katix333

ive posted this here as i posted my previous post here about my bf, well since the day after that post, he hasnt been smoking, the first few nights were hard as he was having mood swings and generally having the side effects ya get when u quit smoking! things are looking up now, and i can now see the man i fell in love with!

so now i have another problem!
its all go with me!

so ive recently found out that my dad has split up from his partner of 10 years (i never got on with her she was a moneygrabbing witch!) and is now with an irish lady, which he must of met while he goes flying (my dad owns shares in a small airfield, and has his own small aircraft), i was noticing that he was never home when i fetched my driving lesson money (me and my dad dont get on and rarely speak, but as he had paid for my brothers driving lessons, he payed for mine too)

my dad still hasnt even told me that hes split up with his partner, i have been told everything by my brother, who funnily enough has been taken to ireland and has been introduced and everything!

so i told my dad about a month or so ago that im pregnant and he has decided not to talk to me because of this! (he has never been there for me so i knew he wouldnt be there for his 1st granchind either, i just thought it was best he heard it from me) and i have now been told by my brother that he has gone on how i didnt tell him and i wasnt honest and so on... how can he have the cheek to say tht when he still hasnt told me anything about the new woman (even though i have been told shes over here saying a while!!!!)

im just pretty annoyed that he can critisise me for not telling him i was pregnant, when he hasnt told me that he now has a new woman even though my brother has met her and everyone else he knows, knows about her! he has said "she better not think shes coming up here for anything off me, because she can think again" he never payed a penny towards my upkeep, and i am doing perfectly fine without him, so i dont need him now.

so ive just popped to see my partner, and when ive got to my moms, ive noticed that theres a missed call off him... so not sure why he's called, maybe for my brother, as surely if it were for me he could of called my mobile or left a message?!

i dont know ladies, just needed to get it out.. why is it when you solve one problem, another one comes at you?! xxx

what would you do in my shoes? sorry its so long just noticed xxx

XKatX

Ooh, this sounds like a complicated one!!
Not sure what to say really, but didn't want to read and run.
Hope things get sorted it hun - it is true - as soon as one problem is solved, another always pops straight up. These things are sent to try us - just a bit too much sometimes!!!

beancounter

aw I have no advice to give, I don't talk to my father at all. Though when I was talking to him and discovered he had not mentioned my sisters existence or her child, I had great delight in telling them all he was a grandfather. He was a git. Probably still is, just don't have to deal with it anymore.

katix333

i dont bother with him and it really doesnt bother me id rather not have him in our life, its just how he has the cheek to talk about me behind my back when he has done no different! xxx

hsollis

I don't know what to say either other than just ignore it all.

The only thing is to maybe just ask your brother not to bother telling you anything he has said and just keep your relationship with your brother. You don't need to get all stressed out at this point and if you aren't going to bother with your dad then don't.

I think your brother would understand given the situation.

Remember to do what's best for you and the baby and that is to reduce the stress as best you can!!

Good luck and all the best!!

Aidan's Mummy

big hugs hunni keep your chin up
xx