anita665

It makes me angry to hear people who are really disapointed with what they're having. I think many people hope for a boy or girl but aren't really too bothered & I don't think anything is wrong with that. Personally I just REALLY hope for a healthy baby.

I've been hoping for a boy for dp because he dreams about it taking after him, but I will be just as happy with a girl to dress in girly clothes and go shopping with!

I was worried that dp seemed to have his heart set too much on a boy and how he would take it if it was a girl. Then the other day he announced with some disapointment in his voice that he thinks it will be a girl because thats just his luck, but then went on happily talking about being protective over her, not letting her leave the house till she's 18 and all the stuff he's going to teach her and places he's going to take her. I think that means he won't be disapointed either way!!

Jamie

i think i know the forum you are talking about

I really wanted a girl and was a little bit disappointed when the u/s confirmed my suspicions of a boy BUT i love him regardless and got over it pretty quickly!

mummyoffive

i had 4 boys and people were always saying they bet i wished for a girl- when i had my 4th boy i found everyone including the health staff very negative, but i also found that with my daughter once i said it was my 5th baby people were not interested and negative. I love all my children the same and i certainly would not have had any more children if i would have been disapointed. i wanted a large family as i really enjoy children and wanted loads people to look after me when i am older- only joking lol. i think its nice to have them all together especailly at xmas times and i just really like the way our family is . i come from a big family anyway(my nan had my mum, uncle, twins then another uncle 14 years later) my mum had me , brother and sister, and i have a sister and brother from my dad. (complicated i know) xx

Christina

Well how do I start......I will just say it and hope it makes sense. It is very hard growing up being a disappointment to your father that you were not a boy. I was to never call him DAD but by his first name. I was born a couple of months early and it makes me wonder if I did not make it would he have felt better? Then my sister came along 11 months later....another disappointment. It sucks sort of.....we were raised alittle like boys but dressed like girls. We learned to hunt, fish, build etc. Latter to operate heavy equipment at the age of 19. When I got engaged to my husband my father asked me what name I was taking and I said my husbands name. Opps huge fight and alot of tears. Anyway I ended up taking my family name and my husbands name but still to disappoint both of them........ Now I am scared once again. In two days I am telling my parents that I am pregnant for the first time and I am terrified on what my father is going to say or think. I am not sure Christmas is the best time to tell them but I figure it is my life and MY family and DO NOT care whether we have a boy or girl!!!! It is selfish and cruel and there are others that want sooo much to have children and are UNDERSTANDABLY dissapointed. I think this subject was appropriate and as upsetting as it is you have a right to talk about things that piss you off.

FJL

Christina - that is HORRIBLE re your Dad...I can't believe that! My Pop is a bit like that, and me being very strong willed and dominant personality will be telling him to shove his comments up his ass if we ever get preg and he says he hopes it is a boy.

Maybe tell your Dad how he made you feel, that you're happy and blessed to be pregnant and do not care what sex the child is.

This is YOUR life, not his, and honestly, the way he treated you for not being a boy is disgusting!

Sweetie

This is a really interesting topic tho I can definitely see the controversy. Everyone keeps asking us what we want. They are surprised when we look at them and say a baby. As long as it's healthy we have decided that we will be happy.

Spunky Cupkake

i was dissapoined on my second son as i wanted a girl only because i lost my first little boy and didnt want morgan my 2nd thinking that he was a replacement for my son that died but about 3 hours after i was in the next directory looking for clothes for him and started to get excited i love him to bits and would never change him for the world when we got preg again i really wanted a liitle girl which i did concieve but if she were a boy id love him too just as much as the other two at the end of the day im lucky that they are all healthy and that the most important thing plus i think whatever you concieve boy/girl thats what is meant to be xxx

d4111

Great thread !!!

I totally hear you, I would be so glad just to be blessed with a baby at all !!! that worrying about gender is the last thing on my mind !!

Just to be able to finally get a positive result on a pregnancy test would be enough

I think people that are able to fall pregnant very easily or have children with no problems are far more likely to want a certain gender and that's fair enough but for those of us just yearning to be able to fall pregnant at all just don't care.... when I was younger I always wanted a little boy but over the past few years with not having been able to fall pregnant I dont care anymore....

best of luck to all of you trying :-)

Dxxx

**angel**

PitBullMommy

I have to say, even though we were TTC for 2+ years, now that the sexing scan day has come...I REALLY want a girl, VERY much so. I always said it didn't matter, and honestly, it doesn't...but a girl would be SO nice. If Peanut does turn out to be a boy though, he'll be just what I wanted, I know it.