Hi Ladies

I was just wondering when/how you decided to get help TTC?

We've been trying for 18months now and nothing. I thought about doing the whole ovulation testing thing but decided against it as I feel I'm getting paranoid about it all already and think it'll probably make me even more paranoid. But I know they say that you should only see GP after 12 months trying which means we'll qualify.

I guess my issue is that I don't want to believe that there is a chance that we arent able to have a baby and having tests etc just makes me think maybe I don't want to know if it's going to be bad news. I feel a lot of pressure from people as they know I love kids and want them and all I get is that "we thought you'd be pregnant by now" or "you'll be soon/next" and I just think "how do you know?!!". I'm even feeling bad around other people's kids as I just keep thinking why can't we have one?! I've been quite closed when people ask if we're trying and I just say well we're not stopping it and if it happens we'll be really pleased but that just means no-one understands!

ahhhh!!!! So you're thoughts/experiences would be really good thanks

Hi hun,
We went to the doctors after 12 mths of TTC. There maybe nothing at all wrong with you and its just taking time but I think its better to know if there is a reason for not falling pregnant. The tests are nothing to worry about.
Are you thinking about going to see your doctor?

Hi, I don't have any advice, just wanted to say thank you for asking this, as we are in the same situation, ttc for 18 months, and don't really want to go to the doctors, mainly because I don't know how I'll react if something is wrong. Totally irrational I know, but it's hard to explain!
xxx

I'm not really thinking of going to docs at mo. Keep saying to myself we'll see how it goes, perhaps go in new year and then I'll probably say maybe in the summer..... The other thing is I think well I can go on a skiing holiday if I'm not preggers and my hubby wants to do another diving trip!! Also I keep thinking maybe we should adopt if we can't get pregnant but then I wonder if they would let us as hubby is 41 now. Sometimes I wish I could just turn my brain off so I stop thinking about it all and then I could be one of those annoying people who just get pregnant without trying and don't realise it's happened until months in rather than knowing exactly when AF is duea and if she's late having that hope little bit of hope destroyed each time.

Hi,
We've been trying 7 months are have already made an appointment with the family doctor. Whether or not he'll DO anything for us at this point is yet to be determined. I'm not willing to wait, though. I'm 30 and OH is 32 and we want to have a big family so it is GO time!!
I know you're hesitant to hear bad news from the doc, but isn't it bad news every month when AF shows up? What if it's a simple fix that you didn't know about? I don't think you'll regret seeing a doctor immediately.
take care hun!

I waited 2 years to go to the docs for similar reasons to you. It has since been a year of doc appts and I did find out bad news.....but also good news because I have blocked tubes so I could have tried forever and never conceived on my own and would have been waiting forever. I regret waiting so long to go to the docs because I might have a lo in my arms right now instead of where I am right now waiting for surgery and ivf. While it was devastating at first - just think how much more time I might have wasted being devastated each month and being hard on myself.

Best wishes.

thanks for all your support - I guess I really will have to pysch myself up to investigate further!

Just a silly question! When you went to the GP did you go to yours or your hubby's or both?? We're registered at different practises so do I just go to mine because I guess my docs won't be able to do anything for testing hubby?! ALl these things that I've never had to consider b4

Fat Belly I know it is daunting being in this situation and idealy we should be having sex and bingo we just fall pregnant. Unfortunatly some of us need a little extra help, it doesn't mean it is the end.

You can have simple tests like CD21 to check you ovulate each month, hubby can have a SA done to make sure his count is good. If they come back all good then perhaps you can have a HSG test to check both tubes are fully open.

In the mean time why not try charting, I know you don't want to get paranoid and take the whole TTC over the top, but everyone ovulates at different times of the month, so maybe try charting temps and doing ovualtion kits for 3mths and if nothing happens then take those charts and your concerns from the past 18mths to your Dr.

Good luck hun, remember some of us just take a little longer to get our BFP

Hey Hun Dh and I have separate GP's too. The way it worked was I went to my GP and he referred us to a specialist for investigation together and my doc ordered me and dh blood tests and a SA for DH too.

we went after 12 months ish at 1st, they cocked up mine and DF's results so we wasted another 6 months, then had to be re-tested etc etc due to the cockups, they went to a private specialist once we had settled after emigrating
Some of our results have improved a lot, sadly leaving us in 'unexplained infertility' limbo