Tam

I just think a lot of people take pregnancy and being able to have kiddies for granted, so they get carried away with the whole sex of the baby and what they want next etc.....there are many people that do not personally know people who are trying to have a baby for months or years, and definately do not know what you go through. It is all down to ignorance most of the time and just taking it all for granted. If people had to go thru months or years of BFN's then their expectations and hopes would certainly change.

As for the medical side of it, well there is nothing that 'they' personally can do about their feelings, that is not their fault.

I am blessed with one of each.....I had no preference, but as my sister turned out 2 boys, I thought I was going to be a girly maker

My sister not knowing anything about struggling to get PG.....really wanted a girl, and said she may continue to 'try' until she had one! She left her 3rd baby as a suprise so never found out the sex til the birth, but she had anxieties about not loving the baby as much if it was another boy etc she drove herself nuts and her feelings scared her...........Now I know she would have loved that baby just as much either way, but she did get the little girl she wanted.

My Great Nan always used to say (which passed down to my Nan, and then my Mum) "You wouldn't care if it was a wet kipper as long it is healthy"! And they are so right! A baby is a gift, and yes it is natural to have feelings and preferences for things, but they should be put into perspective and we should all be greatful for what we do get in life, especially if we get blessed with children!

Wobbles

Difficult topic ...

I wanted Caitlin to be a boy BUT that was because everyone said I would have a girl & I wanted them to be wrong Very happy with my lil girl joke aside I can only answer some peoples ways and thoughts discust me but I know my opinion is stronger because of 'my' history ... TTC losses heartache etc just can't see the other side of it! When we TTC again I'd really like a boy but that would just be nice I wouldn't be sad because I had a girl also we decided 2 was our fullstop and if #2 isn't a boy we're not going to go for #3 I love my Caitlin I will love my next nomatter of gender Im privilaged to be a Mummy thats all that matters along with them being healthy happy loved and cared for.

PitBullMommy

It bothers me too. My friend found out she's having a girl and she and her DH BOTH broke down and cried cause they don't want a girl. I'm sure they'll love her and stuff, but..they're both VERY upset. They found out almost a month ago and haven't even thought of girls names cause, "maybe the US will be wrong". Makes me sad for the poor baby.

coccyx

Pitbullmummy, I find that quite upsetting.I hope their daughter never finds out how they reacted. They have been given a precious gift and need a kick up the backside! I think people are so used to getting what they want in western society that they can't cope when they are given something else. I can understand hoping to have a particular sex but to express disappointment like that is awful !

PurestFeeling

I'm hoping for a boy I don't really know why, maybe it's more so that I think it's a boy but if it turns out to be a girl I will be just as happy and thrilled. I just want a happy healthy baby.

NeyNey

It's hard for people to understand who can fall pregnant so easily, just what it's like not to be able to.

It's like someone wanting to buy a house on the beach, but their partner wanting a condo in the city - When most of us would just be grateful for a new home without the bills! It's a matter of taking what you have for granted.

Personally I don't care what sex I have, as long as he or she is healthy - I just want to be a mummy

wannabmum

I understand all points of view on this matter, however like some of you I also get really upset when hearing people moan adout the fact they are not having the sew they are "hoping" for due to our long term ttc issues we know the only hope of us ever holding our own little miricle lies with fertility clinics and needls, although I think what the other girls are saying is right in the fact the biggesyt problem with this issue is people taking the miricle for granted!!

xx

Hope22

This is interesting, not a topic I've ever really thought about before but now that I see it, it makes sense. My mom was in mid-divorce when she found out she was pregnant with me, and she wished for a girl but only because, in her words, she felt she would do a better job raising a girl because she used to be one! She said she would have loved a boy, but might have had more trouble understanding some of the male parts of growing up if she had to raise him as a single parent. Luckily I was a girl, but since my stepdad came along when I was very young it ended up a bit of a moot point anyway

The day is coming when couples will be able to select their future baby's sex, eye colour, hair colour and more, and I don't doubt there will be plenty of people who want to have 'designer children'. Myself, I just want a baby. We would love and cherish a boy or a girl, or twins, all we pray for is that s/he (or they) is healthy and happy.

My husband once told me that no matter what sex our child(ren) is (are), he hopes they'll want to play hockey, but I've told him that he may end up with a boy who does ballet or a girl who wants to become a mechanic, and he's going to have to accept them for what they want and who they are. I know no matter what, he'll love them to death, but he might experience a little 'hockey disappointment' if they don't want to don jerseys and follow in their dad's footsteps

RachiePachie

I understand this from different sides.

I personally don't mind what I have as long as he or she is healthy - however, we would like a boy because my husband is last in line and he has already got a daughter (who is now 13) - but I think it's so easy to see it from all sides really. On the one hand you have the fact any child is a miracle and on the other there can also be a preference when you already have children etc. It's a difficult one to stand on one or the other side.

kimmyjane84

I'm another one who hasn't really thought about this... But now that I've read your posts I thought I too would post my thoughts.

My friend is currently expecting her first child with her partner and they are having a boy. They both really wanted a boy as soon as they found out they were pregnant, but they said all along that a girl would be loved just as much.

I already have a 10-year-old step son and me and my OH hope to have another two together. In an ideal world I would love to have a girl and then a boy. However, regardless of what combination of boys/girls we have I will just be happy to of created a new little life.