What do you do if your birthing partner lets you down? - Page 2

JennTheMomma · Mar 14th, 2010, 00:36 AM

If your DH starts to feel quesy just let him leave the room. Some men really can't handle the labor and birth, and it does make them feel bad. But you have to remember that we put a lot of pressure on men to be with us, and sometimes they just can't. My DH has needle phobia and doesn't like to see blood and all that. I thought he would faint and I was ok if he needed to leave. But luckily he was fine and watched the entire birth. Just have to take it minute by minute.

maybebaby3 · Mar 14th, 2010, 05:40 AM

can u have 2 people in the delivery room? i had my mum and OH. that way if 1 can't handle it hopefully the other can!

MrsGlitz · Mar 14th, 2010, 07:03 AM

I am hoping a little faith in my DH will go a long way. As someone else said, I will be asking him to stay away from the "business end" and even so the more squeamish bits don't come until they end do they? I am mostly worried about how he is going to handle my being in pain as he has found it quite hard dealing with the pain I am in due to SPD and gets upset on my bad days, bless him!

lynnikins · Mar 14th, 2010, 07:28 AM

as soon as they see the baby they wont be able to think about the squeamish bit and thats when it does get bloody and all that so no need to really worry in my book,

KamKol · Mar 14th, 2010, 14:44 PM

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Originally Posted by sabriena

I doubt my husband and mom both would let me down during the birth.

However! My sister's boyfriend at the time (father of the baby) did horribly in there with her. Thankfully my mom was with her or she would have been by herself. While she was in labor and all that he actually laid down and went to sleep. Not when she was sleeping or anything..but when she was actually contracting and in pain. Crazy. I guess the whole time he acted like he was horribly tired and didn't really do the things that he should have done. Of course now he sees the things he did were wrong..you just can't take that stuff back though! haha

Oh that sounds horrible! I can't believe someone could actually pretend to sleep through all of this!

KamKol · Mar 14th, 2010, 14:46 PM

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Originally Posted by maybebaby3

can u have 2 people in the delivery room? i had my mum and OH. that way if 1 can't handle it hopefully the other can!

I can have two people in the room but DH is a bit funny about having my mum in there with us aswel...he keeps telling me he's embarassed to be there alongside her and would prefer to be with me alone. My mum doesn't really mind - which is why I'm thinking maybe I'll take both but she can wait outside.

Mar 14th, 2010, 00:36 AM	#11
JennTheMomma Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Posts: 1,333	If your DH starts to feel quesy just let him leave the room. Some men really can't handle the labor and birth, and it does make them feel bad. But you have to remember that we put a lot of pressure on men to be with us, and sometimes they just can't. My DH has needle phobia and doesn't like to see blood and all that. I thought he would faint and I was ok if he needed to leave. But luckily he was fine and watched the entire birth. Just have to take it minute by minute.

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Mar 14th, 2010, 05:40 AM	#12
maybebaby3 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Gibraltar Posts: 6,286	can u have 2 people in the delivery room? i had my mum and OH. that way if 1 can't handle it hopefully the other can!

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Mar 14th, 2010, 07:03 AM	#13
MrsGlitz Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Bournemouth, Dorset Posts: 3,150	I am hoping a little faith in my DH will go a long way. As someone else said, I will be asking him to stay away from the "business end" and even so the more squeamish bits don't come until they end do they? I am mostly worried about how he is going to handle my being in pain as he has found it quite hard dealing with the pain I am in due to SPD and gets upset on my bad days, bless him!

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Mar 14th, 2010, 07:28 AM	#14
lynnikins Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Elite Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Chessington, Surrey Posts: 14,443	as soon as they see the baby they wont be able to think about the squeamish bit and thats when it does get bloody and all that so no need to really worry in my book,

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