Hi! I'm Lindsay and I'm due with my first baby on Monday.
The thing is, I've planned a home birth from the beginning and have been looking forward to it for months. I want my partner there and my mum. However, my dad seems to be under the impression I want him there and my 19yr old sister has invited herself along! I feel like people are booking tickets! My sister is the kinda girl you don't wanna upset, and she also doesn't like not having her own way...basically very selfish. She has been laying on the guilt trip about how "dad has his heart set on being there" blah, blah...I'm getting so stressed now as I have no idea what to do as I don't wanna upset anybody, although my feelings aren't being considered. The idea of being at home is that I can move around freely and basically so as I please but I don't see how they think this would be feasible If I had a house full! I feel like running away and giving birth in a cave. After all, if I was going to hospital there would be strict rules on who was there.
Anyone have any advice?!

Nothing except that I would sit down and tell them,. or if you can't face that, ask your mum to do it. You shouldn't have people there who you don't want.

Hope it all goes ok hun

xxx

as babies dont arrive on time then say no to them of forget to invite them as babies have amazing moments of popping out like nightime

Maybe they could be there but in another room when your actually delivering baby and then come in and see straight after. Maybe you can get your mum to find out if your dad is expecting to be there or not. x

Let your mom or husband deal with this. You dont need this kind of stress.

This wouldn't work either...only in a one bedroom flat with limited space already. I also told my midwife she could bring a student if she needed to.
I just wish I was less of a coward and tell them all to bugger off!

Awww...poor you! Let your OH deal with it. You need to make sure you are perfectly comfortable and if that means upsetting people, then let him do it!! Promise to call them when it is all over, then you can take your time in calling them until you are ready.

I know i wouldnt want so many people watching! Especially in a small flat!

This is your pregnancy and you should have the birthing experience you want. Explain to them that you only want a few people there and they are more than welcome to visit an hour or two after the birth. In the end you need to do what you want, they'll get over not being invited once they see the new baby

Hun you need to be honest and tell them you do not want them there. Remember this is NOT about what they want, it is about what you NEED! I have already told my mother and my best friend that during my labor, if I look at them and tell them to go away, not to take it personally, it is just what I need at the time. I really think that in early labor, I may be able to be out in the living areas with them, but once things get intense, I will probably head to my bedroom and bath room with my husband. I don't feel guilty for this at all. Love if they are there and you don't want them there, it will inhibit your ability to labor. You have to put yourself first in this situation! Good luck.

trust me, your father does not need to witness you giving birth.