I hate mice ... Filthy f*ckers
So afraid of them!


And MIL ALWAYS has mice in the house ...scares the sh*t out of me.
Plus, I have OCD, doesn't really help to be in situations like that.

Was out there on Sunday for dinner, and while eating I could see 3mice traps. Apparently one got in behind the fridge and I literally could not relax and couldn't wait for OH to take me home!!

Now my MIL is great, and I know she'll be an awesome gran, she can't wait to look after the baby in her house. Not a chance of me bringing my baby out there with mice though, no way, I couldn't handle that... and they carry disease, why would I want to expose my baby to that?!

I've decided to avoid her house for awhile until she deals with the mouse problem...for my own sake, but how will I say nicely, that when baby arrives, I will not be bringing her out to MIL's house to be surrounded with disgusting pests!!!

I don't want to hurt her feelings.

Sigh

Maybe say next time (when you see the traps) "oohh no, still have mice?! Naughty pesks!!!.. you'll have to sort them out before Isabellas here hey!! haha!" and smile like you're half joking.. then it'll make her think about it and think 'actually, she's right'

xxxx

Thats how i'd do it. less embarassing for her x

I am not exactly sure... maybe explain to her the dangers of mice and mice droppings? And the threats that they could pose to your new baby. And also the threats that they pose to her health. That being said we did have a problem with mice in our house in Kansas. Luckily it was a controlled situation. (The neighbors had mice, and apparently they escaped into our basement.) The situation was controlled with mice traps with peanut butter on them. And there were only 5 mice that escaped. :/ Too bad we didn't know they escaped before they got murdered. :/ After that we never saw (or heard) another mouse. And the traps remained empty.

Tell her to put peanut butter on the traps. It attracts the mice better then cheese or poison _

Well tbh, if she is trying to get rid of them then clearly she knows it's not great so I don't think she would be offended. What I mean is, if she were happily letting them run round the house and share her food, she would probably get offended because she doesn't see a problem with it. But that's not the case. What I would say is "MIL, I can see your efforts to try and eliminate your mouse problem and that's great - but I do have to say that I really can't take the risk of bringing baby her once he/she is born. You are welcome to visit him/her at our house, and as soon as the infestation is clear we will visit you just as often." I don't think anyone can get annoyed with you for not wanting to take your baby to a pest ridden house!

Maybe just maybe it will be sorted before you even have cause to bring it up? Can you ask OH to have a quiet word about it, so she still has 6 weeks to call in the professionals? Then the heat is off you anyway - surely he agrees with you when it comes to his baby too?

I have the same issue with my Mum and her smokey house. Yes when we are there she smokes out the back door. But when we are not she smokes like a chimney inside and it lingers and I am educated on it, I know the effects of passive smoking even if it is just within the air in her house. I'm weak when it comes to her though and I hate hate hate fighting because she always seems to win! Currently she still thinks she is having Ella at hers whilst I have Toby! Not gonna happen, but stupid me left it so long to tell her (still haven't) that she's bloody sorted it with work already! Also she was telling Ella last time she visited that "Nana will make you jacket potato and soup and jelly when you come to stay!" Uh, NO you will not give my baby girl JELLY thank you unless I have made it with pure fruit juice and gelatine, not sugary crap from Asda! I told her this and she said "Well she can have a WeightWatcher's one!" ARGH yes cus the reason I don't want to fill her with sugar is for her weight gain, not cus it's bad for her!

Sorry, I digresses into a private rant there! But I understand that we all want the best for our LOs and it always always seems to be the baby's grandparents who create issues!

Best of luck xxx

WSS^ has she ever actually had pest control in. i only ask as i sometimes got mice my house is clean and all food is well wrapped and stored so i was more than a little upset as to why i kept getting them (although i love mice, and could not kill them but dont want them in my house with the dirty they carry) i gave in and called pest control and the nice man explained that because i live surrounded by woodland and lodges no matter how clean my house was in the cold they would get in if they could just for the warmth but he found the entry point for me (which i would never have seen it was so tiny couldnt believe anything could get in through it) once i had that blocked up no more mice! its been about 3 years now since i last had them so just putting traps down and keeping a clean house might not ever get rid she really should get an expert in to help her x

I am having a similar situation with my MIL... well not quite as we are out of country, but her house is always cluttered, as well as it smells of dogs and cat waste. The carpets are always dirty as well. Her husband has a special light and showed me the stains from the cat/ dog pee and poop. And every time she comes to my house she criticizes it, which it is quite clean but about stupid stuff like dust on the base boards and telling me that they (social services) could take my child for this, but her home is a million x worse, atleast my house is clean, and smells fresh even if there is dust on the base boards. Seriously it is a 100 year old house.

It doesn't matter right now because we are not in the states, but we are going to visit and I have told my husband that the baby is not to be alone with them in their house, as I know they will let her down onto the floor to play. (I have been to visit several times, and I refuse to walk on the floors without my shoes on. I do not want my infant on their floors.) Just my personal opinion though. Eww.

I love them to death though and know that they will be amazing grandparents, I just hope they have the oppertunity to visit us at our home (when in the states we live in different states) that way they have a chance to be.

Maybe it is just a MIL thing...

If it were me, I would be getting my OH to have that conversation with her lol.

My baby will also never be staying at my MILs house, whether my husband and I are there or not. She lives in a trailer which I honestly have nothing against - it's the fact that she will let anyone and everyone come and stay there when they need a place. At one stage there was like 10 people (children and adults) living in a tiny 400sq/ft 2 bedroom trailer. Also it is filthy and just downright dangerous. There are holes in the floors and walls, mold, clutter...

My husband is very aware of his mothers situation and agrees 100% with me that the baby will never go into that house in the state its in. Hell, he wont even let me go there alone, and when we do visit we stay in a hotel at night and just see her during the day!

My DH will be the one breaking the news to her that there will be no baby there. His mother, he can do it lol. If it was MY mother he would expect me to do it etc.