Things never to say to a pregnant woman

seattlemama · Apr 29th, 2008, 12:02 PM

I have been getting an assortment of annoying comments lately from everyone, even people I dont know! Dont they know that you feel fat as is?? Anyway, here are some...

"Wow your face looks really swollen!" from my mom of all people, doesnt she think I know that!

"Are you sure your not having twins?" from a guy at church, that made me feel like a giant whale.

"Wow looks like your going to have a BIG baby!" from a woman checking me out at the grocery store, just a nicer way of saying Im enormous!

"Jeez your HUGE!! Could you get any bigger?" from my insensative brother in law, I almost cried, but held it in.

"Your stretch marks are disgusting!" from my brother, I guess I can forgive him, hes only 18...

There have been many other comments but I wont share them all.

What about you guys? Have you been getting these types of comments too??

Serene123 · Apr 29th, 2008, 12:05 PM

I wouldn't go downstairs earlier because all my sisters friends were here (and still are) and they have been smoking all day and she said "don't worry Vic they all know how fat you are already."

Apart from that I get comments on how small my bump is. I don't think she'd call me fat if I actually was. Still hurt though.

seattlemama · Apr 29th, 2008, 12:07 PM

I hate how the word "fat" is somehow interchangeable with the word "pregnant" in sentences when your pregnant to everyone.

Serene123 · Apr 29th, 2008, 12:08 PM

Exactly!

My sister informed me last week that when I'm not pregnant anymore she won't call me "fat," she'll call me "saggy." Umm, thanks sis!

**Vickie** · Apr 29th, 2008, 12:11 PM

People are so insensitive.

The only comments I've gotten are from my in-laws who told me I'd gotten fatter (they saw me when I was 5 weeks pregnant and didn't see me again until I was 5 and a half months pregnant so yeah I'd gotten bigger)

clairebear · Apr 29th, 2008, 12:15 PM

yeah i hate the oh u look big today comments and then others will say i was so much bigger then u are when i was pregnant as if to say what are u moaning about

missjess · Apr 29th, 2008, 12:16 PM

Sorry hun! People can be so rude!

Lots of my relative said nasty hurtful things to me too... They just don't think before they say it, do they? It made me so depressed and I cried so much. Like your not feeling shitty enough, they have to bring you down.

I saw a T-shirt saying:'' I just had a baby, what's your excuse? '' LOL

Try to hang in there girl

Serene123 · Apr 29th, 2008, 12:16 PM

I hate hearing "I was so much bigger than you when I was pregnant." My mum always says it and it bothers me so much. My baby is just fine in my small bump.

Samantha675 · Apr 29th, 2008, 12:23 PM

I have come to the conclusion that people just f*cking suck when it comes to comments about being pregnant.

Nikkinoonoo · Apr 29th, 2008, 12:25 PM

I got asked on friday if I was pregnant. I was always a chubby girl but looking 33 weeks preggers .. jeez! xXx

Apr 29th, 2008, 12:02 PM	#1
seattlemama Trying to conceive (TTC) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Washington Posts: 1,718	Things never to say to a pregnant woman I have been getting an assortment of annoying comments lately from everyone, even people I dont know! Dont they know that you feel fat as is?? Anyway, here are some... "Wow your face looks really swollen!" from my mom of all people, doesnt she think I know that! "Are you sure your not having twins?" from a guy at church, that made me feel like a giant whale. "Wow looks like your going to have a BIG baby!" from a woman checking me out at the grocery store, just a nicer way of saying Im enormous! "Jeez your HUGE!! Could you get any bigger?" from my insensative brother in law, I almost cried, but held it in. "Your stretch marks are disgusting!" from my brother, I guess I can forgive him, hes only 18... There have been many other comments but I wont share them all. What about you guys? Have you been getting these types of comments too??

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Apr 29th, 2008, 12:05 PM	#2
Serene123 Other Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 32,048	I wouldn't go downstairs earlier because all my sisters friends were here (and still are) and they have been smoking all day and she said "don't worry Vic they all know how fat you are already." Apart from that I get comments on how small my bump is. I don't think she'd call me fat if I actually was. Still hurt though.

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Apr 29th, 2008, 12:07 PM	#3
seattlemama Trying to conceive (TTC) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Washington Posts: 1,718	I hate how the word "fat" is somehow interchangeable with the word "pregnant" in sentences when your pregnant to everyone.

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Apr 29th, 2008, 12:08 PM	#4
Serene123 Other Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 32,048	Exactly! My sister informed me last week that when I'm not pregnant anymore she won't call me "fat," she'll call me "saggy." Umm, thanks sis!

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Apr 29th, 2008, 12:11 PM	#5
Vickie Mum (Mom) Administrator Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Toronto, ON Posts: 75,714	People are so insensitive. The only comments I've gotten are from my in-laws who told me I'd gotten fatter (they saw me when I was 5 weeks pregnant and didn't see me again until I was 5 and a half months pregnant so yeah I'd gotten bigger)

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Apr 29th, 2008, 12:15 PM	#6
clairebear Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: southwest uk Posts: 11,539	yeah i hate the oh u look big today comments and then others will say i was so much bigger then u are when i was pregnant as if to say what are u moaning about

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Apr 29th, 2008, 12:16 PM	#7
missjess Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Montreal Posts: 4,794	Sorry hun! People can be so rude! Lots of my relative said nasty hurtful things to me too... They just don't think before they say it, do they? It made me so depressed and I cried so much. Like your not feeling shitty enough, they have to bring you down. I saw a T-shirt saying:'' I just had a baby, what's your excuse? '' LOL Try to hang in there girl

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Apr 29th, 2008, 12:23 PM	#9
Samantha675 Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Austin Texas Posts: 8,123	I have come to the conclusion that people just f*cking suck when it comes to comments about being pregnant.

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Apr 29th, 2008, 12:25 PM	#10
Nikkinoonoo Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Middlesex Posts: 8,875	I got asked on friday if I was pregnant. I was always a chubby girl but looking 33 weeks preggers .. jeez! xXx

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