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Aug 18th, 2008, 21:38 PM
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I'm Currently Feeling: | Do you ever think your OH doesn't care about baby??? i just feel like he is so uninterested in the baby. he is a great husband, it is just as if he is not excited and doesn't want to do anything related to the baby or really ever talk about her. he never brings her into conversation, only me. he doesn't really feel my belly unless i put his hand on and say shes kicking. he never wants to look at baby things in stores, hates shopping for her and has not bought anything for her on his own. i just hope he falls in love with her instantly at her birth. is this normal for his 1st or is my OH an ass? i keep telling him he is insensitive... |
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Aug 18th, 2008, 21:43 PM
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I'm Currently Feeling: | Smack him!!!
Seriously. I dont know, maybe he is just nervous or doesn't know what to do...
But my OH seems like he is more excited than I am sometimes! lol... He always feels and talks to the baby and tells her he loves her. Took our scan pis and showed them to his work friends etc.
He has come to all of the appointments and stuff too... Unless I know its going to be a really quick one with just a referal to somehting else, then I just go alone. |
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I'm Currently Feeling: | I think it's pretty normal. My DH is excited about the baby (we ttc for 6 years) but isn't very interested in anything. I think for them the whole thing is very unreal until the baby is actually here. Afterall they're not the ones being kicked constantly. |
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Aug 18th, 2008, 21:47 PM
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I'm Currently Feeling: | Oh, gosh, I think it's pretty normal. You have to really understand that they are not going through what we do on a normal basis. Their reality is when the baby is born and they get to hold him/her. |
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Aug 18th, 2008, 21:50 PM
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I'm Currently Feeling: | I think its pretty normal. Men are just not able to show emotions for anything! My BF is the same. I've just given up at the end of the day hes missing out. More baby for me  lol |
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Aug 18th, 2008, 21:53 PM
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I'm Currently Feeling: | I just don't think guys get it. It just isn't real to them until the baby comes. Hopefully he'll come around after she's born. Were you two trying? If not, then that might be part of it.
P.S. Ryder I've noticed a trend lately where the only useful piece of advice we can give is "smack him!"  |
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Aug 18th, 2008, 21:59 PM
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P.S. Ryder I've noticed a trend lately where the only useful piece of advice we can give is "smack him!"  |  yup.... seems like a good answer to me. Although im really a very non-physical person so I dont know where it is coming from hehe... must be the hormones. |
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I'm Currently Feeling: | My partner isn't interested.
He'll listen to me go on and on and on. But he doesn't mention it. He goes to scans, holds my hand. Gets worried at appropriate moments and that's it lol. |
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Aug 18th, 2008, 22:38 PM
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I'm Currently Feeling: | I think it's harder for guys to be as interested as we are. As said earlier, they're not the ones who feel baby constantly or go through all the physical changes so it's not quite a reality to them yet. My OH tries to get excited about the baby stuff and reads all the "dad-to-be" books but he has a hard time understanding it all and comes across quite insensitive sometimes. I'm sure it'll be instant love between your OH and the LO when she arrives. |
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Aug 18th, 2008, 22:42 PM
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| Our baby wasnt planned and my bf was very excited to begin with.. Couldnt wait to go shopping ect. but now he seems less interested. I keep trying to get him to look at baby moving or kicking and he didnt seem interested so i asked why and he said 'it looks like an alien and its scary' ... Fair enough!
I dont think its as real for him yet as it is for me or us ladies. And alot of his friends keep saying stuff like 'go out and get drunk while u can' 'go and do this while u can' because u wont be able to once baby is here ect. And of corse he listens to them! Although his life wont stop, If anything mine will and his wont! |
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