ElliesMum

Such a sad story.

I admire you greatly for what you are doing with dd. She will always class your OH as her dad, even when/if she does find out the truth.

I also admire you for your strength. I know as much as you do that there are times when we wonder if it is all worth the pain and struggling we are going through. But then, if your like me, you just have to carry on and carry on until you get what you want.

Its so annoying when you want to get things done and you are slowed down by other people (hospitals, doctors etc). We were told after each m/c that if i hadnt fallen pg in six months then go back and see them. We wasted all those six months when things could have been done. I feel so much time was wasted. I was 34 years old when i went to the recurrent miscarriage clinic. I am now 39. If all goes well, i will be 40 when this baby is born.

wannabmum

I totally agree there are times I wonder if I can cope but other times I feel so positive I want to have a family so much I will go threw this untill we get there, hospitals are the most frustrating even down to doing tests rather than testing both together it one test at a time waiting weeks for results then on to the next it really is a joke!! With dd we love her so much when all this came out as I said to oh its not her fault her mothers behaviour dd still the same person, oh said what made him so angry apart from that is he didn't have to stay with her mother when he did they were worst times in his life but just said to him if he didn't we wouldn't have dd in our lives and where would she be now?? I also admire your strength you have been threw so much

xx

Wobbles

Defo look into private it really should not be a wait like you think and like the NHS and sounds like they taking some negative risks???

Helen went private for fertility and IVF as you know she would be a great one to give you her waiting times as her and hubby woudl have needed tests prior to any treatment too.

Mynxie

just wanna send you some hugs huni xx

Arcanegirl

I think Helen mentioned waiting times for IVF would have been 3 years for her....

Tam

Sorry it is going to take longer than you were initially told, but your OH is right in what he so lovingly said. x