slightly OT as we are still pregnant but how do you feel about your inlaws having bab

Lexi mummy · Mar 8th, 2010, 07:18 AM

so how do you feel about your inlaws having baby when he/she is born? will you let them stay over there etc?

im just curious how everyone else feels about this. i dont really like my MIL and FIL very much i have to be honest, they have awful habits and their house is dirty. MIL has also behaved in a really digusting way since my daughter died and my DH really cant stand her, he doesnt like his mum at all. i wont be letting baby stay round theirs, i think i will even be funny about them looking after baby during day or if we go out. i would probably put baby to bed and then ask them to come round. i know i sound like a cow but i do have my reasons which DH agrees with me about.

however i completely trust my mum to have LO and i know she will do all the things i want her to do not what she thinks is best. i would even trust her to have LO over night.

how do you all feel xx

jolou · Mar 8th, 2010, 07:21 AM

i can totally see why u wouldnt want your MIL having bubs overnight or even for the day.

i wouldnt have a problem with my mil having him overnight , obv not straight away but once he is into a routine etc same goes for my mum, altho my mum wouldnt really be able to due to her MS

Celesse · Mar 8th, 2010, 07:22 AM

I don't really want anyone to have her while she is small. I don't have any particular problem with either set of grandparents having the baby as long as they are sensible. I am a little more worried about my in-laws and FIL drinking and would not allow baby to be around there if he was drinking.

You sound like there is an actual problem with your in-laws which means they are not suitable to care for a child.

Lexi mummy · Mar 8th, 2010, 07:27 AM

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Originally Posted by Celesse

I don't really want anyone to have her while she is small. I don't have any particular problem with either set of grandparents having the baby as long as they are sensible. I am a little more worried about my in-laws and FIL drinking and would not allow baby to be around there if he was drinking.

You sound like there is an actual problem with your in-laws which means they are not suitable to care for a child.

my inlaws just do not listen and think they know best all the time which angers me because they dont know much. plus FIL used to actually tie his kids down to the bed with their reigns when they were toddlers so they wouldnt get up in the night which i think is one of the most disgusting things i have ever heard. i told him i was appauled by that and he just smirked at me. so its things like that which stop me wanting them near my kids full stop but i cant be that harsh im afraid

they are also heavily religious which is no problem to me but they try to be clever and both me n dh know once baby is bigger they would try to take her to their meetings etc and we are not bringing her up with any religion however they do try to get us to join all the time x

RainbowDrop_x · Mar 8th, 2010, 07:27 AM

Wouldn't have a problem with inlaw's having LO at all.. Not overnight straight away I won't be letting LO out of my sight overnight for atleast 6 months and that includes my parents aswell lol.. I'm already slightly overprotective.. But nope not a problem at all. I'd trust my inlaw's with my life and the life of my child

Celesse · Mar 8th, 2010, 07:30 AM

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Originally Posted by Celesse

I don't really want anyone to have her while she is small. I don't have any particular problem with either set of grandparents having the baby as long as they are sensible. I am a little more worried about my in-laws and FIL drinking and would not allow baby to be around there if he was drinking.

You sound like there is an actual problem with your in-laws which means they are not suitable to care for a child.

my inlaws just do not listen and think they know best all the time which angers me because they dont know much. plus FIL used to actually tie his kids down to the bed with their reigns when they were toddlers so they wouldnt get up in the night which i think is one of the most disgusting things i have ever heard. i told him i was appauled by that and he just smirked at me. so its things like that which stop me wanting them near my kids full stop but i cant be that harsh im afraid

they are also heavily religious which is no problem to me but they try to be clever and both me n dh know once baby is bigger they would try to take her to their meetings etc and we are not bringing her up with any religion however they do try to get us to join all the time x

If this is the case then I wouldn't allow them any unsupervised contact with the child. Restraining a child in that way could be seen as a form of physical abuse.

