nikky0907

Holy crap!

That kind of opinion? From a mother?

Unbelievable.Just say it like that,I mean,without one single shred of sensitivity or emotion.

Being young is absolutly no exuse.I am 18 too and would have never,ever aborted my child at 20 weeks gestation period.
I was actually in that situation.At 20 weeks,the doctors were close to preform a termination because they thought I had a rupture in my womb.

My entire time in the hospital I cried,begged them to wait for another scan.It was the worst time of my life.I cry every time I think of it.
Feeling a baby kick and knowing that this might be her last time...
And she is talking about it like it's as simple as pulling a tooth out.

You are right,she is a mother,she of all people should know that a parents' love is unconditional.

leedsforever

I really think its something I just wouldnt know what I would do unless I was put under that situation!!!

She sounds very immature to say it the way she did though.... and its really not something you just should come out with!! "this one" and try again!! like its a toy that is missing a part and can just take back to the shop!! Shocking!!

mBLACK

Grr I would be angry too! Maybe she didn't mean it that way, she's young and maybe doesn't know a better way to word what she's going through.. Some people think that they don't have the soul to deal with a child that has abnormalities (although we're not going to get into a debate about whether or not it's right or wrong) but still love their children nontheless.. but definitely that would piss me off!

poppy

Hi Ema,

What a strange thing for her to have said.

You would think having just found out she is pregnant and talking to another pregnant lady, she would be discussing the exciting aspects of pregnancy and would have been more sensitive.

Obviously everyone worries about things going wrong and having difficulties with their pregnancies (and obviously, deciding what to do if there are problems is an individual choice), however, bringing up these sensitive and personal issues when she has just announced her pregnancy seems very odd. Maybe she is really worried and looking for reassurance.

Mummy2B1806

OMG - I cannot believe that she is a mum already.

How can someone have such an outlook? I mean regardless of any abnormalities that is her child - her son or daughter. And you are supposed to love them no matter what. That makes me really upset. This little person is growing inside her and all she can think about is aborting if there is something "wrong".

Obviously everyone is diff as u said but how can that even be on her mind right now - I woud have thought she would be enjoying telling ppl she's expecting and then if something came up later - deal with it if and when.

Strange

Rachiebaby24

I could maybe understand if she said that if she found something abnormal at her first scan when its early (I don't know how I would feel at that stage but im sure it would be hard for any mother to have to go through) but at 20 weeks!!!!!!?????? No way....!! Even if I went to my scan and they said my baby had three eyes there would be no doubt in my mind (I of course would not be overjoyed but would feel more sad for my baby and any potential surgery/quality of life rather than me...it would be loved so much regardless).....how could you do that to your child when you have felt it move and have bonded with it!!??

Some people just constantly strive for perfection!!

I think its very insensitive to say that to especially as you are pregnant and it was only 8 weeks ago that you was at the very stage she is talking about.....some people do not think before they speak!!