thelilbump

Its horrible when work are bein shite towards you, makes you feel sick because it just becomes such a part of your life. Perhaps aswell you're just taking his comments more to heart these days, hormones n that, i kno a few people have been grating on me just recently when normally i'd be very accepting, now i'm just like

hsollis

It's probably getting to you more now and it's going to be tough especially as it gets closer to your leave. You're probably going through some of the fears of being a mum, being a working mum and how it's all going to work out...



I think we all have to be realistic and realise that the people are responsible for the businesses ensuring it is successful and losing members of a good team - especially in a small business is bound to cause some stress from their side as well and they'll react or speak without really thinking first.

As you say your boss is really a nice person, this is probably it as he just doesn't understand and just sees it as losing a team member at this time and worried about the overall effect on the company.

I must say most people are pretty supportive including my boss but there are some that still expect me to be working 10-12 hour days which I can no longer do. They are just ignoring the fact that I'm pregnant but we also have a secretary who's pregnant and everyone is very supportive of her. It is very frustrating with sometimes. You feel like you have to be superwoman.

Having always been a career woman and workaholic, I think most people were actually shocked when I got pregnant as it wasn't really expected as I didn't talk a lot about us starting a family. We didn't either - we figured if it happened it would happen. Then it did and then I had to deal with that as well as everyone else as I was surprised...

Of course, now I'm worried about being a mum as I've always been working and I have NO CLUE how to be a mother. I'm hoping just following my mum's example with help but I get so terrified about juggling home and work as well.

Emotions are good though - get them out - have your cry and I also recommend the chocolate It'll be alright just take one day at a time... That's all we can ever do!

bluebell

Sorry to hear your feeling a bit down about work at the moment. I don't think that's surprising though as you've obviously had a lot going on in your private life and your boss sounds a bit insensitive to the whole pregnancy thing.

I think the others are right and that you should perhaps have a chat with him about some of his comments as it's fairly likely that he has no idea they are getting to you.

All you can do is your best at work (which it definately sounds like you do already ) I expect the fact you're off on maternity leave soon is playing on your mind, it certainly is for me - I've got so much to do before I finish (arrgghhh!)

Hope you have a lovely relaxing weekend, it sounds as if you could do with one

xx

Spartacus

Sounds like you have had a crap time of it too! Sorry to hear! Did you speak openly to your HR Manager? Was she sympathetic? Did you tell her that your boss ignored your email? Would be interesting to see what she said.

I will speak to him next week just to see what is up

thanks for your message x

Spartacus

yeah you are right tolerance levels are at an all time low eh?!

I think I would probably not have reacted this way had I not been pregnant but I think hormones and paranoia have intervened..... x

Spartacus

Thanks for your message

I can understand that for a small business it must be hard to lose a member of the team but unfortunately we ladies need to produce the next generation!

You are right too it is anxiety over everything getting closer and then worrying about what to do when baby comes etc etc will I make a good mum, can I juggle everything? I guess we will find out soon enough but am sure we will all be fab

xx

Spartacus

bless you thanks hun

I guess it is getting like the final countdown really isn't it! I hope you get all of your bits done before I do actually feel quite organised to be honest I have put together a checklist before I go of things that need to be handled in the next 6 weeks and completed but completed our office bible 3 weeks ago phew!

Have a lovely weekend yourself hun and thanks for your message x

Ann-Marie

He sounds like a bit of a insensitive overly business-minded eejit, who has no clue to be honest !!! And in a way that could let him off being how he's been..... NOT.

I hate that we always end up blaming ourselves, and our hormones, and feeling sensitive because we're pregnant. Weigh it up... he's worried about losing a good employee for a few months..... where-as you on the other hand are worrying about giving birth to another human being, and being the person who teaches, loves, and cares for that human being for the rest of their life. I'd say you're pretty entitled to be slightly stressy, and he's being a pillock by sticking his 2pennies worth in too.

Be careful about speaking to him about the whole thing, as he could be baiting you for an argument to try and force you out of your job. Helping him to understand the ins and out of becoming a parent really shouldn't be something that you feel you have to do. It's his problem, let him deal with it, and just focus on what's more important. Looking after yourself and baby until Mat Leave starts. If that means being signed off with stress. then so be it.
Hope you feel better soon

Spartacus

Thanks hun xx I will definitely be careful about what I say but I think I just want to see if there is anything he feels needs to be covered before I go on maternity and then go from there I think....I will play it by ear and see how the dust settles on monday and decide from there.

Ema

Hiya Chick,



I would have been crying too but prob as he said it...lol. Jokin or not its not very nice to feel like a target in your work.

Luckily maternity aint to far off only 6 weeks now aint it....then you'll be able to relax. Next time he says anything just think you'll be on a nice break soon and have your baba and the last thing on your mind will be him

big XxxX