OK I'm a bit worried.

Basically, me and my OH are living with his mum in a one bedroom bungalow because we're trying to get accomodation for ourselves but at the moment it's proving fruitless. So the living conditions are seriously cramped.

Me and my mum fell out last year and she threw me out before I got pregnant and my dad no longer lives in his own place, he lives with friends so can't stay with him.

My mum sent the fear of God through me tonight and I've not been able to shake it off since she said it, but she said that when the health visiter comes after the baby is born, she might phone social services to take the baby away because of the cramped living conditions which because of the three of us living here and the amount of stuff we have, it caused a damp problem in the really cold weather which the council came and rectified.

Is this the case? I am petrified of losing my baby and it's really really upset me.

Surely if the health visiter see's the living arrangements we have and she knows we're trying to get moved, she'll help us out by putting in a strong recommendation for us? Or am I living in cloud cuckoo land?

We are trying desperately to get moved ASAP but as of yet, nothing has happened and I'm now freaked out. I don't want to lose my baby. I'm not doing anything wrong. It's just we're trying to get moved, that's all it is.

Is my mum right?

Aww I doubt she is right. your doing the best you can

I'm so freaked out right now :'(

No, she's talking shite... "cramped" living conditions aren't a problem... squalid conditions would warrant a talking to but not removal of a baby from a loving family. Tbh, unless your baby is in danger of abuse or neglect, they'll only ever try to help.

Your mum sounds horrible...

good god no hun, your mum is completely wrong and I cant beleive why she would say that..if that was the case a lot of babies would go into care!

are you on the housing list?

If there was a problem regarding the cramped living conditions or damp etc then your HV would suggest a priority on the council housing list, not get SS involved and take your baby away.

What an awful thing for her to say to you, please dont fret about it, she's just exaggerating to try and make herself feel better over her own issues

Hun it is much more likely that if social services get involved (and that's a big if) then they will help you find somewhere more suitable by writing letters of recommendation to the council etc.
Seriously hun, don't worry yourself. I know social services are scary but they don't take children away unless they are at serious risk. And even then they f**k up and don't take children that should be placed elsewhere.
Try and relax chick. Easier said than done I know but I really don't think you have anything to worry about x

Thanks ladies! I'm just trying really hard to get housed and she knows this so I don't know if it was her really mean way of making sure we keep going and not back down.

Yeah we're on the housing list, we were put on the Rent Deposit Scheme, but NO ONE is taking DSS or anyone like that so we're getting nowhere.
I have been asked to phone up the housing officer for where we are now and speak to her but she's not in til Monday, so I don't know.

I just was sat thinking and suddenly burst into tears at the thought of my little boy being taken from me.

What a load of b*llocks! dont worry, me and my oh are living with my parents at the moment, my oh's parents have recently split and his mums moving to yorkshire, and his dads living at a relatives, so oh is stayng at ours. we literally handed in our housing application last week, but we are sleeping in a single bed (hard with me being pregnant lol), and our room is too small for a double + ct etc. like someone said before, if anything they'll probably help you find housing!xx

Ignore your mom. As long as it's a safe place for baby you are fine. Babies don't need that much room anyhow. My Ex MIL grew up in a 1 bedroom house (house had a bedroom, a bathroom, and a kitchen/livingroom attached space.. only 3 total rooms) with both her parents and her 3 sisters! I saw their old house once and the whole thing was the size of my living room. Didn't hurt her or her sisters any... in fact they are all the closest family I've ever met! They all get along really well and are the best of friends.