FJL

Tomorrow morning my sister is going in for a planned C-section.

We'd been trying for months when they got preg for the 2nd time on the 2nd go.

Of course the whole family is excited (except for me of course) and I just can't shake the feeling that it should be ME. Me going in to have my baby, me holding my baby in my arms, me making the calls and seeing my visitors.

Its just not fair...

To top it all off I was speaking to a friend the other day (she doesn't know about our probs) and she said 'My sister is 17 weeks pregnant, she found out she is having a boy, she is really so crushed and devestated because she already has 2 boys'

I lashed out saying that she was lucky to be pregnant, to already have 2 kids and another on the way and so long as her baby was healthy the sex really shouldn't matter.

It just gets to me so bad

Amanda

Aw hunnie, this is a perfectly normal reaction.

Every single friend of mine who was pg when I was pg with Charlie is pg with their second. 2 of them weren't trying at all, 1 got pg the 2nd month, and the other got pg the 1st month, and he has admitted that they only BD once in her fertile week, and it worked! We've been trying for 14 months, and it's really beginning to get to me now. I'm really happy for all of them, but I hate them all as well. It makes me feel like a really bad person, but I'm not, honest.

It will happen for us soon FJL, and then they can be the jealous ones when our babies are cuter than theirs!!

Steph

Both of you wonderful ladies, just look at me, i got pregnant on our 15th month of trying. I thought it was never going to happen, but it did!!And it will for you too!I promise!!

I had countless tests for PCOS,Endometriosis, etc etc and nothing was wrong, its all about when its meant to be i think...and here it's happened.

Good luck, and i really hope your meant to be time is just around the corner

xxx

skiwi

hi hun, it is a normal reaction, you are only human, it will happen to you guys, just hang in there.....

Amanda

Thanks Steph, that means a lot.

Mango

Your reaction is definitely normal and I would feel the same. Stay positive and keep trying. I hope it happens for you guys soon (HUGZ)

FJL

Thanks so much guys I'm so sorry that everytime I seem to come on here I do nothing but whinge! But you guys always make me feel better!Amanda - yes, our babies will be so much cuter

Helen

Hey. Just wanted to send you both a big

There's nothing worse than someone being PG or having a baby anywhere near you when you are TTC and struggling.

Hope all goes well with your sister tomorrow. Are you still planning on visiting?

Arcanegirl

FJL

Wobbles

whats wrong with that? We're here listening and thats what we are here for hun

This must be a hard time for you Stay strong where you can and thinking of you

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