I agree with the statements above, they'd be more likely to help. Taking children from loving families is the absolute LAST thing they do.

Social Services purpose is to help neglected & abused children, not to bust up the families of loving parents (which you obviously are seeing as even the idea of losing your little one upset you so) who are doing their best but are struggling.

It was wrong of your mom to make you worry so...try to put it out of your mind & know that the fact that you love your little one will make everything work out

I agree with everyone else. They wouldnt get SS involved. They deal with abuse and neglect. The DSS would put you as a P1 which is priority one on the housing list. Which means you would basically be listed as an emergency and be at the top of the list (so to speak) for re-housing. Dont fret about it. What an awful thing for your own mother to say to you! Even if you dont get on!! x

sweety no, no one can or will want to take your baby away my baby is coming into 3 bed house with 4 other siblings, all the midwife is looking at is if whether you are feeling ok and that your baby is thriving weight wise and to make sure you re ok. i cannot believe your own mother would upset you that way xx

I am a HV in Canada...there needs to be a whole lot more going on in the home besides cramped living space to justify making a call to Child/Family Services...It's an empty threat...try not to worry about it.

Oh sweetheart what a horrible thing to say to you, even if it were meant with the best of intentions (and I'm struggling to see how) then you'd think she'd have actually looked in to whether it was true before saying it..

No, there would need to be a whole heap of things going on and children aren't just whisked away at a moment's notice, the aim is to keep families together so they'd work hard with a family in the first instance but living in cramped conditions isn't reason in itself to even consider it!

I haven't read all the replies, but I just wanted to say Stop Worrying *hugs*

Social services aren't just about ''taking children away'' they do all they can to help before doing that as a last resort. You aren't going to be putting your LO in danger in any way by living cramped.

If anything, the social will chase up housing and give you a hand.
Someone I know just had dealings with them... and it all got sorted out, but it was also a good thing because she and her 3 kids had been stuck in a 2bed flat and it was horrible, the social chased up housing and she has just got the keys to a 3bed semi

Just ignore you mum and keep on looking, something will come up.

It's worthwhile printing off a cv type thing and handing it into all the estate agents that deal with lettings, ie your circumstances and what you are looking for, it took me and OH well over a year to find somewhere that would accept dss and a dog!

I just wanted to mention, telling her how much she worried you would probably make her feel pretty happy since that was no doubt her intention, so I don't think that will result in making her feel guilty about what she said.

Conversely, you could always tell her, ''Oh, mom dearest, I was thinking about what you said the other day about contacting social services and I just wanted to tell you that I think it's a FABULOUS idea! I may even contact them myself cause they can help me get into another place sooner! Thanks Mom!''

LOL!! I wouldn't worry about it, and agreed with what all the other ladies said. You'll be ok!

lol! Minstermind!! ^^^^^ Love it!

Well, I'm finally convinced that all will be OK, I had a bad day of worrying loads and venting my frustrations out on facebook which eventually got me in trouble and I got told it wasn't the time or place to be doing such things which then made me feel guilty.

It was only because I told my dad what my mum had said and me and him ended up in some full scale argument, with him calling her every name under the sun because he hates her etc and I just felt like I was stuck in the middle being forced to choose and it wasn't fair so I ranted about it on facebook. *blush* and got told off by my best friends husband and another lady I have on my friends list. I deleted the rant and just said how I wish that facebook didn't have the status function available sometimes because I get in trouble for what I write when I don't think and then I seemed to have offended the woman, so I had to write an apology email to her.
People should know that when you're pregnant, you just get all irate more than usual and don't mean anything personally by it. These hormones have a lot to answer for lol!

Anyway, I've completely digressed. But yeah, I'll be speaking to my housing officer on monday and seeing what steps I can take now and explain what my mum said, how it affected me and what I've been told by you lovely ladies and say that something needs to be done regardless because either way, we need to be out of here, so I'll keep you posted on the outcome of that.

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Well, I'm really glad you feel better about it now! As for facebook, it's your page and if something you said offended people, they're welcome to ignore the post or ''hide you'' if they feel that strongly about it, LOL... not sure what you said and whatnot, but I do know that it's not their place or decision to comment on what is the best ''time and place'' to vent your thoughts. Not sure why but it kinda annoys me that they would do so. You shouldn't have to apologize for what you feel either.

lol, i wrote that that i wish that facebook didn't have a status function sometimes as i get into trouble for what i write and don't think things through before i say stuff etc, so i had a few comments saying "don't worry, we all go through things like that" and i was just saying that I seem to just rant and stuff for the most part all the time. The woman commented and kind of felt that I must have taken proper offence at what she'd written on my status before, which couldn't have been further from the truth, I had a think about it and realised that she was right and that I shouldn't rant all the time on facebook etc, and she added on her comment that she wasn't going to comment on my status's anymore to save me getting upset at whatever she wrote.
So I felt awful and wrote an email saying that I didn't mean for it to sound like I was being ungrateful or seem offended by what she wrote, I took it on board what she had said, I just get hot headed and before I know it, a huuuuuge rant is posted and my "dirty linen" is aired etc.