How many ICSI/IVF/FET before a positive - POLL - Page 4

Mervs Mum · Jun 23rd, 2009, 17:12 PM

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Originally Posted by chocci

I think i have been reading the wrong boards to be honest and got dragged down by the negativity and its put me in a bad mood haha (not me at all to be frank), i have just had a shit week really after finding out last wed that my ICSi had failed so was in need of inspiration and a little dissapointed that hardly anyone replied to this thread although i am greatful for those who did, seems once people have their BFP they simply leave and thats it really. I thought this would be a nice thread for lots of people feeling down and needing inspiration if they go through the same as me, i was thinking more for others in the future than for me if i am totally frank and thats why i am a little fed up that not many people have shared their stories....... I found some nice threads on other forums with this kind of thing on so thought it would be nice to start one on here for the members on here...hey ho never mind you live and learn

I'm sorry you had a bad week Chocci. For the most part when people get their BFP they do move on. It's a new part of their story which they are entitled to get just as submerged in as the might have in the actual TTC - what ever their process was. When I first left TTC I did go back but after a while I did move on and when you get your BFP (soon hopefully) then I hazard a guess that your first priority will be to enjoy your pregnancy and exciting journey. Yes you might pop back to see how your old TTC and LTTTC friends are getting along BUT I guarantee you wont reply to EVERYONES posts....you simply wont see them all.

Good luck and I hope I see you soon on another leg of your journey

Mervs Mum · Jun 23rd, 2009, 17:14 PM

And I dont think it's now a hot topic because you were controvertial - I think you were bordering on rude with your sweeping generalisations TBH.

chocci · Jun 23rd, 2009, 17:29 PM

NIce thanks for that Mervs mum i really needed that, thanks a lot!

chocci · Jun 23rd, 2009, 17:30 PM

And i WAS being sarcastic!

Dilek · Jun 23rd, 2009, 19:35 PM

Sorry I totally agree with the other comment earlier. I have been on the LTTC boards for over a year. I was reading way before i joined and there hasnt been that many IVF stories. So when it doesnt relate to members they dont reply.

And on top of that, like me and many others we have journals. Thats were you are going to get success stories and understand us and form relationships. Not trying to be mean but its there for you to read. Take your time and read up, thats what i did. Yep the other forum has many IVF stories but its impersonal. They both have there purpose and i would never give up BNB.

Mendy · Jun 23rd, 2009, 22:40 PM

I agree with Dilek. I have been on this forum over a year and I don't recall seeing that many IVF stories, but for the most part, there was a good amount of replies to this thread. Getting one, two, or even three replies is inspirational to me. Even one reply of a success story is all I need to keep me going and keep me trying for what I want. If it doesn't really apply to people then they won't respond.

I know it's only been a week since you found out about your failed cycle, but I found for me even though it still hurts it does get easier with time.

Take care of yourself, chocci.

Lilly123 · Jun 24th, 2009, 02:17 AM

Hun.. I dont think there are that many of us doing IVF on here.. but i completely agree we should have a IVF success stories area.. let me look into it..

BTW fertility friends and fertility zone have some nice success stories as I think there are far more girls on there doing IVF..

Good luck hun... I am always here to support u

xxx

chocci · Jun 24th, 2009, 03:36 AM

Thanks Tanya, i wanted a thread where it was easy to find stories, i understand people have them in their journals BUT thre is a lot to trial through in the journals, a lot of it is just general chit chat, i have done that i have looked through a lot of them, its hard work, people looking for inspiration just want to read the bones of a story!.....not meaning to sound funny but there are a lot of irrelevant comments on journals and some are pages and pages long, makes it hard to find just the story in the journals.

Like i said i posted on the BFP section of the LTTTC, people in there must have a story to tell i have noticed there have been a fair few doing IVF/ICSI/FET/IUI??? but maybe i am wrong??? but if they dont want to answer dont suppose we can make them. Maybe the moderators should create a section specfically to creating a brief snippet of success stories from fertility treatments?

Thanks and good luck Tanya i notice your in 2ww....fingers crossed chic x

Brambletess · Jun 24th, 2009, 03:40 AM

Chocci - I am sorry your ICSI was not successful. When will you be trying again? I have recently miscarried and am hoping to start my ICSI in august or september. I think the success stories are there its just so many back off from forums when they get their BFPs. The dream is to be pregnant but the worry doesn't stop it just changes and you seek out those who understand that. To be honest I feel less inclined to join a thread during my ICSI as there is a risk others negativity (understandable of course as its bloody hard at different times) or experienes can affect you and it is a personal journey and for me I want it to be as positive as possible.

