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Old Aug 20th, 2008, 05:18 AM   #1
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Down in the dumps - sorry for the moan


Well im sorry, i just need to moan, you dont need to reply, it just helps to write it down!!!
Ive had enough of what seems like most things.

Work is really getting me down, i hate being treated like a bit of shit, and altough i have put a complaint in, nothing was done about it, due to the manager then going on the sick. Im taking maternity leave from Oct 1st, which i didnt want to do, but i feel i have no choice.

I hate living in this flat, it's a 2nd floor flat, and although it's gorgeous inside, and is big enough, i just feel like im not giving LO the best start. Everyone keeps saying to me, how the hell are you going to cope, i think you were daft buying your place etc. Are they really right?

My friends and family seem to have drifted away, and i feel like the only people close to me are Mark, and my parents. Why do the people who make out they are your mates turn there back on you.

Grrr i could keep moaning, but is it really worth it. I dont know anymore


 
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Old Aug 20th, 2008, 05:26 AM   #2
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First of all

Second of all screw them all....

I know where your coming from. Forget about work. I know easier said than done and coming from me as well. But stuff them your more important.

As for living in a flat, when my mum had me she lived in a flat until i was 7 and i loved it! lol. What matters is mummy and daddy not where baba is living. If anyone says anything just ignore them!!

As for so called friends....I know this all to well. And even my friends who have children and i stood by throughout all there pregnancys and to this date still helping with there birthday partys etc. And they cant even ask how the hell i am!! Just wait you'll meet new friends, and your old ones will come back. Thing that gets me through is the most important living being is inside me...therefor im the most important person at the moment. So fuck everyone else. If they cant see that then fuck them. At least my loved ones can. And thats all that matters

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Screw the lot of them i say....lol Smile you have a little baba growing inside you XxxX


 
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Old Aug 20th, 2008, 05:29 AM   #3
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Your right, and i know deep down your right, it's just so hard to adjust to how much things have changed. I love how my life is heading, and how im going to be a mum. I just think im going through the phase of doubts and adjusments. People, places and things getting me down.


 
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Old Aug 20th, 2008, 05:32 AM   #4
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Dont worry everyone goes through this. And it just goes to show you can see who your real friends are. Like me....I was always out all the time and had loads of friends....and a few so called best friends. Well i moved into my new house 2 and a half months ago and only 2 of my friends have came to see it. All OH's mates manage but mine are all to busy. Tell you what screw them!

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Old Aug 20th, 2008, 05:34 AM   #5
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Thats what it's like, i had a party when i moved in to this new place, and only 3 friends came, and have never returned. Friends hey....


 
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Old Aug 20th, 2008, 05:35 AM   #6
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Yeah Ema's right - stuff them all. Try not to let work get you down. Your baby is the most important thing now, just remember that.

I know where you're coming from too - work is totally pissing me off and I'm counting down until maternity leave can start. We only have a small house and I worry too that it's not the best start I'd planned for baby. But it's so true that all baby needs is the love of mum and dad. My mum lived in a caravan when I was born, and I've not been emotionally scarred!

I hope you feel better soon - think about the bubba - it will make you smile



 
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Old Aug 20th, 2008, 05:38 AM   #7
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I cant believe someone is criticising you being in a flat....some people dont even have that! Most flats are lovely...i'd rather a flat than a house with damp in an unsafe area......i lived in a flat until i was 18....a council one at that....and i turned out fine!!

Some people!!!

Ignore them hun....you have a roof over your head, your baby is going to be loved lots so finger to them all....you are doing great!

As for the friends things, what area do you live in....maybe enrol in some mother and baby clubs, pregnancy clubs...thats what im doing cos i dont have any either and i feel like im putting pressure on my OH when he goes out i moan cos im bored!


 
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Old Aug 20th, 2008, 05:41 AM   #8
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As for the friends things, what area do you live in....maybe enrol in some mother and baby clubs, pregnancy clubs...thats what im doing cos i dont have any either and i feel like im putting pressure on my OH when he goes out i moan cos im bored!
Im the same, since i moved here, i live in Northants, he was brought up here, so he goes out alot, and has friends over, where as my friends only live like 10 mins down the road, but dont want to know.


 
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Old Aug 20th, 2008, 05:42 AM   #9
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As everyone else has said - screw them. You will soon meet some fab new friends. And as for the flat - it sounds lovely!! You should be proud of what you have - have you thought that perhaps the people that say these nasty are a bit jealous? Do they have a lovely home and a gorgeous baby on the way - everything just coming together? I think not. So enjoy what you have hun - you are so lucky.
And remember - you always have us!!!


 
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Old Aug 20th, 2008, 05:51 AM   #10
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I can only say ditto about what everyone else has said.

I know what you mean about friends. No one at all seems bothered about my pregnancy. My so called best friend has had some personal issues to deal with, but they are all sorted now. The last time she came to see me was in May...she works full time, but we always made the time to have contact whether it be by text or phone. But the last few months....I've rang, and she's not in. So now I don't bother....probably me being stubborn, but at the minute feel its a bit one sided.

SO sod them love..its their loss. I know its hard...but if you ever fancy a chat PM me on here and we can swap Msn addy's

I can't remember who said their from Northants, but so I'm I...I'm in Corby, so not far from you, if you fancy catching up, leave me a PM as well.


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