Carolyn

can't offer any help i'm afraid, i feel like i'm in a similiar situation. OH doesn't acknowledge that i'm pregnant and therefore i have different needs, it's like he doesn't care. what can we actually do about it?? other than telling him it has to change otherwise you;re going to go slowly insane??? hope you get it sorted ,x

Helz

yea he's gonna take 2 weeks off when she is born and hopefully he will realise that having a baby is hard work! I love the melon idea lol!

welshcakes79

i'd do the kick-nads-sleep option myself...with my pointy boots!!!!

men, they can be complete bitches sometimes, get him to do his own tank, he'll soon clean it when nemo is floating on the top!!!!!!

ani

angie0235

i certainly wouldn't be cleaning his fish tank! Surely he can do that at least? You need to sit him down and talk to him. Does his Mum do everything for his Dad? Maybe he thinks it's 'your place'? Hope things improve as you shouldn't be on your hands and knees. Chin up!!

Flower

Whoa - he sounds kinda mean!!

Just go on strike! My OH wouldn't dare do that to me - can you not use your pregnancy hormones and go mental at him when he starts nagging?

I agree with hotsexymumma, tell him where to stick it - he can't treat you like that when your pregnant, so disrespectful esp. about the money side - tell him to stop being materialistic!

aj2000

I agree that for the sake of you and your baby you must stand up for yourself.

I will be a stay at home mum for a while too but right now hubby is doing all the jobs round the house that are physically hard for me. I feel bad sometimes but then I remember that this is his pregnancy too and he wants our baby to be healthy and happy just as much as I do. When the baby comes and we get into a routine I'll be able to do more for him.

My advice would be to be talk to him and, whilst being understanding about things being hard for him, make it clear that you expect you both to work together which means being supportive of one another. I'm sorry hun but I think that if he's not being supportive and he's making you feel bad then I'd be pretty hard on him - even if that taking drastic action like going to stay with your mum/sister or booting him out. He needs to know that you won't put up with it.

I do hope all works out well for you.

Pearl

Really sorry to hear that. You need to give him things to read for dads to be , that make him understanding the extremity of what our bodies go through to carry our children. you're carrying his child, its his as well as yours. His views need to change. If you are ill and someone loves u, they should care for u and understand. Its not very good for you to be working so much , not just that, the stress that hes putting on you isnt good either. He needs to know the effect stressed out mums can have on their babies etc. With regards to buying things for baby etc, it takes two to tango and im sure he wanted the baby as well ? with having a baby comes responsibility. You become a family, He needs to take care of his lady & baby.

Please try to take it easy, perhaps give him some things to read or bring him along to a midwife appointment or baby/pregnancy events so he can get an idea of what it really is like and to see that his attitude should change.

I really feel it for you. Please do try and rest. Get family or a close friend to come round for company and im sure their company will help u feel better and hopefully their help will as well xx

ryder

Sorry to hear this hun! Unfortunately pregnancy really does bring alot of stuff out of couples... And obviously this is one bad thing that has been brought out of your OH... and it will not get any better, babies are a financial burden, right up until they move out basically And if you have more then one, it just becomes worse...

I think that you guys really need to talk it out together and figure something out. Maybe some of the chores are going to need to take a back burner right now (IE: hard cleaning jobs, why are you on your hands and knees??? Do you not own a mop? lol, im not trying to offend you)

Because unfortunately, he does have a point, while he should help out, he cant expected to work plus look after the house too. I dont touch any of my OH's fishtanks, they are his hobby, not mine. We each have a good respect for money and both still buy things we want, but know where to draw the line.

Neither of you can do everything, and if you have a health issue then that is something else that you need to take into consideration.

sammie18

Oh Im so sorry!!! WHat an ass! Kinda aounds like my hubs but not as BAD mine always comes home and asks whats for dinner thats about it cause he knows ive been sick and not up to things lol