clairebear

ah hun i have never been through a c section but i know a few people who have and yes it takes longer to recover but it saved them a lot of pain. to u in whatever decsion u make xxx

JennyLynn512

You're revirginized comment has put the first smile on my face today! I'm beginning to see what everyone is saying about opting for the elective c-section. It is the much safer route for both her and I. Yes, DH already has given thought to how much Valerie will tear me if I was induced and you should have seen the look on his face!

supernurse

Sending you lots ofyour way at this time when you must have so much thoughts running through your head.

Personally I would opt for the c-section, but obviously it's not me so in the end only you can make the decision. I think it's a case of weighing up all the pros and cons of each method and going with whatever is the safest way for you to deliver your little girl. If there is a chance that a vaginal birth will pose more of a risk the the c-section makes sense.

Obviously you are worried about surgery so speak to your doctor again about a c-section so he can explain the whole process regarding your worries and concerns.

Whatever you decide I wish you and your girl all the best. xx

tinytoes

my friend had a c section a fwe months ago and recovery was fine - she was home in 4 or 5 days (they tend to keep us in a long time here anyway) and was walking around the evening of the c section (slowly ofcourse) AND she could pick up baby that night.

I too am going for a c section - its been recomended for me and I'm perfectly happy with that.

You wont feel the surgery and baby will be calm, safe and well. I watched some on youtube and it wasnt scary.

I think having the mother calm is as important as anything. The ones I saw looked very calm and it was just as amazing to see a little baby popped out.
I'd do whats best for you and the baby - seems the c section is best.
if you try a vaginal birth and then something happens and you end up going for an emergency c section it'll be less calm. I know many will disagree but if i were you i'd go for the calm option - it's no worse for baby, in fact it's better in your case.

Plan your c section as you would a birth - plan what you want and dont want - it's still YOUR birth after all, just a different route.

and as someone once said to me - births are loike weddings - we spend ages agonising over them and then they're over in a flash and it a distant memory. what really matters is the years afterwards.

JennyLynn512

Thank you everyone for your replies! I love this forum and knew if I posted asking for advice, I would get some great feedback from all you ladies. Thank you so much

AquaDementia

Don't question your decision Jenny, just decide whatever is the safest option for both you and Valerie.

cupcake

go down the safest route hun. if thats the c section then i would do it. your recovery time may be longer but ull have peace of mind. i have had a few friends that had c sections and were very happy with them. didnt feel a thing and were awake the whole time. the only thing u might feel is a pulling sensation and also a marker when they draw the line of where to cut. forget the horror stories they are terrible but very rare. good luck.

elles28

Just wanted to send you some and wish you good luck with whatever you decide. I havent had a C-section but if I had one moment of doubt that I might need one I would opt for that rather than the thought of suffering a long hard labour only to need a section in the end.

Emmea12uk

just wanted to wish you all the best with whatever you decide!

I echo the girls above in everything they say. Wise words.

Margerle

The business of being born

There's a link in this thread to watch the documentary Business of Being Born. This is a great movie to watch no matter WHICH birth method you choose- vaginal or c-section.

And Jenny, the one you choose will be the RIGHT one for you and your baby.

Prayers and thoughts are with you.