I'm really sorry you got such bad news, but I am glad that you are FINALLY getting some answers

curlysue
What an incredibly difficult appointment. You and OH are amazing for standing up to it and taking all the answers with eyes open.
Take care and keep us posted. I agree with you about adoption over egg donation 2.
xxx

CS - I think its good the doctor was so honest with you and gave you a clear picture of what you are up against. Its so horrible just wondering and wondering. Now you are armed with the truth you can forge a way forward. The Consultant obviously is going to oversee things for you from now on and am sure you will find your second go has a very different flavour to the first. A second go is worth a shot from what you have said as just one of those embryos in a second round may be OK and then at least your body knows what to do with it so to speak.

I understand your issues with egg donation but you could consider embryo donation as that would then be neither of yours genetically. I know with adoption you are less likely to get a baby and it will take a while but then pregnancy takes a while and embryo donation certainly will and can cost a lot of money too. But you still have a go at IVF and its worth a shot. My DH doesn't want to adopt either, he doesn't want a child with problems. I find that fristrating as I belive good parenting can make a MASSIVE difference to a child and would love to do it, even if it is problematic and difficult. I want to be a mother foremost and i know you feel the same.

Hey honey

Firstly I'm so sorry the consultant couldn't offer more upbeat news, I can totally understand how this feels, my last consult was similar, different news, but the same double edged sword

Good news that you did get to see someone who was curious, professional and who listened to your concerns/complaints.

I am really sorry the news wasn't great though, as someone who also only ovulates every few cycles and has a DF with not so great SA I can understand some of your feelings

Thinking of you

So glad you got to see the top man and that he was honest and has given you some help with a future decision.

Crulysue - so sorry you have had to go through all this but at least you have got anwsers now and they are gonna help you be transferred to where ever you want to go xxxxxxx