my name is tanya and i am 23 weeks pregnant my waters broke about 3 weeks ago and i am trying to get my baby to 24 weeks so he is viable.i,m frightened and confused...and i feel real guilty i blame myself...its my body thats letting my son down...

i cannot get any answers from any of my consultants apart from its in gods hands and believe me thats all i do is prayer, cry , stay in bed constantly only getting up to use the toilet, so i dont put pressure on my uterus and make it contract... does anyone understand what i am going through cause all people keep saying to me is you need to pull yourself together but i just cant my life is in limbo...i have decided to call my son Dylan so no matter what at least when hes born hes got a name to go by not the so and so weeker...or tanyas baby...makes it sound all so impersonal...please prayer for him i live in hope him upstairs is listening...i dont even have a religion but im that scared i am willing to try anything...

went to the hospital today demanding to speak to a consultant to get some answers and i have been told its more than likely that even if i do get to 24 weeks my son is more than likely to be malformed as his limbs will not grow tidy with no waters...so i have to make the decision...once resuscitated at birth how much medical care there after i wish my son to receive in others words whether i want my son to have everything possible done to save him...or whether it would be best just to let him go...how can i be expected to make a decision like that do i be selfish and want to keep him alive because i cant bear to lose him...or do i do what is best for my son...i am absolutely heartbroken...

i also have to stay strong for my other 5 children aged 12,8,6,5,2 1/2 as they are really confused too...they expected a little brother to be coming home with mammy, people have said to me be happy u have 5 healthy children but i do not see how that makes a difference dylan is still my son and even tho not born yet he is still very much loved the same as my other kids...

Thankfully I hvae never been through what your going through and I must say I would be having the same feelings as you are,I just recently had a son born at 34 weeks, and I was feeling guilty like I had control over it.
Talk to your Doctors, demand answers,it's your child and your body you deserve to know all that there is to know.I wish you and your baby all the best.

Oh hun they won't give you any meds? I really hope that you make it two weeks. My little one was born at 24 weeks 5 days old and she's doing amazing for a 24 weeker. SO if you make it to 24 weeks your LO has a great chance.
There are afew girls on here that had there waters break early so maybe they can help u a little beter. All I can say is good luck and try not to stress. Stay in bed and try to shower sitting down if u can and just limit your activities. It might be hard but it's for the best

I hope you make it to the 24 week, and even more. If you need anything let me know, you're not alone, we all are here to help you through this

thanx evry1 helps to know i am not the only one thats been through this....

Hi Tanya,

Please keep positive. I had a very early baby at 24 weeks and she is doing fine now but I do know of a baby that survived at 22 weeks. She weighed under a pound and she is a bouncing 2 year old now with absolutely no issues.

Dylan is a beautiful name. I really love it. Dylan seems to be hanging in there so keep strong for your little boy.

Love
Sam

Will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

thanks for this its stories like yours that shows there is hope for even the smallest of babies, i hope my baby is just as strong as yours

tanya

talk to bubs every day and tell it how important it is to stay inside
wishing you lots of luck, hope you can go as long as possible.

its really nice to know miracles happen...they are terrors but well worth it tanya