What would you do ?

Oneday · Sep 24th, 2009, 16:10 PM

Evening all,
I have had my long awaited appointment with the consultant today and I didn't go well. She has now decided it is no longer viable to remove my adhesions and wants me to have open surgery to remove my tubes as I at high risk of another ectopic when I go for IVF. I am having a private consultaion next to discuss it but feel devestated ;-(

apple_20 · Sep 24th, 2009, 16:13 PM

I'm sorry your going through this and i cant advise anything i guess just get as much information about it as you can look at the pro's and con's. good luck with the private consulation. dont give up on having your baby though x

Blue12 · Sep 24th, 2009, 16:22 PM

I just want to say I have to have my tubes removed as well and then ivf is my only chance. In 3 years of ttc I have never got pg once so it is scary to me that ivf might not work - because I am not sure if there are even more problems.

I just want to say you probably have a really good shot since you have been pg before. Did they say why your tube being left is risky - do you have hydrosalpinx?

Crypto1976 · Sep 24th, 2009, 16:24 PM

I am in a similar position. I have had one ectopic due to extra long tubes. The other is abnormally long too. There is a risk any fertilsed egg will not make it down. I am on clomid, and in some ways if I am going to have another ectopic I want it to happen asap. I am then happy to have no tubes and get stuck into IVF.

My feeling is that if it has to happen they might as well get on with it.

On the plus the consultant said that so long as ovaries are ok I would be a good ivf candidate.

It does truly stink to have to even contemplate this scenario, and I really do feel your pain. If it has to happen I would rather bite the bullet and try to be brave. In this situation I think focussing on the positives is the way to go with this, its not easy, but there are still options.

Please stay in touch and let me know how things go hun. You are in my thoughts XXXXXX

Oneday · Sep 24th, 2009, 16:56 PM

Thanks everyone
My major issue is the open surgery, laparotomy. I have had a c/s and have a gorgeous litlle boy then with the ectopic nearly 2 years ago i had a laparotmy to remove it, it is major surgery with 6 weeks plus recovery. On the other hand if i pay for IVF and get pregnant the worse case senario would be one to implant in my womb and one to be ectopic and lose both.
Sorry Blue i don't know what Hydrosalphix is, can you explain please?

Crypto1976 · Sep 24th, 2009, 17:03 PM

Sorry I didnt realise you had carried a baby full term, that might change my view on things if I had done it once before.

Its very difficult. I am thinking of you hun... and realise now my response is probably not helpful. Please stay in touch. XX

Oneday · Sep 24th, 2009, 17:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Crypto1976

Sorry I didnt realise you had carried a baby full term, that might change my view on things if I had done it once before.

Its very difficult. I am thinking of you hun... and realise now my response is probably not helpful. Please stay in touch. XX

Not quite sure what you mean about carrying a baby to full term already. History is 1 m/c 1 chemical, live birth, 1 m/c then 1 ectopic nearly 2 years ago. The easiest thing to say would be go and be content with the child you have but the hardest thing to do would be to give up, not yet. It would feel like i have gone through a lot of suffering for nothing.
Thanks for your advise sometimes it just helps having someone to listen

Crypto1976 · Sep 24th, 2009, 17:13 PM

Live birth- thats what i mean- sorry!

Crypto1976 · Sep 24th, 2009, 17:21 PM

I actually think having a child makes it more difficult in some ways. I dont have any kids, but oh has twin. He took our ectopic a lot worse than me. He knew what he was loosing whereas I didnt.

I would never suggest be happy with the child you, and I am great believer in the power of positive thought in matters concerning children. Not because I am a big PMA person generally but because its too painful to be any other way!

I have my fx for you, XXXXX

Oneday · Sep 24th, 2009, 17:30 PM

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Originally Posted by Crypto1976

I actually think having a child makes it more difficult in some ways. I dont have any kids, but oh has twin. He took our ectopic a lot worse than me. He knew what he was loosing whereas I didnt.

I would never suggest be happy with the child you, and I am great believer in the power of positive thought in matters concerning children. Not because I am a big PMA person generally but because its too painful to be any other way!

I have my fx for you, XXXXX

Thanks x You know what I mean it is never easier to walk away x

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Oneday Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Runcorn Posts: 1,205	What would you do ? Evening all, I have had my long awaited appointment with the consultant today and I didn't go well. She has now decided it is no longer viable to remove my adhesions and wants me to have open surgery to remove my tubes as I at high risk of another ectopic when I go for IVF. I am having a private consultaion next to discuss it but feel devestated ;-(

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Sep 24th, 2009, 16:13 PM	#2
apple_20 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: nottingham UK Posts: 927	I'm sorry your going through this and i cant advise anything i guess just get as much information about it as you can look at the pro's and con's. good luck with the private consulation. dont give up on having your baby though x

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Sep 24th, 2009, 16:22 PM	#3
Blue12 Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Ontario, Canada Posts: 6,624	I just want to say I have to have my tubes removed as well and then ivf is my only chance. In 3 years of ttc I have never got pg once so it is scary to me that ivf might not work - because I am not sure if there are even more problems. I just want to say you probably have a really good shot since you have been pg before. Did they say why your tube being left is risky - do you have hydrosalpinx?

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Sep 24th, 2009, 16:24 PM	#4
Crypto1976 Pregnant (Expecting) Inactive Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Scotland Posts: 2,820	I am in a similar position. I have had one ectopic due to extra long tubes. The other is abnormally long too. There is a risk any fertilsed egg will not make it down. I am on clomid, and in some ways if I am going to have another ectopic I want it to happen asap. I am then happy to have no tubes and get stuck into IVF. My feeling is that if it has to happen they might as well get on with it. On the plus the consultant said that so long as ovaries are ok I would be a good ivf candidate. It does truly stink to have to even contemplate this scenario, and I really do feel your pain. If it has to happen I would rather bite the bullet and try to be brave. In this situation I think focussing on the positives is the way to go with this, its not easy, but there are still options. Please stay in touch and let me know how things go hun. You are in my thoughts XXXXXX

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Sep 24th, 2009, 16:56 PM	#5
Oneday Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Runcorn Posts: 1,205	Thanks everyone My major issue is the open surgery, laparotomy. I have had a c/s and have a gorgeous litlle boy then with the ectopic nearly 2 years ago i had a laparotmy to remove it, it is major surgery with 6 weeks plus recovery. On the other hand if i pay for IVF and get pregnant the worse case senario would be one to implant in my womb and one to be ectopic and lose both. Sorry Blue i don't know what Hydrosalphix is, can you explain please?

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Sep 24th, 2009, 17:03 PM	#6
Crypto1976 Pregnant (Expecting) Inactive Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Scotland Posts: 2,820	Sorry I didnt realise you had carried a baby full term, that might change my view on things if I had done it once before. Its very difficult. I am thinking of you hun... and realise now my response is probably not helpful. Please stay in touch. XX

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Sep 24th, 2009, 17:13 PM	#8
Crypto1976 Pregnant (Expecting) Inactive Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Scotland Posts: 2,820	Live birth- thats what i mean- sorry!

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Sep 24th, 2009, 17:21 PM	#9
Crypto1976 Pregnant (Expecting) Inactive Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Scotland Posts: 2,820	I actually think having a child makes it more difficult in some ways. I dont have any kids, but oh has twin. He took our ectopic a lot worse than me. He knew what he was loosing whereas I didnt. I would never suggest be happy with the child you, and I am great believer in the power of positive thought in matters concerning children. Not because I am a big PMA person generally but because its too painful to be any other way! I have my fx for you, XXXXX

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