gotta love the mother in law - not!

mummydee · Mar 8th, 2010, 06:31 AM

so I ring the MIL this morning to tell her that mw appt went really well, no signs of pre-eclampsia (as I had with DD) etc etc...

and then she goes off on a tangent, telling me for the upteenth time about how when she was pregnant with her middle son he got into distress , and how they left a load of placenta in her and she got septicemia and how they both almost died...

sorry for the overshare, but WHAT ON EARTH possesses her to tell me this stuff when I had a traumatic birth with DD 3yrs ago and I am due to give birth in THREE WEEKS!

Seriously, people are STUPID!

DueMarch2nd · Mar 8th, 2010, 06:34 AM

lynnikins · Mar 8th, 2010, 06:34 AM

have you thought to just snap back that the medical system has improved hunderds of times over since then and that your doctors know what they are doing and to keep the hole in her face shut?
lol my charming MIL didnt even tell me she went 2wks over with both her sons till after ds was born

lisa9999 · Mar 8th, 2010, 06:35 AM

Agreed that some people are stupid!
I've had more than my fair share of people's birth stories, repeated to me umpteen times.
Really gets on my nerves so I know how you feel.
Take no notice - easier said than done though I know!!
x

mummydee · Mar 8th, 2010, 06:38 AM

haha thanks girls - luckily I know to ignore the daft old bat but I really feel for some people who get seriously affected by idiots comments!

Celesse · Mar 8th, 2010, 06:54 AM

She is probably scared that history will repeat itself and feels that by sharing she can prevent this from happening. Its selfish and clearly fulfils her own need to resolve past issues, but she probably is incapable of seeing it this way.

better2gether · Mar 8th, 2010, 10:10 AM

People ARE stupid, plain and simple. She obviously doesn't have a filter and just says what she wants to say without thinking. If she is going to do that for the rest of your appointments, I would just have your OH call her instead and he can deal with that! Don't let her stress you!

curlykate · Mar 8th, 2010, 10:19 AM

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Originally Posted by mummydee

so I ring the MIL this morning to tell her that mw appt went really well, no signs of pre-eclampsia (as I had with DD) etc etc...

and then she goes off on a tangent, telling me for the upteenth time about how when she was pregnant with her middle son he got into distress , and how they left a load of placenta in her and she got septicemia and how they both almost died...

sorry for the overshare, but WHAT ON EARTH possesses her to tell me this stuff when I had a traumatic birth with DD 3yrs ago and I am due to give birth in THREE WEEKS!

Seriously, people are STUPID!

At least your MIL waits until you call her to ask about your MW appointments! I'm usually still AT the appointment when she starts calling, wanting to know how it went! And she wants to know everything before my own mother knows! I've taken to ignoring the phone, and OH answers it and talks to her. Then afterwards, I tell him how the appointment really went (all the little extras, other than "all is well") so he doesn't get a chance to tell her first!

Childish, I know. But she drives me nuts!
Oh, and she's a nurse too...so I've heard my fair share of birthing stories, despite the fact that she's never worked on a maternity ward.... but whatever. I just ignore her.

sallyanne · Mar 8th, 2010, 10:20 AM

Mine keeps telling me I will only need gas and air. How on earth will my MIL know what I will and will not need. She also likes to tell me I am not eating for two so do not need loads. Then I get told I should not buy baby clothes yet as it is to early. I can go on and on about her. I have learnt to switch off and do my own thing..lol I am not looking forward to what she will be like once LO is born. As she keeps saying she knows best. GRRRRRR

tonyamanda · Mar 8th, 2010, 18:00 PM

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Originally Posted by curlykate

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Originally Posted by mummydee

so I ring the MIL this morning to tell her that mw appt went really well, no signs of pre-eclampsia (as I had with DD) etc etc...

and then she goes off on a tangent, telling me for the upteenth time about how when she was pregnant with her middle son he got into distress , and how they left a load of placenta in her and she got septicemia and how they both almost died...

sorry for the overshare, but WHAT ON EARTH possesses her to tell me this stuff when I had a traumatic birth with DD 3yrs ago and I am due to give birth in THREE WEEKS!

Seriously, people are STUPID!

At least your MIL waits until you call her to ask about your MW appointments! I'm usually still AT the appointment when she starts calling, wanting to know how it went! And she wants to know everything before my own mother knows! I've taken to ignoring the phone, and OH answers it and talks to her. Then afterwards, I tell him how the appointment really went (all the little extras, other than "all is well") so he doesn't get a chance to tell her first!

Childish, I know. But she drives me nuts!
Oh, and she's a nurse too...so I've heard my fair share of birthing stories, despite the fact that she's never worked on a maternity ward.... but whatever. I just ignore her.

You just summed up my mother in law.. she even rings if its a rainy day cause she wants to know if the kids are ok.. (no mother in law the kids are dead)

Mar 8th, 2010, 06:31 AM	#1
mummydee Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Kent, UK Posts: 1,159	gotta love the mother in law - not! so I ring the MIL this morning to tell her that mw appt went really well, no signs of pre-eclampsia (as I had with DD) etc etc... and then she goes off on a tangent, telling me for the upteenth time about how when she was pregnant with her middle son he got into distress , and how they left a load of placenta in her and she got septicemia and how they both almost died... sorry for the overshare, but WHAT ON EARTH possesses her to tell me this stuff when I had a traumatic birth with DD 3yrs ago and I am due to give birth in THREE WEEKS! Seriously, people are STUPID!

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lynnikins Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Elite Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Chessington, Surrey Posts: 14,443	have you thought to just snap back that the medical system has improved hunderds of times over since then and that your doctors know what they are doing and to keep the hole in her face shut? lol my charming MIL didnt even tell me she went 2wks over with both her sons till after ds was born

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Mar 8th, 2010, 06:35 AM	#4
lisa9999 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 2,175	Agreed that some people are stupid! I've had more than my fair share of people's birth stories, repeated to me umpteen times. Really gets on my nerves so I know how you feel. Take no notice - easier said than done though I know!! x

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mummydee Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Kent, UK Posts: 1,159	haha thanks girls - luckily I know to ignore the daft old bat but I really feel for some people who get seriously affected by idiots comments!

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Celesse Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: North East UK Posts: 5,498	She is probably scared that history will repeat itself and feels that by sharing she can prevent this from happening. Its selfish and clearly fulfils her own need to resolve past issues, but she probably is incapable of seeing it this way.

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better2gether Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: USA Posts: 1,000	People ARE stupid, plain and simple. She obviously doesn't have a filter and just says what she wants to say without thinking. If she is going to do that for the rest of your appointments, I would just have your OH call her instead and he can deal with that! Don't let her stress you!

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sallyanne Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: East Midlands Posts: 303	Mine keeps telling me I will only need gas and air. How on earth will my MIL know what I will and will not need. She also likes to tell me I am not eating for two so do not need loads. Then I get told I should not buy baby clothes yet as it is to early. I can go on and on about her. I have learnt to switch off and do my own thing..lol I am not looking forward to what she will be like once LO is born. As she keeps saying she knows best. GRRRRRR

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