everyday.

To all you TTC, may all your dreams come true, to all those who have had their BFP may you gather many happy memories, as for now I will keep searching for mine x

Hi Kay

Thanks for sharing your story. There are so many ladies on here with a similar story and plenty of people to empathise. Check out the IUI thread which is going at the moment for more information and my story - I hope the success stories give you hope.

Good luck with your journey...

x

I am in sort of the same position. Although the latest SA for my DH shows low motility but 3 and half years ago when we started trying he has an SA done and everything was above average. Anyway just like you I have never been pregnant and don't really understand why.

Also thinking about IUI but very nervous in case it doesn't work.

Good luck with everything.

hi....i went to a isis fertility center last week for an open evening to discuss options of iui & ivf. we have been ttc number 2 for 17 mths & no sign of a bfp everyone keeps saying 'oh try not to get stressed, it happened b4 & it will happen again when u least expect it! ' i feel like screaming at them...i think if it was gonna happen it would of by now!! The center were really helpful & went through the procedures & showed us around the center including the rooms where they freeze eggs & do the removing & collecting of eggs etc....
we were thinking of doing iui as ivf would be sooo expensive but we were quite horrified about the low successs rate of iui's!! only 10% ivf is 33% it would work out roughly £1000 a time as we have our daughter we do not qualify for free treatment on nhs im seeing my fs next mon as i still have concerns about spotting & back ache, im hoping to have a lap & dye in the new year ( had scans, bloodtests, a hycosy, sperm tests all fine) then if all is clear we will look into iui or ivf again...want to make sure all is fine b4 we pay lots of money out for treatments. xx

Hi Kayc - reading your story I thought I was reading my own... I am in the exact same boat. 2 years actively trying with a year of NTNP so approx 3 years in total - Tests all fine, SA above average, Bloods good, Ovulating every month - only thing i havent tested for yet is the endo (too scared). We are currently on the IVF waiting list as the FS suggested it would be better than IUI's cos supposedly the success rate is just the same as bDing anyway - but i wish I had went for the IUI now cos maybe the problem is the little swimmers aren't getting to the egg but with IUI they'd be placed right there. But its too late now to change.

Anyway I dont know what else to try either - i said after christmas I was gonna forget about it - but as you said once you jump on the TTC train theres no getting off, you cant switch your brain off to forget about it -its always in your mind.

I wish there was a miracle cure out there - someone would be a very wealthy person if they could come up with the secret to getting pregnant 1st time around.....