How will I cope?

lillysmum · Feb 11th, 2009, 06:19 AM

People keep asking me this question and it's driving me nuts - just wondered if anyone here has been getting the same?

"But how will you cope with Lilly and a new baby?" (Lilly is my 18month old btw) to which my usual response is - "brilliantly". MY daughter, except from her normal toddler rants and huffs is amazingly well behaved and set in a very good routine which she loves and i can manage great.

Yes I know it will be tiring having to look after her and a new baby but i just think its really cheeky for people to assume i'll find it tough and wont be able to cope - do they not realise that i have been aware of how hard it might be before we decided to get pregnant again!!

So ranting over .... lol ... anyone else getting this from friends/family/random people??

beckybumpbaby · Feb 11th, 2009, 06:22 AM

yup!!! i have a 20 month old and obviously max is due anytime now and everyone keeps trying to make me feel like i am going to fail!! we will prove them all wrong though hun, i have just said that max will fit into our routine we already have and thats that!!! it will be fine, dont worry too much about it xxxxxx

pinkmummy · Feb 11th, 2009, 06:26 AM

Yup I get the same too and I just feel like saying 'what business of yours is it?' LOL Caitlin is 27 months and going through terrible 2's and yeah its hard but we will cope its not the end of the world! xxx

Emsy26 · Feb 11th, 2009, 06:30 AM

I have 3 children already, they are a bit older than yours
7,6 and my wild 5yr old daughter....they stress me big time and they all go full time school. Everyone keeps saying...if you can't cope with these 3 what you gonna do with a newborn?
My reply....I can cope with these 3 and another will be a challenge, but I'm ready for it!!
I have a very helpful partner, and am on my own all day, which gives me time for new baby xox

lillysmum · Feb 11th, 2009, 07:15 AM

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Originally Posted by Emsy26

I have 3 children already, they are a bit older than yours
7,6 and my wild 5yr old daughter....they stress me big time and they all go full time school. Everyone keeps saying...if you can't cope with these 3 what you gonna do with a newborn?
My reply....I can cope with these 3 and another will be a challenge, but I'm ready for it!!
I have a very helpful partner, and am on my own all day, which gives me time for new baby xox

exactly, my OH is amazing with my daughter which is part of the reason why we're having another cause i know he'll continue to be an amazing support to us as a family.

Lets all prove them wrong!!!

Nibblenic · Feb 11th, 2009, 07:19 AM

People making coments like that drive me crazy.
I normally say, oh dont you know youre baby sitting every other weekend?

Its not thier place to judge you! *rant over*

Im sure all you ladies will do an amazng job, lets face it, you havent got 8 or more and it isnt long since families were that size

mummymadness · Feb 11th, 2009, 07:22 AM

I got this tonnes when i told every one .
Finnleys 18 months
Layla is 3 1/2 years .

People say your never going to cope , And Finnley isnt well behaved and is a little sod lol He is well and truley in the mist of terrible 2s lol .
But i allways answer the same , "I will cope just fine the same as i did when i had layla then had finnley, I will cope because i can and because i love my kids" .

I tell every one now not to mention it as it gets me mad . xxxx .

natalie7 · Feb 11th, 2009, 07:25 AM

just ignore them im pregnant with baby number 7 so you can imagine the comments i get when my baby is born i will have 5 children 5 and under yeah it can be hard but i hate being without them this is my life and i dont just cope i care and love my children just like a mother of 1 or 2

FierceAngel · Feb 11th, 2009, 07:28 AM

lol we get this from oh aunt all the time and we dont have any other children!!!

she goes on about money etc like hello we are not 10 we are grown ups im almost 23 oh is 25 this year! we have our own place, oh works full time and im getting maternity pay alongside tax credits etc!!!

its like they think your the first person ever to have two babies lol!!!

Emsy26 · Feb 11th, 2009, 07:28 AM

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Originally Posted by natalie7

just ignore them im pregnant with baby number 7 so you can imagine the comments i get when my baby is born i will have 5 children 5 and under yeah it can be hard but i hate being without them this is my life and i dont just cope i care and love my children just like a mother of 1 or 2

Good On You Hunny. xox

Feb 11th, 2009, 06:19 AM	#1
lillysmum Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Dundee Posts: 3,825	How will I cope? People keep asking me this question and it's driving me nuts - just wondered if anyone here has been getting the same? "But how will you cope with Lilly and a new baby?" (Lilly is my 18month old btw) to which my usual response is - "brilliantly". MY daughter, except from her normal toddler rants and huffs is amazingly well behaved and set in a very good routine which she loves and i can manage great. Yes I know it will be tiring having to look after her and a new baby but i just think its really cheeky for people to assume i'll find it tough and wont be able to cope - do they not realise that i have been aware of how hard it might be before we decided to get pregnant again!! So ranting over .... lol ... anyone else getting this from friends/family/random people??

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Feb 11th, 2009, 06:22 AM	#2
beckybumpbaby Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: kent Posts: 296	yup!!! i have a 20 month old and obviously max is due anytime now and everyone keeps trying to make me feel like i am going to fail!! we will prove them all wrong though hun, i have just said that max will fit into our routine we already have and thats that!!! it will be fine, dont worry too much about it xxxxxx

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Feb 11th, 2009, 06:26 AM	#3
pinkmummy Other BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: UK Posts: 7,417	Yup I get the same too and I just feel like saying 'what business of yours is it?' LOL Caitlin is 27 months and going through terrible 2's and yeah its hard but we will cope its not the end of the world! xxx

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Feb 11th, 2009, 06:30 AM	#4
Emsy26 Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: West Mids Posts: 2,638	I have 3 children already, they are a bit older than yours 7,6 and my wild 5yr old daughter....they stress me big time and they all go full time school. Everyone keeps saying...if you can't cope with these 3 what you gonna do with a newborn? My reply....I can cope with these 3 and another will be a challenge, but I'm ready for it!! I have a very helpful partner, and am on my own all day, which gives me time for new baby xox

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Feb 11th, 2009, 07:19 AM	#6
Nibblenic Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: North East England Posts: 6,904	People making coments like that drive me crazy. I normally say, oh dont you know youre baby sitting every other weekend? Its not thier place to judge you! rant over Im sure all you ladies will do an amazng job, lets face it, you havent got 8 or more and it isnt long since families were that size

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Feb 11th, 2009, 07:22 AM	#7
mummymadness Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Lincolnshire Posts: 7,558	I got this tonnes when i told every one . Finnleys 18 months Layla is 3 1/2 years . People say your never going to cope , And Finnley isnt well behaved and is a little sod lol He is well and truley in the mist of terrible 2s lol . But i allways answer the same , "I will cope just fine the same as i did when i had layla then had finnley, I will cope because i can and because i love my kids" . I tell every one now not to mention it as it gets me mad . xxxx .

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Feb 11th, 2009, 07:25 AM	#8
natalie7 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: bolton Posts: 448	just ignore them im pregnant with baby number 7 so you can imagine the comments i get when my baby is born i will have 5 children 5 and under yeah it can be hard but i hate being without them this is my life and i dont just cope i care and love my children just like a mother of 1 or 2

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Feb 11th, 2009, 07:28 AM	#9
FierceAngel Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Hertfordshire Posts: 6,075	lol we get this from oh aunt all the time and we dont have any other children!!! she goes on about money etc like hello we are not 10 we are grown ups im almost 23 oh is 25 this year! we have our own place, oh works full time and im getting maternity pay alongside tax credits etc!!! its like they think your the first person ever to have two babies lol!!!

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