Missy86 · Mar 8th, 2010, 07:31 AM

Sorry my Post went a bit wrong but I dont want anyone looking after Rhys till he is older

Lexi mummy · Mar 8th, 2010, 07:32 AM

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Originally Posted by Celesse

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Originally Posted by Lexi mummy

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Originally Posted by Celesse

I don't really want anyone to have her while she is small. I don't have any particular problem with either set of grandparents having the baby as long as they are sensible. I am a little more worried about my in-laws and FIL drinking and would not allow baby to be around there if he was drinking.

You sound like there is an actual problem with your in-laws which means they are not suitable to care for a child.

my inlaws just do not listen and think they know best all the time which angers me because they dont know much. plus FIL used to actually tie his kids down to the bed with their reigns when they were toddlers so they wouldnt get up in the night which i think is one of the most disgusting things i have ever heard. i told him i was appauled by that and he just smirked at me. so its things like that which stop me wanting them near my kids full stop but i cant be that harsh im afraid

they are also heavily religious which is no problem to me but they try to be clever and both me n dh know once baby is bigger they would try to take her to their meetings etc and we are not bringing her up with any religion however they do try to get us to join all the time x

If this is the case then I wouldn't allow them any unsupervised contact with the child. Restraining a child in that way could be seen as a form of physical abuse.

i completely agree with you 100% hun x

mamato2more · Mar 8th, 2010, 07:33 AM

Not while they are little..No way..That's my baby!

girl friday · Mar 8th, 2010, 07:33 AM

I wouln't have LO staying overnight anytime soon with either set of parents. Where MIL is concerned, she smokes but is trying to give up. Until I KNOW that she has given up then having LO for us (even at ours) is out of the question.

We don't smoke and ours is a no smoking house, in the past MIL would smoke outside but even then she would still smell of smoke when she came back in. I don't want her picking LO up when the toxins are still on her!

Mar 8th, 2010, 07:18 AM	#1
Lexi mummy Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Norwich, UK Posts: 1,118	slightly OT as we are still pregnant but how do you feel about your inlaws having bab so how do you feel about your inlaws having baby when he/she is born? will you let them stay over there etc? im just curious how everyone else feels about this. i dont really like my MIL and FIL very much i have to be honest, they have awful habits and their house is dirty. MIL has also behaved in a really digusting way since my daughter died and my DH really cant stand her, he doesnt like his mum at all. i wont be letting baby stay round theirs, i think i will even be funny about them looking after baby during day or if we go out. i would probably put baby to bed and then ask them to come round. i know i sound like a cow but i do have my reasons which DH agrees with me about. however i completely trust my mum to have LO and i know she will do all the things i want her to do not what she thinks is best. i would even trust her to have LO over night. how do you all feel xx

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jolou Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Prestatyn, North wales Posts: 1,429	i can totally see why u wouldnt want your MIL having bubs overnight or even for the day. i wouldnt have a problem with my mil having him overnight , obv not straight away but once he is into a routine etc same goes for my mum, altho my mum wouldnt really be able to due to her MS

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Celesse Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: North East UK Posts: 5,498	I don't really want anyone to have her while she is small. I don't have any particular problem with either set of grandparents having the baby as long as they are sensible. I am a little more worried about my in-laws and FIL drinking and would not allow baby to be around there if he was drinking. You sound like there is an actual problem with your in-laws which means they are not suitable to care for a child.

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RainbowDrop_x Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: United Kingdom Posts: 7,736	Wouldn't have a problem with inlaw's having LO at all.. Not overnight straight away I won't be letting LO out of my sight overnight for atleast 6 months and that includes my parents aswell lol.. I'm already slightly overprotective.. But nope not a problem at all. I'd trust my inlaw's with my life and the life of my child

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Missy86 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 6,435	Mothers Day Question Sorry my Post went a bit wrong but I dont want anyone looking after Rhys till he is older

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mamato2more Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Colorado Springs, Co, USA Posts: 2,307	Not while they are little..No way..That's my baby!

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girl friday AutoSignup (SAAB) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 687	I wouln't have LO staying overnight anytime soon with either set of parents. Where MIL is concerned, she smokes but is trying to give up. Until I KNOW that she has given up then having LO for us (even at ours) is out of the question. We don't smoke and ours is a no smoking house, in the past MIL would smoke outside but even then she would still smell of smoke when she came back in. I don't want her picking LO up when the toxins are still on her!

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