Is this the roller coaster ride we’re supposed to expect in the 3rd tri? First half of December I was soo happy, giddy even. Lately, I’ve just been feeling sad and really lonely I don’t know if it’s the hormones or because of circumstances.

DH and I were supposed to travel back to my home country for the holidays and to attend my brother’s wedding, but we decided to cancel our trip at the last minute. Even though the dr gave me the go ahead to travel, I just couldn’t bear the though of anything happening to my lil girl because of the stress and fatigue that goes with travel (it’s about a 15 hour plane ride, excluding airport wait!).

DH knows how disappointed I was with the cancelled trip (which I’ve been anticipating since May when we bought the tickets and before I got pregnant), so he’s been really really sweet about it – taking me out to any restaurant of my choosing, buying me a really nice Christmas gift, doing things in the house without my asking, planning to take me to a salon for a manicure/pedicure this weekend, etc. But I still feel so sad and lonely!

I’ve always been fairly independent, but lately I feel like I’ve been so needy and clingy. My DH’s only real vice is he enjoys spending time in the computer once in a while to play his games, and I can’t even let him have that sometimes. There are times while he’s in the middle of playing his game and I ask him to come sit with me in the room, just to ‘hang out’. I just get reallllly lonely and I hate feeling like this! It also doesn’t help that it’s so quiet in the office nowadays cause a lot of my colleagues are out on vacation, so I can’t even talk to anyone while I’m at work.

I really hate feeling this way, especially since I typically LOVE the Christmas season and I’m normally chirpy and happy during this time of the year! I’m afraid my LO might be feeling my depressed mood lately too Anyone else having the same feeling of loneliness or is it just me??

you are not alone hunni, believe me as you have probably been told its all to do with hormones going up and down as as you are nearing the end hormones fluctuate more in preperation for babies arrival, try not to dwell on the bad days hunn and take every day as it comes and always remember at the end of all this you will have your beautiful Lo in your arms

Oh bless you hun...It's not just you at all it's these hormones!!! I have a bad cold and feels like pants at the mo...My hubby and DS were going to get him something from Argos so I went with them!!! All I really wanted to do was curl up in bed but I couldn't bear the thought of being on my own... Not long and your gorgeous little one will be here... then you will not want visitors and they will be coming in droves!!!

Thank you so much for replying. Right now it's hard to even get myself excited about my LO (and I feel so guilty about it!) but I know I have to take each day as it comes.

Oh hun, it's definitely not just you!

Normally at this time of year we would travel to Canada to spend the holidays with my side of the family - but was told that I would be best not flying so close to my due date on such a long trip - so we stayed here in the UK on our own this year. I've been feeling extra emotional and needy too recently, so I can understand how you feel.

Always feel free to vent to us hun -

Thank you! I guess I just needed to let this out. All my close friends (and most of my relatives) are in another country. I've made some friends here too since moving a little over a year ago, but of course not with the kind of history with friends you've grown up with. And all my relatives in the US are in southern CA which is 5 hrs away, and DH's relatives are in the east coast, so it's really just me and him here.

Your last sentence made me smile though thanks! I guess it's true what they say - careful what you ask for!

Thanks! Though I wish you could have spent the holidays with your family too, it's nice to know you can relate to what I'm feeling. Right now I'm crying and it's so embarrassing cause I'm in the office! I hope nobody sees me! Argh.

I have had weepy moments like that in the office too - even had a customer hand me a Kleenex!

Please feel free to PM me if you need to get things off your chest hun.
x

I can totally relate, I cry for no reason, been like this on and off for the last couple of days, feeling better today

Totally know how you feel. I feel slightly giddy and excited this week about the pregnancy, but for the last few weeks i've been feeling really up and down, and finding my lack of independence and reliance on my OH hard to deal with, then i cry on him and feel worse, like i've become someone else in his eyes and not the woman he married (in May this year too, poor thing! I've been pregnant since our honeymoon so he's had very little 'normal' me)

It passes though - i'm sure. Plus try talking to your OH to rationalise how you feel and see if there's stuff you can do to make you feel better. Is there any family who could come to visit you for a weekend from CA? Just don't bottle it all up x