Just found out my sister in law is 14 weeks pregnant. It's hard enough having pregnant women around me, my friend has just given birth, my other friend has just started trying and will no doubt be pregnant long before I ever will and now my sister in law! I wouldn't mind so much but she's a real party girl, often taken drugs at the weekends, drinking, smoking, etc. She thought she couldn't get pregnant as she's had unprotected sex enough times and its never happened until now. She won't say who the father is, possibly because she's not quite sure herself. Although the guy we reckon it is has just gone to prison!!!

I can't understand why girls like her get pregnant and I've done everything I can for it to happen to me and it doesn't. I have a lovely husband, a nice home, a steady job. I found out from my brother in law and then he started saying "yeah you should see the size of her stomach!". I had to go home then because I start to feel upset and burst into tears in the car with my husband. Even he feels the same as me. It just feels so unfair. I lost my baby, and ok I might have smoked and drank (although not much!) up until I found out I was pregnant at 4 weeks and then I gave it all up and I lose mine. I'm really feeling sorry for myself at the moment. Got my appointment with a fertility specialist tomorrow. I'm assuming that's just for a "chat" about where we go next so I'm sure I'm a long, long way from my BFP. I'm so depressed!

Hi honey I totally know how you feel, i have just posted a thread about my situation, and reading yours I totally understand how upsetting it is, some people just are so rapped up in themselves they dont see the hurt they cause. Keep strong

Thanks. It's so hard. I'll take a look at your post in a min. It's just so awful that people like her get pregnant and I'm struggling so much when I'm perfectly ready for a baby. I feel so down about it and feel close to giving up trying but I know I can't. It's so hard that the one thing I want more than anything, I can't seem to have. It's like everything I've ever wanted in life, I've got in the sense that if I've wanted something, I'd save up and buy it (obviously within reason) but this is the one thing that I can't go out and buy. I just feel so sad x

susan_1981, I can imagine it is very difficult. trust me, I was in the EXACT same situation as you - sis in law not fit to be a mother. Just continue to be positive and good things will happen ... easier said than done - i know this for a fact.

Let's hope Santa brings us all BFP's for Christmas!!!!

chin up and be positive!!!

That's what I'm hoping. An xmas day BFP, that's all I want for xmas this year! I had the worst xmas ever last year, finding out on 23 December that I'd lost my baby. My period should be due on around xmas day as well so we'll see I suppose. I doubt it. I've lost lots of hope in conceiving naturally but it did happen before so I'm sure it's possible again. Just got to go with the positive thinking xxx

Hi Susan,
Its very hard to keep positive when it seems everyone around you gets the one thing in the world you want. My OH sis has just had a baby which im finding really hard. Its not easy being happy for others when you feel so low and just want to give in.
How did your appointment with the FS go? x

Susan I am so sorry I feel the same way seems like lots of idiots around me are just popping up pregnant and I know I could be a better mom then them. It just sucks. I hope you get your Christmas BFP.

Gosh I so understand what you mean. I have also wanted this so much, but its the one thing that I have not been able to get.

Susan don't be upset or jealous!! Why be jealous of a woman who appears to have nothing to offer a baby. Your baby is worth waiting for! It's going to be all yours and will be part of you and your husband. This other woman will not and never have anything close to how special your baby will be and that makes her pregancy nothing to ever be envious of and you should try not to let it upset you.

If anything pity her! The father of the baby is a no-show and she doesn't sound as secure in mind & life as you are.

BIG HUGS! xxx