the only way you would get your baby taken off you is if you are proved to be an unfit parent your hv an social services will do everything to keep a family together an safe an happy befor they go removing children from their parents so really dont worry!! they will help you to get housed quicker by writing letters and things x so really dont panic your mother is talking out of her back side! when i had my son me an him were living in 1room at my mums but all my brothers an sisters were living there too (i am one of 5) an we had a 5bed house rooms were mostly single rooms there was barly space for me to have his cot in my room and my hv helped me no end to get moved asap cause there just wasnt enough space for us to be living there she was fantastic! i was just as worried as you are but she really did reasure me that everything was going to be fine and it was i was moved into a 1bed place to begin with because of the housing shortage in my area, but we did get a 2bed place when my son was coming up 2 so really dont worry you will be fine like i said you may get put into a 1bed to begin with but you will get somewhere and you will not loose your baby!

luv there is no way they will take your bab away, we was living with flies in our 2 bedroom flat and there was 5 of us, ( the flies got disturbed when council done work and not because we was dirty lol ) i had just had our baby and tbh the midwife and health visitor fought our corner they were brilliant, try and have a word with a health visitor or midwife, to put your mind at rest. good luck luv xxx

Ignore your mum hun it ws cramped when I lived at my mum and dads and the HV didnt bat an eyelid just hinted about us finding a house
xx

Agreed... what an awful thing to say!!! They wont take the baby away... plus i dont think the baby can recognise its a little cramped anyway! So whats the harm? Dont worry, i dont think for one minute they would do that

Thank you all so much. I was so scared. I don't know why my mum said what she said, was it to keep me motivated to not give up finding somewhere? Was it to be mean? I don't know, but I know one things for certain, my maternal instinct is there and the love I feel for my son is shockingly strong. Didn't realise how strong til tonight. I knew I loved him, but didn't know just how much until the thought of him being taken off me sent the fear through me.

Thanks again for all your lovely replies xxxx

i'm sure that your mum is wrong. there's plenty of people who live in cramped conditions and bring up happy healthy babies. social services dont just take a baby away from his/her mum without just cause and your situation most certainly does not sound like just cause!

I agree with the others.

We are in a studio flat and on the housing list and rent deposit scheme. Unfortunately we can't get the deposit from the council until I am term ie 37 weeks! I know a lot of
places don't accept DSS but I would have thought if it is just the deposit it wouldn't have mattered? Also, we will be applying for HB but you can get it paid to your account so I don't think a LL would need to know?

once you had your baby the council can help rehome you, they won't take your baby cause you don't have a lot of space!!

Your mum is talking complete and utter bollocks.... I have no idea why she said that but thats a pretty messed up way of trying to motivate someone!

Don't worry about it you wont lose your baby boy, soon as bubs is born you can be boosted up the housing list, the HV can put pressure on to boost you up more as can your doctor if the conditions are cramped and there is any problems with mould. IF social services were called under the "children in need" kind of thing, thats not a reflection on you as a parent it would be because they have access to housing, funds etc... to get you moved quickly. SS have a duty to house anyone under 18

Chin up sweetie! Its tough but it will all come right in the end! xx

I wa sin foster care, moved there at 15 and it took 4 years of living with my mum on my own and her attacking me and trying to kill herself for them to take her away. Rather than taking your baby away, social services will fight to get you a home! Don't fret, they haven't got the placements for babys, nor will they ever take a baby from it's mummy or daddy without absolutely every need to, which means if they're abused or not fed or not clean.

Get down the council and fight for a home! You deserve one x