tb42

it's been almost a week that every day i would feel really down ( usually in the evening )
Also today, me and OH went to the weekend market and on the way back i said i wanted to stop at our friend's house to see their new born baby but he didn't want to( their house is on the way back home ) and suddenly i felt angry and upset.
then we we got home, he got an email from his mom telling us we have to buy a big draw to put baby stuffs in because she's bringing a lot of baby's stuff here next month. She mentioned not to buy rubbish
it doesn;'t sound like a big deal, but the thing is we have big financial problem at the moment. This is low-season for our business so i hardly make any income for 2 months now. We can't effort to buy everything for the baby. Well , honestly i have't bought anything. we can effort to buy a bit, but his mom said she only wants the best thing for her grandchild, not cheap stuff or rubbish, so she goes and buy and choose everything for my baby. i feel really sad i can't get things for my own baby. but it's worse when MIL said don't buy cheap stuff.
i said to my OH, at least i would get decent thing not just rubbish. i know we don't have so much money like his mom but of course we can buy something. This is our first baby and she choose 90% of the baby stuff herself.
we got something from our friend's grandchild and MIL told me to throw them away because they are not good enough
i don't like her attitude. i don't know what to do really. but i just want to cry today. she's coming next month ( she didn't say when and how long she's staying until she bought the plane tickets ) and said like; see how much hard work i have to do for, the tickets are expensive, she has to come because baby needs all these stuffs. she doesn't trust any stuff we sell in this country ( thailand ).
i don't want the baby to come out when she's here either. it's 2 weeks from the due date and i have a feeling he's gonna come out early. and just a week after the baby's born she will be here again for a month.

sorry girls i have to let this out or i will explode. thank you for reading my post.

cuddles314

Aww hun, I'm so sorry to hear that you're feeling down. Is this your MIL's
1st grandchild? Is that why she's being so pushy?
What does your OH think about everything? I really think that you should talk to him about how you're feeling.
Please try not to let her stress you out too much, just concentrate on looking after yourself and your little bubs. And if your MIL really gets too much, then you are well within your rights to ask her to back off a bit, and let you have some space.
Sending you lots of positive thoughts hun xx

tb42

No, it's her 4th. Her daughter already have 3 babies, but this is her son's baby. ( her favourite child )
My OH knows how i feel and we talk about this every time she visits us. She never told us when she would come until she got the return tickets ( every time ) never asked if it's ok to stay that long 4 times a year. ( 4 months altogether ). She always expects me to take all of her advice and to be like her when it comes to look after my OH as well. it's so frustrating. OH is happy the way we are and i said to him "so you should let your mom knows this as well, i don't like her getting on me how i do my work and how i take care of you. I married you not her"

cuddles314

I agree with what you say, your OH should say something to his Mum, especially as its making you feel this low. My best friend is in a similar position. Her MIL is always trying to control things, and my friend's OH just will not tell his Mum to back off, even though he knows that she is being too overbearing. It causes alot of arguments between my friend and her OH.. In fct the only thing they ever really argue about is the MIL!
xx

anamaz

oh my god i am so sorry
you have got to put your foot down thogh hun

make a cup of tea adn sit down first with OH and then with your MIL and then say yes i am financially struglling right now but i am the mother and its my choice!

tb42

UPDATE
i went to bed crying last night. OH came in later and saw me cover my face with the book. So i talked to him. I said i feel like i don't have anything for the baby, and i can't effort to get all the stuff for him, and he said that the stuff is not as important as us. We love the baby and I'm doing the most inportant job carrying our baby , giving him a life ( so sweet of him ). I'm goling to be a great mother. It's all about us not just me. He couldn't have had today without me. I'm a great support for him and that what matters.

... that's what he said to me and i did actually made me feel much better to know he really appriciate me, who i am and what we have ( or don't have ).