IVF Query.

FlowerFairy · Sep 27th, 2009, 05:45 AM

Hi Ladies.

I am looking for a little bit of information really. My cousin is just about to start IVF after being TTC for 4 years. She really doesn't want to tell the family exactly when it starts etc, as she wants to just announce when she gets her BFP!
Anyway, I don't really know anything about IVF, such as how long could it take. Will she be unwell? What does it involve her having to do?

Sorry for the 20 questions, but we want to support her but I know she doesn't want hundreds of questions and pestering as I am sure you'll all understand.

Wishing everyone the best of luck for your BFP's in the near future.

Mrs G · Sep 27th, 2009, 07:59 AM

Hi

Why does she not want them to know? We haven't told dh's family cos they are pushy and would be on the phone everyday! We only told my family when we actually started treatment, I just felt I needed the support and it became harder and harder to keep secrets from them. She will have to have a lot of appointments and for me it just was to hard to lie! We've only told people who won't pester or ask loads of questions but in my opinion it would be very hard to do this completely on your own.

The actual treatment takes about 2 months but depending on where she lives she will have to wait for appointments and there may well be quite a long list too.

Hope this has been helpful. Tell her to get herself on here, there's loads of us in the same boat as her!!

Kath xx

FlowerFairy · Sep 27th, 2009, 11:59 AM

Thankyou!
I think she's just got to the end of her tether with people asking about it all to be honest. She said people are always making comments about having a baby and giving her pitying looks when another month rolls around and she doesn't want people to feel like that.

Her mum, and sister and Hubby all know, but I also think she is scared of it not working out. I have since found out today, that they had all the "stuff" (For want of a better word!) delivered to he mums house!

The PCT she is in give 3 cycles I think, so this is just number 1. She is a nurse and hubby is a GP so they know a lot about IVF and have access to success and failure rates and I think it's a bit scary knowing too much sometimes!

I would love her to be announcing her BFP early next year! It would make my year!! Her sister has 4 children, her brother 1 and I have 1 and 1 on the way so it's been pretty tough for her

Helen · Sep 27th, 2009, 17:20 PM

Hi

Try this for basic info on IVF

http://www.hfea.gov.uk/IVF.html

The hormones affect different women differently and all the injections get pretty wearing but for me the emotional rollercoaster of it all had the biggest impact.

Have a read of my diary if you want to see day-by-day
http://www.babyandbump.com/ttc-journ...ary-ivfer.html

Also I recommend reading this:
http://www.babyandbump.com/problems-...ilization.html

I think you are very thoughtful to be so sensitive to your cousin at such a tough time for her. I hope it works out for her

FlowerFairy · Oct 25th, 2009, 07:26 AM

I just wanted to let you know that my cousin started her injections on CD21 and didn't come on. She was worried and went to see the doc, her told her to do a Pregnancy test.
She was already naturally Pregnant. She's 6 weeks and we're thrilled. Thanks for the comments girls xxxx

All the very best for your own journeys xxxxxx

Sep 27th, 2009, 05:45 AM	#1
FlowerFairy Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 6,932	IVF Query. Hi Ladies. I am looking for a little bit of information really. My cousin is just about to start IVF after being TTC for 4 years. She really doesn't want to tell the family exactly when it starts etc, as she wants to just announce when she gets her BFP! Anyway, I don't really know anything about IVF, such as how long could it take. Will she be unwell? What does it involve her having to do? Sorry for the 20 questions, but we want to support her but I know she doesn't want hundreds of questions and pestering as I am sure you'll all understand. Wishing everyone the best of luck for your BFP's in the near future.

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Sep 27th, 2009, 07:59 AM	#2
Mrs G Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Bournemouth, UK Posts: 3,566	Hi Why does she not want them to know? We haven't told dh's family cos they are pushy and would be on the phone everyday! We only told my family when we actually started treatment, I just felt I needed the support and it became harder and harder to keep secrets from them. She will have to have a lot of appointments and for me it just was to hard to lie! We've only told people who won't pester or ask loads of questions but in my opinion it would be very hard to do this completely on your own. The actual treatment takes about 2 months but depending on where she lives she will have to wait for appointments and there may well be quite a long list too. Hope this has been helpful. Tell her to get herself on here, there's loads of us in the same boat as her!! Kath xx

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Sep 27th, 2009, 11:59 AM	#3
FlowerFairy Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 6,932	Thankyou! I think she's just got to the end of her tether with people asking about it all to be honest. She said people are always making comments about having a baby and giving her pitying looks when another month rolls around and she doesn't want people to feel like that. Her mum, and sister and Hubby all know, but I also think she is scared of it not working out. I have since found out today, that they had all the "stuff" (For want of a better word!) delivered to he mums house! The PCT she is in give 3 cycles I think, so this is just number 1. She is a nurse and hubby is a GP so they know a lot about IVF and have access to success and failure rates and I think it's a bit scary knowing too much sometimes! I would love her to be announcing her BFP early next year! It would make my year!! Her sister has 4 children, her brother 1 and I have 1 and 1 on the way so it's been pretty tough for her

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Sep 27th, 2009, 17:20 PM	#4
Helen Other BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 3,833	Hi Try this for basic info on IVF http://www.hfea.gov.uk/IVF.html The hormones affect different women differently and all the injections get pretty wearing but for me the emotional rollercoaster of it all had the biggest impact. Have a read of my diary if you want to see day-by-day http://www.babyandbump.com/ttc-journ...ary-ivfer.html Also I recommend reading this: http://www.babyandbump.com/problems-...ilization.html I think you are very thoughtful to be so sensitive to your cousin at such a tough time for her. I hope it works out for her
Helen Other BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 3,833
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Oct 25th, 2009, 07:26 AM	#5
FlowerFairy Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 6,932	I just wanted to let you know that my cousin started her injections on CD21 and didn't come on. She was worried and went to see the doc, her told her to do a Pregnancy test. She was already naturally Pregnant. She's 6 weeks and we're thrilled. Thanks for the comments girls xxxx All the very best for your own journeys xxxxxx

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