toriaaaaTRASH

We are fine right now. Infact, we're getting along just great. I still can't seem to shake how uncomfortable I will feel if he is there, what he will be saying to his friends after, and his blaitent disregard for anything I want/feel all the time.

Gabi

Aww hun. He may not be like that.

Ok this coming from someone who has no clue what he's like LOL but he may surprise you.
I think this is a time where you can be completely selfish. Don't try to keep other people happy. You could even have them all in the waiting room then decide who you want with you and get a nurse to call them LOL
When you don't want them with you anymore tell them to go away. Hope you can decide soon.
You could always do it alone? I doubt I'd be able to but some women can.

clairebear

Im the same im only allowed one person and i have obviously picked my DH. My problem is the hospital doesnt have like a family labour waiting room so they would have to wait down stairs in reception or in main corridors. My mum and my sister were both adamant that they wanted to be there and were hurt when i told them they couldnt and that they would have to wait at home and then Adam would ring them when i had baby so they could come up. Families hey.

toriaaaaTRASH

I am seriously considering just kicking everyone out LOL

clairebear

that would show um that arguing itsnt getting them any where maybe u could ask the midwife to sort um out x

toriaaaaTRASH

I know at the time I will be just fine in telling people what I want. It's just putting up with them all going on about it now. I wish I was brave enough to just say "I'll have who I want there because I am the one who will be giving birth, and what I need is unfortunately what matters!"

clairebear

exactly u are the most important person hun and they shouldnt be stressing u out its not fair xx

toriaaaaTRASH

It's not really their fault. They all would naturally want to be there, I just wish they'd ask rather than insist, y'know?

clairebear

i know what ur saying they think that they HAVE to be there for u x

babyblessed

just from what I have read i would say have Charlotte there as your support and Rich at the hospital if he want to be there at specific points being the dad...i would say not your mum, and she shouldn't emotionally blackmail you...sorry but my mum is the same and I end up doing things to please her but this about you and your LO.

mums have good intentions but you actually need to feel strong and independant and having your mum there may make you feel dependent...my mum said things on the phone when I was in labour with my first that made me feel I couldn't do it...like "you never are good with pain" " i thought you would give in to pain relieve"...

sorry to go on; please think about yourself though pet