JennyLynn512

Thanks everyone for the replies! I definitely understand the latest topic about not choosing the elective c-section just because I don't want to tear. To be honest, that really isn't why I am leaning toward the section. From what I've heard about babies getting stuck in the pelvis, coming out with dislocated shoulders, broken clavicles, and brain damage from no oxygen is the ultimate reason that I am leaning toward the section. My cousin had a littlie boy last year, he was over 9lbs and she tried to have him naturally. They had to use the vacuum to get him out, dislocated his shoulder and broke his clavicle bone. The poor child came out with black and blue bruises all over his head. For the mother, she did tear, up past her anus. They had to reconstruct her anal sphincter and she ended up having 40 stitches.

I know this (by all means) does not happen to everyone, but as far as my daughter is concerened, if there is a chance of her not being able to make it through my pelvis, I couldn't stand her coming out with injuries just because I wanted to give myself a fair chance to have a natural birth. I'm not big (5'2) and my mom had c-sections with all three of us kids because we could not fit through her pelvis. So, I just don't know....lol. I feel it's a crapshoot decision either way and I have been very frustrated lately trying to make it.

All of your replies have helped a lot and I thank you for taking the time to tell me your stories and give me advice. All of you are great

Holldoll

Jennylynn I wasn't directing the not tearing at you. I know that's not why you are considering it, someone else had made that comment.

Also, thank you to those that had the chance to clarify what I was saying about tearing before I could get back here. If you have a medical condition that's a whole different thing. I was talking about women that just don't want to tear a little bit because they want their girl parts to be "normal." What people don't realize is your body was made for this and it will heal and usually you won't have scarring from its. It's the easiest place in the body to heal.

JennyLynn512

I know, sweetie I just wanted to clear my reasons up...sometimes writing them out helps me think in the long run, too. I definitely agree that God made our bodies to handle childbirth and more than anything I wanted a natural vaginal birth. Instead I got a chubby chunk of a little girl inside of me (haha) that doesn't want to cooperate. Maybe this is the beginning of her "I'm not going to do what mom wants" phase.

loubieloulou

i havent had a c-section b4 so cant comment 2 much, although my 3 friends did and they r fine, just couldnt drive for a few wks. its hard 2 tell pl what 2 do but if it was me, without a doubt i wud have a c-section. it sounds like ur doc recommends this way more than a natural delivery and there must be good reasons 4 it, they deliver babies all the time so sometimes i think you have to trust them on some advice. i have watched c-sections on the tv whilst pg and they look so much calmer and much more relaxed than other deliveries i think thats much nicer for a baby 2 come out when everyone is more relaxed but it is UR decision hope ur ok, im sure there is plenty of girlies on here that can give u great c-section advice xxxxx

Holldoll

She is a Taurus so I'm sure it's exactly what to expect for the rest of your life. They saying goes, stubborn as a Bull, there's a reason for that!

JennyLynn512

Hahaha, oh dear you are right! I didn't even think about that! My sister is a Taurus and boy does that stubborn as a bull apply to her!

tinytoes

no.

the point is my condition "may" lead to worse tearing. Chances are it will, but whats a cut or a tear accoridng to many? I can have stitches. OK I may tear...but so may lots of other women. I am choosing to avoid it. I simply dont want it. No one knows what will happen until you're there. It's like a small lady and a massive baby. No one knows what will happen until you're pusing.

I guess what I mean is everyone should just be allowed a choice with their own bodies and it drives me nutty when people judge soemthing as personal as a birth choice.
I wouldnt tell anyone they should definately have a church wedding...so why should anyone tell someone they should have a vaginal birth, especially over medical advice... thats all. I suppose this is just something that winds me up. (As you may have spotted ).

As long as I get LO out and we're both well then that's enough for me.

BurtonBaby

Honestly, after having a c-section, I would much rather tear than have a six'ish inch incision made across my lower tummy. My recovery wasn't bad since I got up right away, but I can tell you ladies that every time I got up, I had to hold a pillow to my tummy as it felt like my insides were going to fall out. And this happened for a while. And the pain doesn't go away for a while. Sitting up in bed was a task, since the muscles are cut right through. Actually even now when I exercise (pilates and crunches especially) I can feel a burning where my incision is. And its not an attractive scar. Its low, but with a bikini, you'd see it. With my next baby, I will definitely be pushing for a VBAC. After being pregnant and seeing the miracle that me and DH created, and knowing that my body knew exactly what to do from the minute of conception, makes me know that my body would know what to do in labor, and that no matter what I'd get through it. I'm not judging anyone at all, cause I went for the c-section. I'm just giving my opinion since I have been there, done that, and regretted it later.

Moonpieash

You will have people that express their opinion on this issue and others...you have to make the decision that you know that is best for you and your daughter. I don't blame you..if it were me I would definately weigh the options and in this case I think the safer route would be a C-Section. You're doing what's best. Don't let anyone make you feel like you're not. I've seen situations where the baby had to have his shoulder dislocated and such...and that's just terrible. I wouldn't risk it. The doctor wouldn't give you that option if they didn't think it was necessary. I'm sure the doctor knows what they're doing also...after all they're the ones delivering the babies on a daily basis and know more than we do about it and have seen a lot more than us. Right now focus on that baby girl...and just trust your decision. BTW- How exciting..she'll be here soon!

JennyLynn512

Thanks Moonpieash! I know...I am excited about her being here soon! I know I've got to do whats best for Valerie and myself and I agree that the c-section is whats best at this point. I just don't know how she got that big! Ha! Once again, thanks for all the advice ladies!