i need some advice on helping me through the last 9 weeks of my pregnancy!

recently i have been starting to feel very insecure and paranoid with my partner, accusing him of things and i always feel that when im with him, i dont want 2 b near him but i cant stand it when we are apart.

please could i have some advice on how to make things better!

thanks x x x

DOES ANYONE THINK THAT THE STRESS OF THIS COULD EFFECT MY UNBORN BABY?

I can have the same problems. I honestly take the stance that it is probably me and my hormones, not him. So I usually force myself to keep my mouth shut- no sense creating unnecessary drama. And then I do something to make myself feel better- sometimes that means getting away from him and doing something fun, and sometimes it means asking him to cuddle on the couch and watch some trashy tv with me. He is pretty accomodating, which helps. Just try not to take yourself too seriously- meaning, try not to worry this is "a sign" (I'm particularly guilty of that one) or that your relationship is doomed. Have some patience and understanding for yourself- our hormones are really raging at this point. I had a friend tell me once, when I was sharing similar concerns with her, that pregnancy is not the time to make any major decisions or proclamations- your goal should be to keep your relationship, work, and home life status quo- no better, no worse. And in 9 weeks, well in reality, more like 12 with post partum hormones, this will all be over and you will feel more secure. I did with my first and I trust it will happen again. Maybe go pamper yourself some. And remind yourself your partner really does love you.

I don't think you will permanently harm your baby, but the less stress the better...so find some ways to relieve it. You will be happier, partner will happier, and baby will be happier. As the saying goes, Don't Sweat the Small Stuff..and It's All Small Stuff.

I would have to agree with ragirl, our hormones are all over the place and our decision making skills aren't so good now. I wanted to comment on the stress, I had a really stressful day last Tuesday, I got really worked up over money, people, work, how I look (just about anything really). Anyways, the following day I started having really bad cramping all day long, I went and got checked out and I had contractions while I was there. Everything was okay, but I think it was because I was stressing too much over things I can't control. Just remember that your OH loves you and whatever seems like the end of the world, more than likely it isn't (even though it can seem like it at the time). Try to relax by taking a walk, a bath or doing something you really enjoy. This is my first pregnancy and I have learned that my emotions get very overwhelming, take care of yourself. It's not good for you or the baby if you are stressed out. Take care hun.

thanks lady's for that advice!

i hope things get better!

I have the same problem, I don't say anything but I'm really paranoid my OH is up to something with other girls behind my back, especially since sex has been pretty much non existent for a while but I know he's not because 1. he's not that kind of person and 2. he knows better. Hormones suck

I have learnt to keep my mouth closed when i get like that. The last time i opened my mouth about what i thought he had been doing we almost were over for good. I was so emotional i did almost leave him for good now i look back although i still have my days i would be lost without him he means to much to me and we wouldn`t be a family without him. I think our hormones are awefull things when we are pregnant but we have to remember they affect not only ourselves but others as well.

Its got a lot to do with our hormones. i'm normally a very level headed person, but the other day someone who was going to buy my bicycle let me down so now I have to find another buyer. Its NOT something you cry about, but I just burst into tears.

What we don't think about is that our OH's are also going through a really scary time. A lot of them are becoming fathers for the first time and will be responsible for supporting a family etc. Us girls tend to think its only us dealing with hormones and stress and that they must be perfect men and just look after us and reassure us. I sometimes think we just don't give them enough credit.

talk to him. explain how you feel. explain you need extra reassurance now. you might as well be honest and open.

good luck!!