I have been told it is better to view IVF as a course of treatment over say 3 goes. The odds of sucess go up massively.

Lilly123 · Jun 24th, 2009, 03:42 AM

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Originally Posted by chocci

Thanks Tanya, i wanted a thread where it was easy to find stories, i understand people have them in their journals BUT thre is a lot to trial through in the journals, a lot of it is just general chit chat, i have done that i have looked through a lot of them, its hard work, people looking for inspiration just want to read the bones of a story!.....not meaning to sound funny but there are a lot of irrelevant comments on journals and some are pages and pages long, makes it hard to find just the story in the journals.

Like i said i posted on the BFP section of the LTTTC, people in there must have a story to tell i have noticed there have been a fair few doing IVF/ICSI/FET/IUI??? but maybe i am wrong??? but if they dont want to answer dont suppose we can make them. Maybe the moderators should create a section specfically to creating a brief snippet of success stories from fertility treatments?

Thanks and good luck Tanya i notice your in 2ww....fingers crossed chic x

I agree hun.. I will ask moderators if we can do a thread with IVF success stories..I am not in 2WW yet hun.. will be soon.. should be starting stimms tomorrow

Good luck hun.. u will get there

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Jun 23rd, 2009, 17:29 PM	#33
chocci Trying to conceive (TTC) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Posts: 1,827	NIce thanks for that Mervs mum i really needed that, thanks a lot!

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chocci Trying to conceive (TTC) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Posts: 1,827	And i WAS being sarcastic!

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Jun 23rd, 2009, 19:35 PM	#35
Dilek Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: London Posts: 2,228	Sorry I totally agree with the other comment earlier. I have been on the LTTC boards for over a year. I was reading way before i joined and there hasnt been that many IVF stories. So when it doesnt relate to members they dont reply. And on top of that, like me and many others we have journals. Thats were you are going to get success stories and understand us and form relationships. Not trying to be mean but its there for you to read. Take your time and read up, thats what i did. Yep the other forum has many IVF stories but its impersonal. They both have there purpose and i would never give up BNB.

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Jun 23rd, 2009, 22:40 PM	#36
Mendy Trying to conceive (TTC) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2008 Location: San Diego, CA Posts: 2,706	I agree with Dilek. I have been on this forum over a year and I don't recall seeing that many IVF stories, but for the most part, there was a good amount of replies to this thread. Getting one, two, or even three replies is inspirational to me. Even one reply of a success story is all I need to keep me going and keep me trying for what I want. If it doesn't really apply to people then they won't respond. I know it's only been a week since you found out about your failed cycle, but I found for me even though it still hurts it does get easier with time. Take care of yourself, chocci.

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Jun 24th, 2009, 02:17 AM	#37
Lilly123 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 8,716	Hun.. I dont think there are that many of us doing IVF on here.. but i completely agree we should have a IVF success stories area.. let me look into it.. BTW fertility friends and fertility zone have some nice success stories as I think there are far more girls on there doing IVF.. Good luck hun... I am always here to support u xxx

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Jun 24th, 2009, 03:36 AM	#38
chocci Trying to conceive (TTC) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Posts: 1,827	Thanks Tanya, i wanted a thread where it was easy to find stories, i understand people have them in their journals BUT thre is a lot to trial through in the journals, a lot of it is just general chit chat, i have done that i have looked through a lot of them, its hard work, people looking for inspiration just want to read the bones of a story!.....not meaning to sound funny but there are a lot of irrelevant comments on journals and some are pages and pages long, makes it hard to find just the story in the journals. Like i said i posted on the BFP section of the LTTTC, people in there must have a story to tell i have noticed there have been a fair few doing IVF/ICSI/FET/IUI??? but maybe i am wrong??? but if they dont want to answer dont suppose we can make them. Maybe the moderators should create a section specfically to creating a brief snippet of success stories from fertility treatments? Thanks and good luck Tanya i notice your in 2ww....fingers crossed chic x

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Jun 24th, 2009, 03:40 AM	#39
Brambletess Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Glastonbury Posts: 304	Chocci - I am sorry your ICSI was not successful. When will you be trying again? I have recently miscarried and am hoping to start my ICSI in august or september. I think the success stories are there its just so many back off from forums when they get their BFPs. The dream is to be pregnant but the worry doesn't stop it just changes and you seek out those who understand that. To be honest I feel less inclined to join a thread during my ICSI as there is a risk others negativity (understandable of course as its bloody hard at different times) or experienes can affect you and it is a personal journey and for me I want it to be as positive as possible. I have been told it is better to view IVF as a course of treatment over say 3 goes. The odds of sucess go up massively.

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