Hey everyone,
Im 18 and expecting my first baby. I'm just wondering if anyone can give me advice about labour and what to expect. Im really nervous about how i will cope.
Cheers girls
xxx
I've not been in labor, so take this for what it's worth. I do teach pain management though, and the biggest thing is that whole mind over matter concept. It's important you *try* not to stress too much about it now. Being in labor hurts, yeah. So expect that. But it's manageable and there has never been a woman in labor forever, so it will end no matter how painful it is. You need to trust yourself, your body, and your baby. Just take it one minute, or 5 mintues, or 10 mintues at a time. It's a marathon, not sprint. And everyone is different. If 100 women reply, you will have 100 different experiences. So no one can tell you exactly what to expect. I will say that my sister, with both her children, barely knew she was in labor, pushed for 5 mintues, and out came baby. So try to relax into the knowledge that you will be able to handle whatever comes your way. Do your birthing classes, those will help. And make sure you have lots of support with you. Hope that helps...all will be well hun
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I have also found reading has helped me. There are loads of great books out there. I really got a lot out of Ina May Gaskin's Guide to Childbirth. There is also a book by Dr. Sears that is really good.
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i been few it quite a few times lol just go with ur body deep breating helps threw contractions and do what helps your pain move about or get the pain relief u need the birth is your birth you control it the way u want it to go good luck i had my first baby at 16 yes its scary but you will have a gorgeous baby at the end of it
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I've not been in labor, so take this for what it's worth. I do teach pain management though, and the biggest thing is that whole mind over matter concept. It's important you *try* not to stress too much about it now. Being in labor hurts, yeah. So expect that. But it's manageable and there has never been a woman in labor forever, so it will end no matter how painful it is. You need to trust yourself, your body, and your baby. Just take it one minute, or 5 mintues, or 10 mintues at a time. It's a marathon, not sprint. And everyone is different. If 100 women reply, you will have 100 different experiences. So no one can tell you exactly what to expect. I will say that my sister, with both her children, barely knew she was in labor, pushed for 5 mintues, and out came baby. So try to relax into the knowledge that you will be able to handle whatever comes your way. Do your birthing classes, those will help. And make sure you have lots of support with you. Hope that helps...all will be well hun
Thanks, that is a real help! It is just how i am approaching it. For me it is far from the most scarey thing i have to go through.
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The following user says 'Thanks' to Emmea12uk for this post:
I've not been in labor, so take this for what it's worth. I do teach pain management though, and the biggest thing is that whole mind over matter concept. It's important you *try* not to stress too much about it now. Being in labor hurts, yeah. So expect that. But it's manageable and there has never been a woman in labor forever, so it will end no matter how painful it is. You need to trust yourself, your body, and your baby. Just take it one minute, or 5 mintues, or 10 mintues at a time. It's a marathon, not sprint. And everyone is different. If 100 women reply, you will have 100 different experiences. So no one can tell you exactly what to expect. I will say that my sister, with both her children, barely knew she was in labor, pushed for 5 mintues, and out came baby. So try to relax into the knowledge that you will be able to handle whatever comes your way. Do your birthing classes, those will help. And make sure you have lots of support with you. Hope that helps...all will be well hun
i found it better 2 cope with the pain by keeping calm and not screaming! this quote is good advice it really is mind over matter. it hurts..alot but we all expect that and screaming and shouting really gets you more stressed. try counting the contractions, as they peak so on ur next contraction you kinda know when the biggest pain is coming 2 an end. it doesnt last forever and it actually feels shorter than it actually is!! p/s- dont listen 2 all those horror stories it really scares u on ur 1st pg, there r far more positive stories out there read those!! xxxx
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I was your age when i had my first i had a trumatic labour (fingers crossed not again) so i wasn`t really able to enjoy it but every women is different and will experience labour in totally different ways so i think its hard for any one women to give advice from experience.
Hiya just to let you im 18 and had my daughter a few weeks ago. i was really worried about whether i would be able to cope in labour or not but i did actually suprise myself. i was 8-9cm dilated when i got to hospital so could only have gas and air but i coped ok, im not saying it isnt painful but when you are actually in labour you might suprise yourself with how you adjust to cope with the pain, you just have to go with the flow, control your breathing and like everyone has said try and keep as calm as possible. you will soon forget about it once your baby is born, also dont be afraid to ask for pain relief or feel like you are letting yourself down as if you feel in control you will enjoy it more.
anyway i didnt think it was as bad as its sometimes made out to be, you will be absolutely fine xxx
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i found it better 2 cope with the pain by keeping calm and not screaming! this quote is good advice it really is mind over matter. it hurts..alot but we all expect that and screaming and shouting really gets you more stressed. try counting the contractions, as they peak so on ur next contraction you kinda know when the biggest pain is coming 2 an end. it doesnt last forever and it actually feels shorter than it actually is!! p/s- dont listen 2 all those horror stories it really scares u on ur 1st pg, there r far more positive stories out there read those!! xxxx
Funny enough, when I was pregnant with my daughter I was obsessed with the birth shows. I vowed that I would not scream, and true to my word, I didn't. My OH was wonderful through the contractions and made me laugh inbetween them.
Yes, there is no doubt that it hurts but many women have gone through it, and do so every day. You will be fine! As I mentioned to Toria, it's tough not to stress about it especially when entering into the unknown. But you will do fine too!
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It is just how i am approaching it. For me it is far from the most scarey thing i have to go through.
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